I came home early from work one morning last week and found my wife in bed with another man (a past friend of mine). Our 4 year old son was also in the same room they were in. I took off with our son, and sought advice from a lawyer that very same day. My filing went to court the following Monday and I was granted temporary custody of our child based on her being charged with: gross neglect of duty, extreme emotional cruelty and adultery. My affidavit also detailed how I came home and unexpectedly discovered her in bed with this man with our child in the same room. Also detailed was how she was rarely home in the evenings (we both worked day shift and my parents have always been the ones to watch our son while we worked).
Her reason for being gone every evening after work was that she was working for some of her friends doing office cleaning for extra money. And the times that she wasn't working she was 'visiting her parents' whom have never wanted anything to do with our son. I was alwways left to care for him while she was gone. I have no reason to believe that this was her only reason for being gone every day after working her main job. She supposedly received pay under the table and had no check stubs or any other proof of income from her said 'extra cleaning job'. I have had been suspecting she was having an affair with this man for some time but I was always accused of accusing her of it whenever I mentioned it. Sometimes she would take our son out to see this man and his family and when I asked him what mommy and *** was doing he would reply: Telling secrets and loving on each other. I probably shouldn't have pried him in anyway but I knew of no other way to get any info on what she really did over there.
After catching her in the act, she swears that this was the first time she had done anything but I dare not believe that. I think she is gaslighting because she has no other way out of it...she was caught red-handed and had no dark place to hide this. Her other excuse was: 'you accused me of it for so long that I felt if I'm going to be accused I might as well do it'. There is simply no logic to this at all. I asked her: 'If I accused you of beating the $^&^ out of our son would you do it?' She replied: No.
Now, my question is, what chances do I have in getting permanent residential custody of our child? This is all being filed in Ohio. I am sure she will fight this but not so sure on how she will be able to afford a lawyer so do not know what kind of defense she will have...I truly hope she doesn't. I know she will bring up how abusive I may have seemed in the past. I'll admit, we had our share of fights but not all were completely my blame. I have also reformed and we have not physically fought in well over a year. Also she has not once pressed charges on me for anything. And not once have I left any marks on her at all. Not sure how the court will handle this as she has no legal proof of anything in that manner. She was just as guilty as I as far as that goes.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Her reason for being gone every evening after work was that she was working for some of her friends doing office cleaning for extra money. And the times that she wasn't working she was 'visiting her parents' whom have never wanted anything to do with our son. I was alwways left to care for him while she was gone. I have no reason to believe that this was her only reason for being gone every day after working her main job. She supposedly received pay under the table and had no check stubs or any other proof of income from her said 'extra cleaning job'. I have had been suspecting she was having an affair with this man for some time but I was always accused of accusing her of it whenever I mentioned it. Sometimes she would take our son out to see this man and his family and when I asked him what mommy and *** was doing he would reply: Telling secrets and loving on each other. I probably shouldn't have pried him in anyway but I knew of no other way to get any info on what she really did over there.
After catching her in the act, she swears that this was the first time she had done anything but I dare not believe that. I think she is gaslighting because she has no other way out of it...she was caught red-handed and had no dark place to hide this. Her other excuse was: 'you accused me of it for so long that I felt if I'm going to be accused I might as well do it'. There is simply no logic to this at all. I asked her: 'If I accused you of beating the $^&^ out of our son would you do it?' She replied: No.
Now, my question is, what chances do I have in getting permanent residential custody of our child? This is all being filed in Ohio. I am sure she will fight this but not so sure on how she will be able to afford a lawyer so do not know what kind of defense she will have...I truly hope she doesn't. I know she will bring up how abusive I may have seemed in the past. I'll admit, we had our share of fights but not all were completely my blame. I have also reformed and we have not physically fought in well over a year. Also she has not once pressed charges on me for anything. And not once have I left any marks on her at all. Not sure how the court will handle this as she has no legal proof of anything in that manner. She was just as guilty as I as far as that goes.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!