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From the Wall Street Journal
By          ( S. WANG (            
Conventionalwisdom holds that two parents are better than one. Scientists are nowfinding that growing up without a father actually changes the way yourbrain develops.
German biologist Anna Katharina Braun and others are conductingresearch on animals that are typically raised by two parents, in thehopes of better understanding the impact on humans of being raised by asingle parent. Dr. Braun's work focuses on degus, small rodents relatedto guinea pigs and chinchillas, because mother and father degusnaturally raise their babies together.

  Matt Collins 

Whendeprived of their father, the degu pups exhibit both short- andlong-term changes in nerve-cell growth in different regions of thebrain. Dr. Braun, director of the Institute of Biology at Otto vonGuericke University in Magdeburg, and her colleagues are also lookingat how these physical changes affect offspring behavior.
Their preliminary analysis indicates that fatherless degu pupsexhibit more aggressive and impulsive behavior than pups raised by twoparents.
In a study the researchers presented at the Society for Neurosciencemeeting in Chicago earlier this month and recently published in thejournal Neuroscience, half the degus were raised with two parents,while the others were raised by a single mother, the father having beenremoved from the cage one day after the birth of his offspring.
Dr. Braun and her colleagues found that in the two-parent families,the degu mothers and fathers cared for their pups in similar ways,including sleeping next to or crouching over them, licking and groomingthem, and playing with them. The fathers even exhibited a"nursing-type" position.
When the mother was a single parent, the frequency of herinteractions with her pups didn't change much, which means that thosepups experienced significantly less touching and interaction than thosewith two parents.
The researchers then looked at the neurons—cells that send andreceive messages between the brain and the body—of some pups at day 21,around the time they were weaned from their mothers, and others at day90, which is considered adulthood for the species.
Neurons have branches, known as dendrites, that conduct electricalsignals received from other nerve cells to the body, or trunk, of theneuron. The leaves of the dendrites are protrusions called dendriticspines that receive messages and serve as the contact between neurons.
Dr. Braun's group found that at 21 days, the fatherless animals hadless dense dendritic spines compared to animals raised by both parents,though they "caught up" by day 90. However, the length of some types ofdendrites was significantly shorter in some parts of the brain, even inadulthood, in fatherless animals.
"It just shows that parents are leaving footprints on the brain of their kids," says Dr. Braun, 54 years old.
The neuronal differences were observed in a part of the brain calledthe amygdala, which is related to emotional responses and fear, and theorbitofrontal cortex, or OFC, the brain's decision-making center.
'A Horse Without a Rider'
The balance between these twobrain parts is critical to normal emotional and cognitive functioning,according to Dr. Braun. If the OFC isn't active, the amygdala "goescrazy, like a horse without a rider," she says. In the case of thefatherless pups, there were fewer dendritic spines in the OFC, whilethe dendrite trees in the amygdala grew more and longer branches.
A preliminary analysis of the degus' behavior showed that fatherlessanimals seemed to have a lack of impulse control, Dr. Braun says. And,when they played with siblings, they engaged in more play-fighting oraggressive behavior.
In a separate study in Dr. Braun's lab conducted by post-doctoralresearcher Joerg Bock, degu pups were removed from their caregivers forone hour a day. Just this small amount of stress leads the pups toexhibit more hyperactive behaviors and less focused attention, comparedto those who aren't separated, Dr. Braun says. They also exhibitchanges in their brain.
The basic wiring between the brain regions in the degus is the sameas in humans, and the nerve cells are identical in their function. "Soon that level we can assume that what happens in the animal's brainwhen it's raised in an impoverished environment ... should be verysimilar to what happens in our children's brain," Dr. Braun says.
Other researchers, such as Xia Zhang, a senior scientist at theUniversity of Ottawa Institute of Mental Health Research, and hiscolleagues in China, have observed different consequences using voles,mouselike rodents that also naturally co-parent. (Fewer than 10% ofspecies raise their offspring with two parents.)
Voles deprived of their fathers—either from birth or later on inchildhood—exhibited more anxious behaviors and were less social,spending less time engaging with stranger voles that were placed intheir cage, according to a study by Dr. Zhang and his colleagues thatwas published in July in the journal Behavioral Processes.
Of course, the frontal cortex—where thinking and decision-makingtake place—is more complex in humans than it is in other animals. Thus,says Dr. Braun, it is important to be "really careful" aboutextrapolating the recent findings to human populations.
"The minute you get into stuff with extensive social andenvironmental components, the social differences between humans andanimals are massive," says Simon Chapple, a senior economist in thesocial policy division of the Organization for Economic Cooperation andDevelopment, the 30-country grouping of the world's largest economies.
It remains an "open verdict" whether single parenthood causes thesebad outcomes, or is merely associated with them, says Dr. Chapple.
Risk of Delinquency
Still, the prevalence of single-parenthouseholds has researchers looking at possible consequences forchildren. An OECD report found that just 57% of children in the with both parents, among the lowest percentages of the world'srichest nations.
The report, which sparked some controversy when it was released inSeptember, found that children in single-parent households have anincreased risk of delinquency and attention deficit hyperactivitydisorder, or ADHD, as well as poorer scholastic performance.
The OECD also analyzed data from 122 separate studies and found thatthere was variability in the negative effects on children of living ina single-parent home; on average, the OECD found, the magnitude of theimpact was relatively small. On a standardized intelligence test with amedian score of 100 points, for example, a child in a single-parentfamily would be about 3.5 points worse off than a similar child in atwo-parent family, according to Dr. Chapple, who co-wrote the report.
Dr. Braun's goal for future research is to figure out whether degupups' brains can be rewired by introducing a substitute caregiver, suchas a grandmother, or whether other social and emotional enrichment canhelp "repair" the fatherless pups, she says. Human children may be sentto day care, for instance, which can help them form stable friendshipswith their peers and other adults.
The bottom line, says Dr. Braun, is that parents need to fuel theirchildren's brains with talk, touch and sensitive stimulation thatinvolves give and take.
Parents, she says, "are the sculptors of their children's brains."
Father's Issues / Just wondering....
Feb 12, 2009, 04:59:17 PM
Hi Oldtimers!

