I am going through a divorce which has been dragging on and on. We are still in the same house and have 2 young children aged 3 and 6 years old. From time to time, the eldest talks about what he is going to do when he is living with mommy in a new place... One time even told me he didn't want me to go away....
Both kids obviously know something is wrong with Mommy and Daddy, but I have never mentioned anything about splitting up with Mom to either of them. Stbx on the other hand, talks to him every now and then about what is going to happen in the future. Like she is going to get him this when they move to the new place. Or Grandma will come to visit when they move to the new place, the list goes on.
Is it OK, for me to start talking about the future in this way ?
How much is it OK to talk to the kids about divorce ( my gut tells me as little as possible , considering their ages ).
We'll be having a custody evaluation in the coming months, should I be making notes about what the eldest is saying ??
Thx
Both kids obviously know something is wrong with Mommy and Daddy, but I have never mentioned anything about splitting up with Mom to either of them. Stbx on the other hand, talks to him every now and then about what is going to happen in the future. Like she is going to get him this when they move to the new place. Or Grandma will come to visit when they move to the new place, the list goes on.
Is it OK, for me to start talking about the future in this way ?
How much is it OK to talk to the kids about divorce ( my gut tells me as little as possible , considering their ages ).
We'll be having a custody evaluation in the coming months, should I be making notes about what the eldest is saying ??
Thx