Hi everyone,
I'm new to this forum and was hoping to get some advice.
Quick background. Divorced 3 years in December. 10 yo son. Ex is PCP, but we my son is with me 50/50 of the time. I have been paying child support on time since the USO went into effect. I earn a base salary and quarterly bonus's. Per the original divorce decree, she does not get any of my bonus's during the original order of the USO(3 years). After that she can request a change,
Every-time we get into an argument about sharing costs etc... regarding our son she threatens to go back to court to get more money out of me. She goes as far as asking me for my last 3 years of Tax Returns, which I refuse w/o a court order.
What started the recent threats are that I sent her an accounting of money I have spent above and beyond CS for extracuricular expenses. Our divorce papers only state that I have to share 50% of uninsured medical expenses, not for extracuricular. I have no issue with sharing those costs and have been since the divorce.
The list of expenses included registration fees for sports, copays I have paid, and most recently the full cost of orthodontist work my son received. When she received my e-mail, she immediately started threatening me with going to court, stating that I earn so much more money than she does and she isn't about to pay her share of any of these expenses, including the palate expander for my son. This is despite the court order for her to pay 50% of uninsured medical.
I spoke briefly with my attorney from the original divorce and he feels that she would be awarded 25% of my bonus checks if we went to court and suggests that I look at the expenses that she should be sharing and compare that outlay to what she get in future cuts of bonus checks.
I don't know what to do. I don't feel they would award her any more money in CS because my income has not increased that much in the past 3 years, yet I feel they would award her part of the bonus's.
I'm tired of the threats and I feel she is bluffing because I don't think she has the money to bring me to court.
Isn't she in contempt of court ? And since I am not court ordered to share additional costs, would I have a case here ? I'm in NH and there are a couple of Supreme Court cases that ruled that extra-curicular expenses are included in base CS and unless your final stip states that you are required to share those costs(which mine doesn't), then I should not have to share those costs. Keep in mind I am willing to share those costs, but I want her to pay her half, especially the orthodontists fees.
What should I do here ? Call her bluff or give in and pay all of this stuff ?
Sorry, my thoughts are all over the place and this probably wasn't too clear. thanks for any advice.
Bill
I'm new to this forum and was hoping to get some advice.
Quick background. Divorced 3 years in December. 10 yo son. Ex is PCP, but we my son is with me 50/50 of the time. I have been paying child support on time since the USO went into effect. I earn a base salary and quarterly bonus's. Per the original divorce decree, she does not get any of my bonus's during the original order of the USO(3 years). After that she can request a change,
Every-time we get into an argument about sharing costs etc... regarding our son she threatens to go back to court to get more money out of me. She goes as far as asking me for my last 3 years of Tax Returns, which I refuse w/o a court order.
What started the recent threats are that I sent her an accounting of money I have spent above and beyond CS for extracuricular expenses. Our divorce papers only state that I have to share 50% of uninsured medical expenses, not for extracuricular. I have no issue with sharing those costs and have been since the divorce.
The list of expenses included registration fees for sports, copays I have paid, and most recently the full cost of orthodontist work my son received. When she received my e-mail, she immediately started threatening me with going to court, stating that I earn so much more money than she does and she isn't about to pay her share of any of these expenses, including the palate expander for my son. This is despite the court order for her to pay 50% of uninsured medical.
I spoke briefly with my attorney from the original divorce and he feels that she would be awarded 25% of my bonus checks if we went to court and suggests that I look at the expenses that she should be sharing and compare that outlay to what she get in future cuts of bonus checks.
I don't know what to do. I don't feel they would award her any more money in CS because my income has not increased that much in the past 3 years, yet I feel they would award her part of the bonus's.
I'm tired of the threats and I feel she is bluffing because I don't think she has the money to bring me to court.
Isn't she in contempt of court ? And since I am not court ordered to share additional costs, would I have a case here ? I'm in NH and there are a couple of Supreme Court cases that ruled that extra-curicular expenses are included in base CS and unless your final stip states that you are required to share those costs(which mine doesn't), then I should not have to share those costs. Keep in mind I am willing to share those costs, but I want her to pay her half, especially the orthodontists fees.
What should I do here ? Call her bluff or give in and pay all of this stuff ?
Sorry, my thoughts are all over the place and this probably wasn't too clear. thanks for any advice.
Bill