Back with good news and some concerns....

After the ex dropped our son on my doorstep and told him he would never see her again, I kinda made her agree to EOW (she didn't care to see him at all anymore). Now he has lived with us for the last 20 months, and been with her EOW.
Of course, she refused to put anything in writing, so we still have a custody order for every other week.
She doesn't contribute a penny to his educational or sports expenses (refused to do so in writing this week).

After many arguments during his weekends with her and her telling him that he didn't have to come to her if he doesn't want to, our son (13) called her 2 weeks ago and told her he wasn't coming. After trying to guilt him for almost 45 minutes (including the usual yelling and screaming) she told him she doesn't want him in her home until he wants to come to her. So he didn't go.
This week I sent her an email asking her to confirm this (we only communicate via email), to which I got a snibby reply that he's just growing up, testing the waters seeing what he can get away with.

Today he called her again, and told her he doesn't want to come this weekend either. She was very kind to him (which was a big shock), and told him that if he didn't want to come, she didn't care that he wouldn't be there, that she loved him, and then hung up.

I know we're skating on thin ice here; she could (and would in a heartbeat) claim that I'm keeping him from her. However, his own statements will confirm to anyone who will listen that he does NOT want to see her, and that I encourage him continuously to be respectful to his mother and attempt to have a good relationship with her.
Also, she doesn't seem to want to go that route. I believe she would have contacted me, requesting me to bring him to her (which I would have done), but no such thing.

Any thoughts? (You oldtimers know what a nutcase I'm dealing with...)

Dear Socrateaser / To report or not to report?
Mar 16, 2007, 08:06:17 AM

My ex and I have shared physical custody of our 11 year old son (week-to-week), I have sole legal.

My son has for the longest time been telling us that his mother hits him on a regular basis. Knowing that he tends to dramatize these issues, and there not being any marks on him, we have not pursued that issue.

He also tells us on a daily basis that he can't wait until he's 14, so he can come live with us full time.

Lately however, he tells us about her hitting him with a closed fist (still no marks), and last week he told us she had pushed him to the ground and kicked him - still no marks.

His story shows an increasing violence, and hitting with closed fist and kicking is undeniably defined as abuse (rightfully so).

My current wife, being an LPC, is legally required to report any and all suspicion of abuse. By not acting on his stories, she is violating protocol and at risk of losing her license - should anyone find out.

1) Do you believe she should report his stories to CPS?

2) Would it be better to contact the school counselor and ask him/her to talk to our son?

