Hi there,
I'm here to offer the other side. No one responding knows your particular situation but I've noticed the responses are pretty one sided. I too have a four year old daughter. She has an extremely close relationship with both her father and me. She adores him. However, I will not force her to go to her fathers when she truly does not want to. He has accused me of coaching her, but this is not the case. I ALWAYS make sure she TRULY does not want to go. I encourage her to go. But she knows her needs better than I do. It's not often that she won't go but when she doesn't want to, there is always something more to it. It could just be something as simple as feeling like we have not had enough time together and she misses me. She's only 4. Her emotional security is the most important thing to me. If she is not ready for regular overnights then she is not ready. This is a BIG deal to young children.
So, if you have a strong relationship with your child, and SHE is saying she doesn't want to stay over or come, please do not immediately jump to PAS. She may just be expressing her needs and it's our job as parents to respect our childs needs.
I'm here to offer the other side. No one responding knows your particular situation but I've noticed the responses are pretty one sided. I too have a four year old daughter. She has an extremely close relationship with both her father and me. She adores him. However, I will not force her to go to her fathers when she truly does not want to. He has accused me of coaching her, but this is not the case. I ALWAYS make sure she TRULY does not want to go. I encourage her to go. But she knows her needs better than I do. It's not often that she won't go but when she doesn't want to, there is always something more to it. It could just be something as simple as feeling like we have not had enough time together and she misses me. She's only 4. Her emotional security is the most important thing to me. If she is not ready for regular overnights then she is not ready. This is a BIG deal to young children.
So, if you have a strong relationship with your child, and SHE is saying she doesn't want to stay over or come, please do not immediately jump to PAS. She may just be expressing her needs and it's our job as parents to respect our childs needs.