Hi all-
I am back again (new name..used to be sunshine1) as you may remember I inquired some assistance back in July for a good faith move out of state for cheaper housing and a job. We made the move and are doing fantastic!
However, I am back needing some guidance on the new situation. My ex did not agree to the move at first but then we came to a pretty good agreement. I was shocked at his overall compromise but figured??? He did not want to fight as much as I didnt want to fight. I figured out why. In our agreement, his child support was cut by way over half to offset his transportation costs in sending the kids back and forth. I thought that was fair since I was moving. (background...he hadn't been in their lives for almost 5 years prior to us moving..saw them 7 or 8 times over the summer then we moved)
He had arranged for the children to go on a cruise this month and I contributed my last bit of money to help them to go. He has since backed out of this and took my money with him. He also has no intention of continuing to see his children. (confirmed with a few phone calls and many lovely endearing emails from his wife) Mainly he agreed to let us move if I agreed to have his child support lowered...sort of like black mail...except I thought it was fair if he was going to actually see them.
My question is, if it was lowered, for the purpose of transportation and there are NO transportation costs, or transportation to see him, can't I request for it to go back to the way it was? Here is the exact wording in our new order...
"The parties agree that commencing June 1, 2009, Respondent's child support obligation will be reduced by $XXX.XX per month (thereby making his base child support obligation $XXX.XX per month) in order to offset transportation costs he will incur for parenting time."
Anyone have this happen to them?
I am back again (new name..used to be sunshine1) as you may remember I inquired some assistance back in July for a good faith move out of state for cheaper housing and a job. We made the move and are doing fantastic!
However, I am back needing some guidance on the new situation. My ex did not agree to the move at first but then we came to a pretty good agreement. I was shocked at his overall compromise but figured??? He did not want to fight as much as I didnt want to fight. I figured out why. In our agreement, his child support was cut by way over half to offset his transportation costs in sending the kids back and forth. I thought that was fair since I was moving. (background...he hadn't been in their lives for almost 5 years prior to us moving..saw them 7 or 8 times over the summer then we moved)
He had arranged for the children to go on a cruise this month and I contributed my last bit of money to help them to go. He has since backed out of this and took my money with him. He also has no intention of continuing to see his children. (confirmed with a few phone calls and many lovely endearing emails from his wife) Mainly he agreed to let us move if I agreed to have his child support lowered...sort of like black mail...except I thought it was fair if he was going to actually see them.
My question is, if it was lowered, for the purpose of transportation and there are NO transportation costs, or transportation to see him, can't I request for it to go back to the way it was? Here is the exact wording in our new order...
"The parties agree that commencing June 1, 2009, Respondent's child support obligation will be reduced by $XXX.XX per month (thereby making his base child support obligation $XXX.XX per month) in order to offset transportation costs he will incur for parenting time."
Anyone have this happen to them?