3) How do we go about either option without running the risk of being accused of coaching him - as far as you can coach a strong-willed 11 year old?

Thank you for your time.


Whenever I talk to my son on the phone, his mother is always listening in. A few minutes later she then calls me to "discuss" which parts of my conversation with him she does not like. Is she allowed to do this? GA is a one-party state.

Thank you.

Dear Soc,

Brief history: I (father) have sole legal, permanent residency, and shared physical on a week-to-week basis.

Knowingly against my will, the mother has bought an "air-soft gun" for our 10 year old son, and intends to let him play with it outside, unsupervised.
The package said the gun is only for age groups 16+.
I believe these guns are dangerous (numerous reports of eye/ear loss and even death), and do not want my son playing with them.

1) Is there a way I can prevent her from letting him play with this "toy"?

2) IF he hurts someone with this gun, and a civil suit is filed, who will be financially responsible?

3) IF he hurts someone, what are the chances he will be charged with Assault with a (deadly) weapon, and illegal possession of a firearm? (just Googling "Air-soft gun danger" shows cases where charges were filed)

4) Will these (felony) charges affect his greencard renewal, or even cause deportation?

5) Will a letter from me to her, stating I do not allow allow him to play nor condone him playing with them when out of my control, keep me scott-free if anything happens?

Thank you!

Dear Socrateaser / Moving closer
Oct 25, 2005, 04:42:18 AM
Dear Soc,

I have sole legal, shared physical (week on/week off), and permanent residence.

Ex moved 1 hr. away several years ago, she drives our child to school in my district. Child is in 4th grade now.

I plan on moving halfway CLOSER to her, and consider leaving my son in his current school (OK'd by Super Intendent), or move him to my new school district for 5th grade, last year of elementary school. New school would be only 1/2 the drive for her.

1) From a point of view of stability, which do you recommend? (She will b*tch about either one)

2) IF she decides to take us back to court (with only that), does she stand a chance?

Dear Socrateaser / Hypothetical question
Sep 13, 2005, 01:23:51 PM
Dear Soc,

Hypothetical situation (just out of curiosity):

2 married persons divorce. They get shared physical custody on a week-to-week basis, but parent A gets sole legal custody.

At a later point in time, parent A dies.

1) Will parent B be given sole custody?

2) Would parent A's Will, designating custody to a 3rd party (like a new spouse), prevail over parent B's right to the child(ren)?


Dear Socrateaser / Abuse - wait with counseling?
Sep 23, 2004, 10:15:09 AM
Dear Soc,

Week-to-week shared physical, I have sole legal custody.
Ex filed false allegations, that didn't fly with the GAL, out-of-court settlement with unchanged custody expected within 2 weeks, or court in October.

Since about 3 months my 8 year old child is reporting that my ex
a) leaves him by himself at a public skate board rink/ramp for more than an hour while she goes shopping,

b) turns her wedding band with the diamond to the inside before she hits him (and his half-brother) until he cries (no marks found though),

c) she and her hubby regularly get into physical fights in front of him.

d) next to a good portion of PAS, she calls him names ("asshole", for example) when she gets upset with him.

However, this is all his words (he's usually very reliable), there is no proof. My son now starts to show aggressive behavior as well, and is obviously upset.

My atty wants to bring this up to the GAL with court (possibly) coming up in October. However, the GAL (neutral so far) has in the past told me that as long as nobody gets hurt, she doesn't want to hear about anything or any allegations, and has ignored previous (less severe) reports from my son.
The GAL also told me that she will look very unfavorable on me putting my son in therapy, which he clearly needs.
OK so far, we can wait until after the settlement / court.

After court, I want my son in therapy. (IF my son reports same issues to therapist, therapist is required to report to DFACS).
Do I need to inform my ex about the therapy? She will do anything to influence him.

Is it advisable to inform the ex?

What else can I do to bring this to the court's attention, since the GAL is not willing to listen to it?

Thank you so much in advance!

Dear Socrateaser / Ex wants SSN of child
May 27, 2004, 10:59:32 AM
Ex and I have shared physical, but I have sole legal. Our son was not born in the US, and does not have a SSN (only a Tax ID Number).
Ex wants me to get him a SSN and give her the number, so she can open a savings account in his name. I am very hesitant to do this.

1) At some point and time I will have to get him a SSN. Am I required to give her the SSN? Nothing in the custody order about this.

