Well I tried to send you a PM, but you do not have a profile set up. So I am going to have to post it.
I would be happy to help you out here. I live in Dakota Cty. Our BM and now our SM are just as crazy as yours with their reasoning. You can't very well serve her with any motion papers for contempt either if you don't know her address. I successfully won my contempt case on my ex for this very same reason. I also was never allowed the insurance cards also quoted in Appendix A. His lawyer told him he was an idiot...
Anyway, I have a subscription to a background check site and I could look it up for you. If the move is fairly recent, it probably won't show up, but I am very good at digging up information.
As far as holding her address for ransom over what your last name is, this may be easier than you think. Just give her a fake one...your getting married anyway.
My ex's new wife is an emailer, texter, and a voicemail leaver. I've changed my phone 5 times. I feel your pain.
I just looked in my phone book... who would you like to be....Crockpot Anderson, Crockpot Johnson, Crockpot Thompson, or Crockpot Smith? There is about 400 of each one of those in the book!
Let me know if I can help! Wouldn't it be nice if you showed up on her doorstep and dropped something off for the kids?
Oh, for some reason I thought he wanted to sign off. Does he pay child support? If he does, he is financially supporting her he just wishes not to exercise his visitation, therefore you will not be granted the termination and adoption unless he agrees.
If he does not pay Child support and he does not see her, then it would be the "involuntary Termination" and the motion to adopt right after. I believe you file this with the juvenile court. You can call the clerk to get that information.
I don't see how this is family court except for the adoption part. I would call and ask, because I am not real sure. Check the adoption form, it should tell you where you need to serve it and file it in the directions.
I have had to use a few parenting time expeditors and they were worthless...just to help you I will give you the names of the truly worthless ones:
BAD: Mind made up in first 5 minutes
Glenda Guthrie Baldwin Attorney at Law 8404 134th Street Court Apple Valley, MN 55124 952-953-9710
BAD: Took 1400.00 from us combined and didn't do ANYTHING. Listened to both of us over a course of a month, ate up a 700.00 retainer for each of us, and said she couldn't help us we needed to motion the court...totally a scam artist. We were actually so pissed off about the money we spent on this lady that we agreed (that is in "together") to get rid of her!
Joyce Grannis Attorney at Law 412 Southview Blvd, #100 South St. Paul, MN 55075 651-455-1661
BAD: Total idiot..seriously run or motion to object to this guy.
David Jaehne, 60 East Marie #109, West St. Paul , MN 55118 Phone: 651-457-2827 Fax: 651-457-9887
GOOD: AWESOME, knows his job and is fair.
Merlyn L. Meinerts Attorney at Law 350 West Burnsville Parkway Suite 525 Burnsville, MN 55337 952-736-1843
THE BEST EVER: Kinda spendy but I would pick him anyday to do a battle for me and I actually used him as an attorney later on a separate issue..
Michael E. Molenda Attorney at Law 7300 West 147th Street Suite 600 Apple Valley, MN 55124 952-432-3136
Good Luck. These people can work in Dakota, Scott and Goodhue Counties.
I too have a beef with this new law. My worker has taken it upon herself to pick and choose what she determines the rules to be. I am not sure how I would end up if we used both our incomes. Honestly, I did the calculation on the DHS website and I came out with more....but I don't know all the little hidden things they take out, put in. Etc..
Have you calculated yours? My understanding is, if you file your own modification according to the law, they have to imput the new guidelines. Anyone just newly gettting a divorce or applying for CS, the law also applies.