I must admit. MY ex and I both agreed it would be in the children's best interest to move with him.
After all. I had raised them for 15 years practically alone and with nofamily here in NY. Then a series of unfortunate events led us to anagreement that the children should move with him since he has hismother's support & more family support.
And the children...they really wanted to experience living with theirdad, however felt guilty to leave me...so I let them go with myblessing.
He agreed in court that he would work out visitation with me and that may have been one of many mistakes.
Should of set visitation & other things.
I admit, I became very distant and didn't call as often when callswouldn't be returned & he wasn't giving messages to the childrenthat I had called.
Then he wasn't sending medical information for one of our daughters who has developed juvenile rhumatoid arthritis.
then he just stopped answering my calls when I began to call more frequently again.
He took me to court recently for child support. I don't have a problemwith that. What I do have a problem with is that he didn't pay childsupport for 2 of our 4 children for 10 years. and now you want me topay. I will be sending him payments even though the court has said Idon't need to send anything as of now.
Excuse me for the rambling, but I need to vent.
Because I distanced myself for a short time to deal with my depression and separation from them I'm paying for it now.
I admit, I haven't been doing a great job with being a long distanceparent and want to change that. I have apologized to their father andhis fiance and told them I want to make amends to try to do better.
I have tried texting them, calling them, I have gotten negativefeedback from dad stating...you said you would be there...why do weneed now, go on and live your life.
So...I'm going back to court. I called lawyer this morning and shereplied and let me know to file a petition and serve him in Florida andshe is pretty sure the courts will appoint her again.
Just really needed to vent. Thank you.
I have no idea how to set up an effective parenting plan for longdistance. I've googled it and I've read some suggestions, however I'dlike to present my lawyer with something to propose. Any suggestions?Or books any one can suggest?