2) IF I give her his SSN, and she messes with it (i.e. runs up a credit card in his name), will I be held responsible for the bills? (having sole legal custody)

3) Having sole legal, would I have any rights to this savings account? (Now that would be a hoot... LOL)

4) Is it unreasonable of me to tell her to open an account for him in her own name? You know, dangers of identity theft... (and she deliberatley ruined my credit in the past).


Dear Socra,

In her latest filing for a change of custody, my ex made numerous false allegations against me. All allegations have been researched and found to be untrue by the GAL.
The judge however is very likely not going to award attorney fees.

Can I (with all the proof I have that her allegations were false) take her to small claims court, and recoup my atty fees via that route?

Father's Issues / I still can't believe it....
Jul 20, 2008, 03:33:51 PM
A couple with 2 kids divorces. They write their own custody order, which specifically spells out that the 2 children will live with their mother and that their father will pay child support. Should the children come to live with their father, then child support is automatically turned around and the mother will pay child support.

Well, within 2 months the mother kicks the kids to the curb, and they come and live with dad. Dad has them enrolled in school untul they're out of high school, is listed as primary on all school and medical documents, but mom doesn't pay child support.

Fast forward in time....

The kids are now 30 and 32 years old. Mom sues for back child support and asks for $ 50,000.00

Dad refuses to pay, and it goes to court. The judge (Coweta County, GA) refuses to take the custody order into evidence, only listens to what the mom says, and orders dad to pay $ 180,000.00 in back child support.

And no, I'm not trying to pull a fast one on you guys. This actually happened last Friday in Coweta County, GA to a friend of my wife.

I still can't believe it.

Father's Issues / Interesting article
Dec 19, 2007, 06:26:37 AM
Dutch research under 800 intact families

Most fathers have a private conversation with their son or daughter living in their home at least twice per week. One in six children says they never talk one-on-one with their father. 2 percent of fathers say they never have a personal conversation with their child.
This is reported in the Christmas Edition of the KRO Magazine that initiated the research with 800 fathers and children.
The fathers told the researchers that their children talk to them about anything, but that sexuality and emotions are subjects they rather discuss with their mother. The children however said that the topic of conversation generally doesn't surpass school performance and practical issues.

According to psychiatrist Bram Bakker, involved in the educational tv-show "Because I say so", the research shows that fathers are very involved in the well-being of their children. It seems logic that 79% of fathers is proud of being a father, but that 71% of the children says to be proud of their father is marked as "very encouraging". Fathers as well as children feel that fathers are essential and indispensable to raise children.

Father's Issues / Unexpected turn of events
Jul 06, 2007, 05:28:38 PM
The oldtimers here will probably still remember my case.

Today, there was an unexpected turn of events.

At around 10 this morning, I received a call on my cell phone from my ex. As I was in a meeting, I didn't answer. I noticed she left a brief message. Within 2 minutes my wife called. Now I knew something was up, so I stepped out of the meeting, and answered the phone.

Apparently, my 11 y.o. son had a run-in with his mother (or more than 1), and then told her that he wants to live with me. She asked him if he really meant that, which he confirmed. (He's been telling me that for the last 2 years).
At that point, she put him in the car, drove him to my home, and dropped him off. So he's with me now. I called her back tonight, and she was unusually calm, confirming that she knows now he wants to live with me, so that is what he should do.
I told her that we should let things cool off for a few days, and then we should talk again. (We will need, after all, to discuss how all that's going to work). She instantly agreed.

The sad thing is that she told him that he would never see her again. Then she grabbed his 5 y.o. (half)brother, and told them to say goodbye, because they would never see each other again.
I believe she said it in a state of anger and hurt, but I know it must have hurt him. But so far he's doing fine, he's extremely pleasant and happy, and surely doesn't want to go back.

I'll give him a few extra hugs before he goes to bed tonight.

Any suggestions on how to handle this from a legal point of view are welcome.

Thank you.

Father's Issues / Here comes trouble....
Nov 20, 2006, 01:00:46 PM
Today at 9:24 was born: our son Ryan (or Kent Jr.).
He is 19 inches and weighs 7 pounds 14 ounces.

He is a carbon copy of his 20 month old brother; same length, same weight, and same head full of black hair.

I will post a pic as soon as I have one.


A TV-anchor well-known in Germany has unchained a fierce debate concerning the social role of women. The government wants that they improve the combination of profession and family, others plead for a return to "home and kitchen''.

