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It was an agreement between us and his attorney drew up the papers.  The papers say that the parties agree that the father should be the " Primary Custodian" of the minor child with the mother having reasonable visitation and liberal phone contact.  If you ask me the order is very vague.  Any opinions on what that means.  I am sitting here waiting on a money gram to get to walmart so i can go pick it up and head my rear to carter county oklahoma which is 300 miles away to file these papers in the same court.  So i will take anyones opinions on what that means while i wait

Ok guys im gonna lay it out quickly for you.  I havent been found unfit.  I had custody of our son until 2005.  I got into a slump then and DHS got involved.  My youngest 2 kids went to live with my sister and I volunteered for my 11 year old to go live with his father whom he had only seen about 10 times his whole life.  I got my act together ( I had to go into some severe depression counseling ) and got the mess straightened out and got my other 2 kids back etc and have been fine ever since.  As soon as my son went to live with his father his father took off to work in iraq as a civilian for 6 months and left our son there with his new wife.  My ex has another ex wife and child that he hasnt seen in 5 years.  This is the woman he left me for.  He left her for his new wife.  Hes not very stable.  I did have a question thought.  According to the travel department that issues passports, the parent has to have sole custody of the child.  If I have liberal visitation and liberal telephone rights does that still make him have sole custody?  I thought sole custody meant that the other parent had NO rights?

my sisiter has done all of the research and no its not legal for the grandmother to have done what she did.  in the state of oklahoma a power of attorney doesn't over ride parental rights.  but still the police will do nothing.  i found out today that they do have a passport for him.  and at the end of the school year the grandmother is taking him to germany.  the state department of travel is the first place i contacted.  and they said that since the father is the custodial parent then he can take him but according to oklahoma state law he has to give me a 60 day written notice to move our son and he hasn't done so. 

In May of 2008 my son came to stay with me for my summer visitation.  In June his father (custodial parent) called to say that he was moving to Germany. (His new wife is in the Air Force).  He gave our son the choice of what he wanted to do.  He said he wanted to stay with me.  So it was agreed between us.  His father said he would get the papers drawn up etc.  Well he went to Germany without doing so.  In February after they got settled in Germany he tried to call me.  The reason I know that is because they got ahold of my sister and she told them she would relay the message.  2 days later a police officer in the town I live in Beaver, Ok knocks on my front door around 1:00 int he afternoon and tells me that my sons grandmother (lives in claremore) came to the school with a faxed power of attorney from my childs father and removed the child from school.  Since then I havent been able to contact my child, his father, his grandmother NOTHING!.  I was told by someone who knows them that they have already obtained a passport and plan on removing him when school is over.  I have reasonable visitation and liberal phone contact according to our decree.  But I am not allowed to talk to him nor see him.  My mother passed away last thursday and i called every number possible with no response trying to get ahold of him.  Finally I tracked down the school hes enrolled in and they were rude and hateful so I called the superintendant and he was shocked at all of this and said the grandmother has no rights enrolling him in school etc.  I have no money for a lawyer and legal aid says they cant help me.  People have to me to just go get my child but the Beaver police say I will be arrested if I do.  the police in Claremore say they will go get him if the Beaver Police will call them and tell them to.  Any advice?