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okay here's the deal i've been fighting with my ex that i never married about custody and parenting time with our son, my wife and i moved two states away for work, and when i moved she started to limit contact and would not let him come and visit, so we just got the home study done and the report suggested that we share joint custody and she have primary physical and i get my parenting time this christmas and two weeks out of the summer until he's done with 1st grade and then my time will increase. i'm happy that i went from no parenting time to at least something. one of the big issues is that she was trying to convince our son that her new husband is his dad and encouraging him to call him dad, that all came out in the home study as well as her limiting contact with me. the home study evaluator suggested that our son do not call her husband dad, but the evaluator did not think she was trying to alienate him. also now that she got the home study report she hasn't been picking up the phone when i call so i can talk with my son. she also is moves constantly and is in and out of her parents house, i don't understand how this can be considered a home base for my son or stable for that matter. we have court in a few months for the judge to decide the final decision, should i bring up her recent actions of not picking up the phone and moving again, and do you think because of this and what the home study said about her limiting contact, will the judge decide to give me more time?

I recently moved to another state (12 hours away from my child) for work. I've never been married to my ex and there was never a custody order established only a support order. I've been on time with support and while living in the same state as my ex I saw my son, but only on her terms.  My wife and I provided a very stable environment when he would come and stay at our home.  I've been asking her for the past two years for a visitation schedule, but she has never agreed.  Now that we moved I decided to take her to court to get some kind of visitation. She claims I can see him whenever if  I'm in the same state, but the last time I went back she didn't allow this and only lets me talk to him on the phone and now she's is trying to convince my 4 year old son that her husband is his father. What are my custody rights, will I get a reasonable visitation schedule, and will he get to come here?

 A home study was ordered by the other parent. We live in one state and the other parent and our child lives in another. Does the person who does the home study have to come to where we live or can they find someone local to do our half of the home study. We were also informed this could cost up to 4500 dollars! Is the cost of the home study split between the parents?