"Back to home and kitchen" was the headline of the magazine Cicero in May of this year. Normally only a small portion of the German population reads this stylish magazine concerning political culture. But the contribution of Eva Herman hit like a bomb shell. Four months later the Germans are still debating the ideas, as recent as last week in the boulevard newspaper Bild.

Eva Herman, a well-known anchor of public broadcaster the ARD, wonders herself if female emancipation has been a historical mistake. With that Herman created a huge controversy. The Federal Republic stood on its head. Eva Herman had to explain so much, that she had to quit her job.

In between all interviews Herman wrote a book - The Eve Principle - of which the subtitle pleads for "a new femininity''. Herman argues that the social and economic pressure on women is so huge nowadays, that a comfortable, harmonious family life is nearly impossble. In her opinion way too much marriages and couples run into relationship problems. As an example the 41 year old newsreader refers to the towering divorce rates - in Germany around forty percent.

"The downside of the rat-race for recognition, power and success is the destruction of the happiness of motherhood and joy of the existence as a woman '', Herman notes

The modern woman is a victim of her own success. Because of her right to unlimited self-development, in Germany too few children are being born (on average 1.36 per woman), resulting in the steady decline of population over the past years.

Scientists have calculated that the Germans will be extinct at the end of this century, if no immigration takes place. A positive: also record unemployment will disappear within twenty years, Herman suspect. For some politicians a bright future - with more than four million unemployed.

I filed for custody of my daughter in Dec '04 when she was 2mo old after her mother "AS" told me to take her to court if I wanted to see my daughter again. I was never married to "AS". (I have had paternity test done) She has a history of mental illness, suicide attempts, hallucenations, etc and was put in mental hosp when she was 1mo pregnant. The lawyer I had at the time of filing would never make any progress in the case and started saying I would never get custody and said this without even looking at any of my evidence against her including emails, phone recordings and her mental records. In Sep '05 I fired him and was referred to a another local attorney from a child custody attorney in a neighboring city. This attorney is well respected and recently won custody for a father.

He filed for a deposition and we had it in Nov '05. He did not sit down with me before the deposition to look at any of the information or evidence I had against her. At the deposition, Of course "AS" lied about everything. She said she doesn't drink, and never used drugs which she certainly did at the time she was put in mental hosp and her records should prove this. This girl lies about everything and anything. Since the deposition there has been very little progress. I have made appointments to talk to my lawyer and the last appointment he had the judge set up a hearing date which was in March. As the hearing date was approaching I was trying to get in touch with my lawyer and couldn't. He had not prepared me for this hearing or prepared himself. Did not have her medical records, nothing. The day before hearing, his secretary called me and said there had been a continuance and they would let me know when the next hearing date was.

"AS" has been seen at the liqour store with my daughter lately by a relative. There have been two different occasions, one where there was a bud light bottle cap in her diaper bag after I had picked her up from "AS" . And a second occasion where there was a bud light bottle label in the bag. (I know she drinks around my daughter but how do I prove this?) I had mentioned to my lawyer before about hiring a PI but said he didn't think it was necessary. He said I would get custody and probably even make her pay child support.

I have my daughter probably 80% of the time, "AS" 's mother has her probably 15% and "AS" might have her 5% of the time.  "AS" always calls with excuses of why I need to keep her. I am usually running back and forth every day or so 20 miles there and 20 miles back to pick up my daughter. "AS" has a boyfriend who is 13 yrs older than her. She has been taking off work lately to go with him to the hospital to see his mother but when she is at work and our daughter needs to goto the hospital or doctor she can't take off and needs me to take her. "AS" 's ex friend told my sister that "AS" has spent the night many times with my daughter at her boyfriends house.  My daughter's 1st birthday, "AS" didn't want her that day and had other things to do. This past mother's day, she didn't want her then either. I think all she wants is a check each month.

I could go on and on about evidence I have on her but it would be very long. Do lawyers usually work like this? Take their time and not prepare? The more time goes by the more time my daughter is in an unstable environment. She's only 1 and i'm sure she's confused about all this back and forth stuff. Plus i'm 98% sure "AS" is drinking around her and that puts my daughter at risk. What do I do about this taking so long. I've been patient for way over a year. I have documented everything. Anybody with advice who has been in similar situations would be appreciated.

