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I am so frustrated!  My friend is looking at divorce.  Her husband checks all her receipts and emails and phone bills.  We all think he is a weasel but now I know.   They have children so I am very concerned.  He is trying to say she is crazy and needs to be committed to a psyc hospital.  He hs hit her but as soon as we have accused him of abuse he now plays mind games.  I told her to cut back hours at work to be sure she is with the kids due to her concern for them.  She is afraid that she will need a full-time job if he does file for divorce.  I think she should due to the mental abuse.  Any ideas to help her divorce without losing her kids would be great.

My dh is NCP and bm is CP.  SS is 13 and has always lived with her and visited us eow regularly through the week until this last March.  He came to live with us full time.  SS saw bm 1x in April  and 1x in May. SS and bm had a huge blow out and really do not talk.  We encourage him to call (he won't) or when(if) she calls, we have him talk to her.  We drove him to school every day 20miles until school was out.  We were suddenly full time with him which is exactly what we wanted.  I feel like she has fallen off the earth.  DH is thrilled he is living here.  SS seems happier and very well adjusted. bm agreed to take dh and ss shopping for school clothes.  Great  but that is about it.  We asked if she wanted him 2 days last week and she said no. DH doesn't  want to have anymore fighting so he won't draw up new papers(it might make her mad).  She wants everything in her favor(ie taxes).  I wanted to know if we really should have papers drawn up.  I just don't trust her.  I also understand the reasons for dh not wanting to go to court either(she usually draws it out---$ we don't have).  Today I heard she has a part-time job so she can buy new things.  I recently had to go part-time at my job.  Should we persue cs?  If this situation were the other way around, you know she would.  I just feel like we should at least have papers stating dh is physical custody.  Any thought would really help releive my worry. Thanks.