I originally started working two jobs so that i can pay the debt that both my gf and i have incurred. I have two sons with my soon to ex-girlfriend and i want some advice. If she takes me to court for child support, i am going to quit my second job so i can fight for 50/50 joint custody. Will she be able to successfully get the courts to include the income from the second job, if i no longer work there? I know that usually the courts take into account how much i have spent with them before the child support was started, so it will be a little difficult to get 50/50. Going with this assumption, will be ok to assume the same with the second job's income? We live in CA.
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Father's Issues / I am an amateur and have several questions.
Jul 24, 2008, 11:18:02 AM
I am currently living with my girlfriend whom i have two kids with. One is going to be 2 on september, and the other is 3 months old. We had our eldes t through medical because at the time we could not afford our own insurance. Unfortunately it has reached a limit where i can no longer live in the same roof with her.
I work two full time jobs and try to go to school full time as well, so i am constantly tired. Because i make more money than she does i take care of a couple more bills than she does i.e. food, cell phone, utilities, etc. All she is responsible for paying is the car (which we are both co-signers), half of the rent, and finally her own bills. I have been working my A*S off to pay off debt that both her and i accumulated and have been successful at it, however, she is now going to be 3 months late on the car that we both co-signed. This just makes me so angry that i only get about 2 hrs of sleep if i am lucky. Her lack of financial responsibility and unwillingness to be more proactive with her financial responsibility have just made me say "I want out".
She constantly subtly "threatens" me by saying stuff like: "All i have to do is say that you hit my kids and the courts will grant me full custody", "because Damien (our 1st kid) was born with medical ins, you will have to pay double the CS", etc. I would like to know a couple of things:
if she takes me to court to file for child support, how likely am i to get 50/50 custody? Apart from some speeding tickets, i have no criminal record, there is no signs of abuse to my kids, nor my girlfriend. I am a very strict dad, but i never abuse any of them.
If i were to quit my 2nd job because she is taking me to court for child support, how likely is it that the courts will take into account my ex-2nd job's income in calculating child support? if they take it into account, when will i have to quit so that it will not happen?
Do i have any say as in where they live? Meaning that if i say that they (my girlfriend and kids) cannot leave the state (we live in CA by the way), will the courts comply with my request, or am i powerless in the matter? She has threatened me to move away if we end up separating.
If she tells the courts that she cannot work for whatever reason, am i going to be responsible of her part of bills?
I work two full time jobs and try to go to school full time as well, so i am constantly tired. Because i make more money than she does i take care of a couple more bills than she does i.e. food, cell phone, utilities, etc. All she is responsible for paying is the car (which we are both co-signers), half of the rent, and finally her own bills. I have been working my A*S off to pay off debt that both her and i accumulated and have been successful at it, however, she is now going to be 3 months late on the car that we both co-signed. This just makes me so angry that i only get about 2 hrs of sleep if i am lucky. Her lack of financial responsibility and unwillingness to be more proactive with her financial responsibility have just made me say "I want out".
She constantly subtly "threatens" me by saying stuff like: "All i have to do is say that you hit my kids and the courts will grant me full custody", "because Damien (our 1st kid) was born with medical ins, you will have to pay double the CS", etc. I would like to know a couple of things:
if she takes me to court to file for child support, how likely am i to get 50/50 custody? Apart from some speeding tickets, i have no criminal record, there is no signs of abuse to my kids, nor my girlfriend. I am a very strict dad, but i never abuse any of them.
If i were to quit my 2nd job because she is taking me to court for child support, how likely is it that the courts will take into account my ex-2nd job's income in calculating child support? if they take it into account, when will i have to quit so that it will not happen?
Do i have any say as in where they live? Meaning that if i say that they (my girlfriend and kids) cannot leave the state (we live in CA by the way), will the courts comply with my request, or am i powerless in the matter? She has threatened me to move away if we end up separating.
If she tells the courts that she cannot work for whatever reason, am i going to be responsible of her part of bills?
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