Father's Issues / Another feminazi website
Mar 23, 2006, 01:30:11 PM
I received an email, which was forwarded a dozen times.
As I scrolled down through all the email names, I noticed following address with signature:

From: "Katie McClung"
Subject: FW: Re: [title]
Date: Wed, 22 Mar 2006 13:48:00 +0000

Katie McClung, Volunteer Director
Partnership Against Domestic Violence (PADV)
P.O Box 170225
Atlanta, GA 30317
404.273.1235 Fax:404.815.9045 //

Supporting women and their children in their efforts to live violence

If you look at their website, it is so totally anti-male that it made nauseous.

"90-95% of domestic violence victims are women.
A Report of the Violence against Women Research Strategic Planning Workshop sponsored by the National Institute of Justice in cooperation with the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, 1995."

Please feel free to contact this person via phone or in writing to let them know how you feel, and to provide them with facts about DV.

Associated Press Writer

HOUSTON (AP) -- Andrea Yates left jail early Thursday for a state mental hospital where she will await her second capital murder trial for the drowning deaths of her young children.

Yates' attorney posted her $200,000 bond, releasing her from incarceration for the first time since the five children were drowned in the family bathtub in June 2001.

$ 200,000.00 ??? That's $ 40,000.00 per child ???  Drown her too, it would a) be justice, and b) save the taxpayers a lot of money. [/I]

State District Judge Belinda Hill set the bond Wednesday.

Yates, 41, didn't speak as she left the jail. She carried a brown paper sack and wore jeans and a blue-and-white striped shirt as she entered a car with her attorney and a private investigator for the drive to the mental hospital.

Her attorney, George Parnham, said he would answer questions after returning Yates to East Texas, where she previously spent more than three years at a prison psychiatric unit.

The judge said she couldn't order Yates to commit herself to the Rusk State Hospital, but said she set the bond based on Yates remaining there until her March 20 trial. Once the trial begins, Yates will return to the Harris County Jail. The trial is expected to last four to six weeks.

Yates faces capital murder charges for drowning three of the children and has pleaded innocent by reason of insanity.

A jury rejected her original insanity defense in 2002 and sentenced her to life in prison for the drowning of 7-year-old Noah, 5-year-old John and 6-month-old Mary. Prosecutors presented evidence about the drownings of Paul, 3, and Luke, 2, but Yates was not charged in their deaths.
  The Media Missed this one!!!!     (Of Course!)

Please read this, then send it to everybody you know.
They'll thank you as they forward this to others as well.

Denzel Washington, and Brooks Army Medical Center.

Don't know whether you heard about this but Denzel Washington and his family visited the troops at Brook Army Medical Center, in San Antonio,Texas (BAMC) the other day. This is where soldiers who have been evacuated from Germany come to be hospitalized in the United States, especially burn victims. There are some buildings there called Fisher Houses. The Fisher  House is a Hotel where soldiers' families can stay, for little or no charge, while their soldier is staying in the Hospital. BAMC has quite a few of these houses on base, but as you can imagine, they are almost filled most of the time.
While Denzel Washington was visiting BAMC, they gave him a tour of one of the Fisher Houses. He asked how much one of them would cost to build. A little while later, he made a 6-figure donation. The soldiers overseas were amazed to hear this story and want to get the word out to the American public, because it warmed their hearts to hear it.

The question I have is why does:

Alec Baldwin, Madonna, Sean Penn and other Hollywood types make front page news with their anti-everything America crap and Denzel Washington's Patriotism doesn't even make page 3 in the Metro section of any newspaper except the Local newspaper in San Antonio.

A true American and friend to all in uniform!

This needs as wide a distribution as we can create.


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The Georgia DeKalb County Sheriff's Department has made it their personal mission today, 2 days before Christmas Eve, to round up "deadbeat dads", for failure to pay Child Support, with extensive coverage support from Channel 2 WSB-TV, an ABC affiliate.

Not a word on deadbeat moms.

As a result of this operation, all arrested men will likely spend Christmas in jail, and their children will not get to see their dad.

When we called the Sheriff Thomas Brown's office to express our displeasure with this practice at exactly this time of year, we were met with following statement:
"I cannot disclose why they are only picking up men. Call the courts."

