wow, I can still after all these years, see names I recognize. I was very active here 8 years ago or so fighting for my stepson's lives (which we won, by the way :-)
I used my same user name as I had then although I am now officially 6mom LOL we had 5 boys between us and had a midlife crisis daughter 3 years ago - our "our" baby.
and i'm a grandma :-) which brings me to this forum
Illinois
Son never married to the BB; 10 month old daughter. they lived together until August.
since August we have tracked time he's had the baby.
August and September it was consistently 2 or 3 days a week (barring the one week a month she flips out and refuses to let us see the baby :-(
October and november, pretty much the same, a little more days here and there; but almost always 2 or 3 days each week.
December, my son had his daughter 22 days of the month.
Beginning in January/end of December they decided to do one week on, one week off;
He still continued to pay what we figured he'd child support would be based on 20% net - although there is no order.
Paternity never officially established
VAP signed at hospital, which to me the law is rather hazy on - it states you're the legal father, yet you still really have no rights. My take is that it is almost more harmful as they have a clause that seems to state "presumed custody to mother" :-(
She is a diagnosed manic depressive/bi polar who refuses to take medication. Things are usually okay until one week a month and she flips out. Horrible, vile, disgusting emails and texts and phone calls.
Last week she showed up at a neighbors apartment, came down to my son's apartment, attacked the neighbor lady; busted in my son's apartment (he had the baby) opened all his cabinets throwing all items on the floor, breaking things.
cops arrive - she wouldn't shut her mouth LOL ended up in jail for disorderly conduct and criminal trespass. Her sister came and took the baby.
since that time she has refused to let my son see his daughter.
Sent a barrage of horrible myspace blogs accusing my son of being a crack head (her usual course of action to attempt to justify her behavior to act like the poor single mom trying to rpotect her daughter from harm) totally false by the way;
my son is 22
at 18 he was arrest for possession of marijuana and dui - he's been on probation since that time and has passed all drug tests; has worked the same job; rave reviews from his probation officer, he totally grew up and left his teen years behind him (thank you, Lord he was giving me gray hair LOL)
so she always screams accusations such as that. He truly does not do drugs at all since he was arrested. He drinks occasionally, but not much anymore, no time.
she blogs daily for me to see it LOL i just print it. She calls our three year old daughter a pig and other names :-( calls me a c-word b-word LOL I'm 39 years old, I could care less to be honest.
I just print and smile :-)
I feel like this is the most important battle of our life all over again. Not sure I can go a round two with the courts again. I"m so stressed out.
My grandaughter is the most prescious little angel in the world. sweet natured and has ti witness these acts of ignorance by her mother :-(
now mom said she is withholding food because the baby is too fat - she's a tiny skinny little peanut - but becasue our three year old daughter is sort of chunky, she's making it known she won't let my grandaughter be chubby and instructed the sitter (her sister) to cut down on her bottles and only the two meals :-( she's 18 pounds at 11 months old, not too skinny, but she's far from a chunky butt.
Okay, let me have it; I need refreshed on tips and what to do here.
we've seen an attorney; but I want to be prepared and to be able to assist the attorney as well
thanks so much; hope to see some familiar faces and new ones too!
:hug:
jamie
I used my same user name as I had then although I am now officially 6mom LOL we had 5 boys between us and had a midlife crisis daughter 3 years ago - our "our" baby.
and i'm a grandma :-) which brings me to this forum
Illinois
Son never married to the BB; 10 month old daughter. they lived together until August.
since August we have tracked time he's had the baby.
August and September it was consistently 2 or 3 days a week (barring the one week a month she flips out and refuses to let us see the baby :-(
October and november, pretty much the same, a little more days here and there; but almost always 2 or 3 days each week.
December, my son had his daughter 22 days of the month.
Beginning in January/end of December they decided to do one week on, one week off;
He still continued to pay what we figured he'd child support would be based on 20% net - although there is no order.
Paternity never officially established
VAP signed at hospital, which to me the law is rather hazy on - it states you're the legal father, yet you still really have no rights. My take is that it is almost more harmful as they have a clause that seems to state "presumed custody to mother" :-(
She is a diagnosed manic depressive/bi polar who refuses to take medication. Things are usually okay until one week a month and she flips out. Horrible, vile, disgusting emails and texts and phone calls.
Last week she showed up at a neighbors apartment, came down to my son's apartment, attacked the neighbor lady; busted in my son's apartment (he had the baby) opened all his cabinets throwing all items on the floor, breaking things.
cops arrive - she wouldn't shut her mouth LOL ended up in jail for disorderly conduct and criminal trespass. Her sister came and took the baby.
since that time she has refused to let my son see his daughter.
Sent a barrage of horrible myspace blogs accusing my son of being a crack head (her usual course of action to attempt to justify her behavior to act like the poor single mom trying to rpotect her daughter from harm) totally false by the way;
my son is 22
at 18 he was arrest for possession of marijuana and dui - he's been on probation since that time and has passed all drug tests; has worked the same job; rave reviews from his probation officer, he totally grew up and left his teen years behind him (thank you, Lord he was giving me gray hair LOL)
so she always screams accusations such as that. He truly does not do drugs at all since he was arrested. He drinks occasionally, but not much anymore, no time.
she blogs daily for me to see it LOL i just print it. She calls our three year old daughter a pig and other names :-( calls me a c-word b-word LOL I'm 39 years old, I could care less to be honest.
I just print and smile :-)
I feel like this is the most important battle of our life all over again. Not sure I can go a round two with the courts again. I"m so stressed out.
My grandaughter is the most prescious little angel in the world. sweet natured and has ti witness these acts of ignorance by her mother :-(
now mom said she is withholding food because the baby is too fat - she's a tiny skinny little peanut - but becasue our three year old daughter is sort of chunky, she's making it known she won't let my grandaughter be chubby and instructed the sitter (her sister) to cut down on her bottles and only the two meals :-( she's 18 pounds at 11 months old, not too skinny, but she's far from a chunky butt.
Okay, let me have it; I need refreshed on tips and what to do here.
we've seen an attorney; but I want to be prepared and to be able to assist the attorney as well
thanks so much; hope to see some familiar faces and new ones too!
:hug:
jamie