Going thru divorce & have custody of 12 yr old. Dad has temporary visitation, since June 2012, of every Thurs 6p - 9:30p & every other weekend. Since Aug 21 dad has not kept his Thurs visitation b/c he wants to go/do what he wants & if child doesn't want to go, doesn't have to. Child & I are involved in not-for-profit haunted house & child loves it. Involvement in haunted house requires some schedule changes in visitation & dad refuses to cooperate. I've sent a letter offering several options & dad responds by phone & text that he will not change b/c "court order say this is my visitation time & I'm sticking to it." Child has already missed working one haunted house night b/c of this. This coming up weekend (weekend before Halloween) is also child's birthday & it is my year to have child. Dad has already told child not doing anything for birthday (yes this is how nasty he is). Child wants to work haunted house for birthday & dad again refuses to compromise. I've even offered (in the same letter) several options, including giving dad weekend following halloween (not dad's weekend) as a make-up weekend. Child has already said "I'm going to work haunted house." I'm afraid if I don't force child to go with dad (even though my year to have child for birthday) the police will be called (already happened once b/c child refused to return to dad's after church b/c of nasty things saying about me & my parents -- report states dad is victim of visitation non-compliance & child is perpetrator). I'm afraid I will be arrested or it will cause a problem with my upcoming divorce hearing on Nov 5. Child doesn't want to be with dad & is already seeing a therapist b/c of dad's mental abuse. It kills me to force child to visit with dad. Any ideas? I've already contacted my atty & they've contacted dad's atty. Dad's atty hasn't responded back except to say "I have an appt with ....... & I'll get back to you (my atty)" It is one week before childs birthday & the day I need to make the decision. Please HELP!