Anybody wants to give them a call too?
This is their website:

Also contact WSB-TV, Channel 2 1601
West Peachtree Street N.E.
Atlanta, Georgia 30309
Tel 404.897.7000
Their offices are closed for the holidays though, so they won't answer the phone.

You can send them an email at:

Dear Concerned Viewer:

Thank you for taking the time to write to PBS about your concerns regarding BREAKING THE SILENCE: CHILDREN'S STORIES.  Comments from our viewers - both positive and negative - are among the best guides we have to make future programming decisions.

As you may know, PBS has received emails, letters and calls from across the country both protesting and praising BREAKING THE SILENCE: CHILDREN'S STORIES.
All of us at PBS understand that the issues surrounding domestic abuse and contested custody are complex and emotionally provocative.  

When BREAKING THE SILENCE was reviewed for broadcast, our senior content team determined that it was based on solid research and met our editorial standards.  We still believe this to be the case.

However, in our role as the nation's trusted public broadcaster, we take very seriously all comments we receive from the public.  For that reason, we have initiated a review of the research behind and conclusions presented by the documentary. As part of our review process, we are working with the producers of the film, Tatge/Lasseur Productions, to ascertain answers to specific questions posed by viewers. We anticipate concluding our review in 30 days or less (as of November 8), with a resolution as to PBS' next steps.

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In recent years, PBS has examined the issues of custody, divorce, abuse and parenting in a variety of programs, including two FRONTLINE reports - "The Taking of Logan Marr," which tells the story of five-year-old Logan Marr who was found dead in the basement of her foster mother's home, and "Did Daddy Do It," a reopening of the case of Frank Fuster, convicted over 20 years ago of sexual abuse - as well as IN THE MIX "Divorce and Custody: Breaking Apart/Coming Together," FATHERHOOD USA: DEDICATED NOT DEADBEAT and many other examples.

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Who is capable of making a documentary debunking BREAKING THE SILENCE?
A documentary like that doesn't cost much money; all it takes is a good cameraman, a moderator, and people who are willing to speak out, including well-known experts.

I sent following letter to:

General Comments & Television Programming Schedule - Karen Bell - [email protected]

Viewer and Member Services - Amanda Harris - [email protected]

and all advertisers listed below.

Dear PBS,

Monday night October 31st, you are planning to air a film entitled "Breaking the Silence, Children's Stories". This film denigrates divorcing fathers with it's bald-faced assertion that in "75% of cases in which fathers contest custody, fathers have a history of being batterers".

The flaws in this film are as numerous as they are flagrant:

The film paints a false picture of a world in which the only abusive parents are fathers, ignoring the fact that far more children are abused and killed by their mothers than by their fathers (U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services) * (see below) ** (see below)

The film misleads the viewer by failing to explain that psychiatrists who've called Parental Alienation Syndrome "junk science" don't mean that parental alienation doesn't happen, but rather that it's not an officially recognized mental illness. (
Any degreed custody evaluator and family law attorney will attest that PAS truely exists, and is practiced by many (mainly) custodial parents.

The program makes a number of very serious accusations against fathers without allowing the accused to defend themselves.
A detailed analysis of the flawed logic and biased "research" this PBS program is based on can be found at

Public Broadcasting Service and the Corporation for Public Broadcasting are funded out of our tax dollars and your advertisers, and have a responsibility not to disseminate bias. The CPB's own Code of Ethics ( requires employees to "avoid any conduct that might result in the loss of public confidence in CPB's programs and activities ... or might reasonably give the appearance of ... the compromise or loss of complete impartiality of judgment and action."

Being a divorced father and the primary custodian of a now 10 year old boy, I take offense to your decision to air a program showing such bias and false information.

I strongly urge you to revise your programming choice, and to not air this piece of fiction. Or, reschedule the airing of this program, followed by a rebuttal opportunity program.

With kind regards,

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Children were somewhat more likely to be maltreated by female perpetrators than by males: 65 percent of the maltreated children had been maltreated by a female, whereas 54 percent had been maltreated by a male. Of children who were maltreated by their birth parents, the majority (75%) were maltreated by their mothers and a sizable minority (46%) were maltreated by their fathers (some children were maltreated by both parents).
Abused children presented a different pattern in connection with the sex of their perpetrators than did the neglected children. Children were more often neglected by female perpetrators (87% by females versus 43% by males).

