Hi, I have joint P%L custody of my son with his dad. We dont get along at all. He is really hard to deal with, either him or his current wife...so he treats me really bad (actually has all along), and of course I dont accept that, so the communication is nil.
He scared me for a long time...and made so much more money than I, he had an attorne harrass me for a long time. I had nomoney at all.
I have my son 9 mos out of the year, he has him three (summer) with the every other weekend and one night a wekk reversing during that time. We alternate holidays. I have no idea how to figure out percentages on this. Seems confusing-- a long task with a calendar.
Anyway, he was ordered to provbide medical via his employer, esp since he had a great plan and no payments at all for it (100%). We were to 'split any co-pays', and 'if mom gets a better plan, and we agree, it can be switched', basically.
I did not ask for money, fearing retribution at the time, and it was 'put on reserve'.
Its now 12 years w/o any help at all financially for anything...His attitude is, 'when he is with me, I pay, when he is with you, youpay'. He has two other children y his preent wife. They own a home, I rent.
He lost his job, and there went the insurance. My son has pre-existing medical, so an independant insurance wont take him. He went on COBRA for a few months, and attempted to bill me for that (half)
Then he apparently went on the state medical plan for low income people. (He went on unimployment for 2 years, and got a dislocated workers funding to attend a 9 month school program).
Six months later, i got a letter from the state with my CS pin numer. I was like, what is this. I called, and they said since i was NCP, they were going to seek payment n medical. I said I have him 9 months of the year, no way am I NCP- we are joint, bbut I bear brunt of most expenses, without help.
They referred me back to state medical. Took a long time, but they said to claim custodial, you have to have child 6 months or greater, which disqualified him. So I put him on mine, now that I finally got a better job w/medical.
When medical choosing time at my job, i tried to talk to 'dad' about it-- which plan- he as difficult. We decided on highest plan- as son has medical cond. and you never know. I called him the night before it would be permanent for a year, and he said yes, do it, he will pay sons portion. Mine would be 20.00 pay period, son=45.00 additional, pay period.
then next day he called and said forget it...i am not paying. now i am locked into this for a year. He has made sporadic payments though of 60./month, so far this year about 5 months, owing me 3. he never pays on time or anything- when the mood strikes him.
He decided on the amount, just as he does with eveything...
Anyway, He had, after 2 years UE gotten temp job. I finally deceide to apply for CS (Last year) It took worker (same one from medical case) over six months- nothing. I called- she said they were wating on finding his income and had to do that before proceeding- itwasnt showing in databse. Finally another couple months, it shwed his temp agency is really located in another state, ut he works here. Then he got threatening again, and I got scared, and told worker to close it- wasnt worth it.
Why do they need HIS income- efore they will even start??? If he makes 2.00, cant it still be figured out?
ANYWAY------- HELP!!!
He scared me for a long time...and made so much more money than I, he had an attorne harrass me for a long time. I had nomoney at all.
I have my son 9 mos out of the year, he has him three (summer) with the every other weekend and one night a wekk reversing during that time. We alternate holidays. I have no idea how to figure out percentages on this. Seems confusing-- a long task with a calendar.
Anyway, he was ordered to provbide medical via his employer, esp since he had a great plan and no payments at all for it (100%). We were to 'split any co-pays', and 'if mom gets a better plan, and we agree, it can be switched', basically.
I did not ask for money, fearing retribution at the time, and it was 'put on reserve'.
Its now 12 years w/o any help at all financially for anything...His attitude is, 'when he is with me, I pay, when he is with you, youpay'. He has two other children y his preent wife. They own a home, I rent.
He lost his job, and there went the insurance. My son has pre-existing medical, so an independant insurance wont take him. He went on COBRA for a few months, and attempted to bill me for that (half)
Then he apparently went on the state medical plan for low income people. (He went on unimployment for 2 years, and got a dislocated workers funding to attend a 9 month school program).
Six months later, i got a letter from the state with my CS pin numer. I was like, what is this. I called, and they said since i was NCP, they were going to seek payment n medical. I said I have him 9 months of the year, no way am I NCP- we are joint, bbut I bear brunt of most expenses, without help.
They referred me back to state medical. Took a long time, but they said to claim custodial, you have to have child 6 months or greater, which disqualified him. So I put him on mine, now that I finally got a better job w/medical.
When medical choosing time at my job, i tried to talk to 'dad' about it-- which plan- he as difficult. We decided on highest plan- as son has medical cond. and you never know. I called him the night before it would be permanent for a year, and he said yes, do it, he will pay sons portion. Mine would be 20.00 pay period, son=45.00 additional, pay period.
then next day he called and said forget it...i am not paying. now i am locked into this for a year. He has made sporadic payments though of 60./month, so far this year about 5 months, owing me 3. he never pays on time or anything- when the mood strikes him.
He decided on the amount, just as he does with eveything...
Anyway, He had, after 2 years UE gotten temp job. I finally deceide to apply for CS (Last year) It took worker (same one from medical case) over six months- nothing. I called- she said they were wating on finding his income and had to do that before proceeding- itwasnt showing in databse. Finally another couple months, it shwed his temp agency is really located in another state, ut he works here. Then he got threatening again, and I got scared, and told worker to close it- wasnt worth it.
Why do they need HIS income- efore they will even start??? If he makes 2.00, cant it still be figured out?
ANYWAY------- HELP!!!