Approximately 40 percent of child victims were maltreated solely by their
mothers; another 19 percent were maltreated solely by their fathers; 18
percent were abused by both parents. Child victims abused by a non-parental
perpetrator accounted for 13 percent of the total.

Children abused by someone other than a parent were 16 percent less likely
to experience recurrence than children who were abused by their mother.

The most significant predictor of whether a battered woman will physically
abuse her child is having been physically abused by her own mother-not being
battered by her partner.

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It will be aired at 11 pm on WPBA Channel 30.

I will watch them tonight and see who their sponsors/advertisers are, and update tomorrow.

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FRESNO, Calif. (AP) — Advocates for an 11-year-old girl who was arrested on a deadly weapon charge for throwing a 2-pound rock during a water balloon fight say the charge in no way fits the crime.

But Fresno's mayor and police chief say Maribel Cuevas's case was handled appropriately, and that assault with a deadly weapon is the proper charge for an act that might have had fatal consequences.

The case was to go to trial Wednesday in the Juvenile Delinquency Division of Fresno Superior Court. In an unusual move for a case involving a minor, the trial will be open to the public.

Maribel was arrested in April for throwing the rock at a neighborhood boy who had pelted her with a water balloon. The rock gashed the boy's forehead, and the girl spent five days in Fresno's juvenile hall and a month under house arrest after police said she resisted arrest and scratched an officer's arm.

Lisa Bennett, a legal assistant for defense attorney Richard Beshwate Jr., said efforts to avert a trial were fruitless. "Even though there may or may not be good offers, having her plead guilty to a crime is not acceptable," Bennett said Tuesday.

(Note: I guess it was just a prank, huh?)

Alvin Harrell, the Fresno County assistant district attorney who supervises juvenile cases, said court rules prohibited him from commenting.

In a statement issued shortly after The Associated Press published a story about the case, Fresno Police Chief Jerry Dyer defended his department's actions.

"The simple fact is that we have an 11-year-old girl who struck a boy in the head with a jagged-edged, two-pound river rock, that required him to have stitches," Dyer said. "That is a felony, assault with a deadly weapon, and we are very fortunate that that act did not cause a more serious injury, even death."

Elijah Vang, the boy who was injured by Maribel and who has acknowledged throwing a water balloon at her, was expected to testify at the trial.

In the end, it will be his own fault. Wanna bet?

Listening to a local radio station, there was an ad that promoted the domestic-violence-is-commited-by-men-only myth, with refernce to two websites.

The websites are:
1) //
Even though this website seems to be gender neutral, their participation in this ad is just sickening.
Also their statement: "where violence is passed from grandfather to father to son, or to daughter. It is not unusual to see father and son in the same prison, and it is quite possible that the grandfather had been there too." leaves no doubt where their mind is.

2) //
These people need a reality check! It looks like it is a spin-off of NOW!
" Men Stopping Violence is a social change organization dedicated to ending men's violence against women.

Men Stopping Violence works locally, nationally, and internationally to dismantle belief systems, social structures, and institutional practices that oppress women and children and dehumanize men themselves. We look to the violence against women's movement to keep the reality of the problem and the vision of the solution before us. We believe that all forms of oppression are interconnected. Social justice work in the areas of race, class, gender, age, and sexual orientation are all critical to ending violence against women."

Can we get some statistics and lots of complaints to these idiots?

Father's Issues / Kent Jr. 2nd is here!
Apr 12, 2005, 07:52:00 AM

Kent Jr. 2nd was born last week, 7 lbs 14oz, 19 inch.
Eventually it turned out to be a C-section, but everything is well.
I'll be in chat sometime this week.

Here he is:
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Father's Issues / I wonder what will happen next.
Feb 08, 2005, 01:00:40 PM

I got a call from the PBFH last week. While our child is in her care, he is now totally out of control, angry, talks back, and has major attitude problems.

Strange that he doesn't display this behavior when he's in our home...
Anyway, she wants me to talk to him about this. Which I am willing to do, but it will only make things worse. It is an open confirmation to him that she's losing control and doesn't know how to get it back. Which is unfortunate, because it makes him try his limits at school too. But luckily he has a fantastic teacher with whom we have excellent contact. So we'll keep him in line there.


Lance Armstrong may lose his 6th Tour De France title, after evidence has been found that he used 3 substances, illegal in France.

Tooth paste, deodorant, and soap...

He is also being accused of having body parts in his possession that are also illegal in France; a spine, and balls...