Curious what you would expect the outcome would be in my upcoming custody hearing. Married 6 years, had 3rd kid in July '13. Within a few months she started an online affair with an out of state married man. Then took a week long trip to meet him in November, another one in early January, early Feb, and is now on a 3wk trip thru March 1st. I counted about 30 days she's been away from our infant and 2 young kids (3 and 5yr old) so far this year.
I plan to present to the evaluators that she is basically starting a new life meeting this guy on his biz trips at the expense of the development of our infant, as well as the needs of our two other young kids. Plus she plans more trips in the months ahead. While she is traveling, I stay with the kids and/or take them to daycare if I go into work. I live outside the house now, but see them at least 4x during week, and both weekend days regularly. And I am involved as far as dr appts, parent/teacher meetings, etc.
I know infants get special treatment in custody disputes as they need to be with one parent for relationship attachment reasons, but she doesnt seem to be around! She also fails to keep the house clean and organized for them...e.g. playroom is sometimes inaccessible, etc....i have evidence. She just seems overburdened and is unable to cope, so she jets off for weeks at a time to see this guy.
She seems to think nothing of it, like she deserves it or something, but the rest of us are aghast at her behavior. It almost seems like she doesnt want that much custody, or maybe doesnt understand the consequences of her absenteeism. She will have to start working full time, so it seems that our infant and 3yr old will have to be in daycare, so neither of us will be able to be a stay at home parent. Any thoughts/observations on this case?
I plan to present to the evaluators that she is basically starting a new life meeting this guy on his biz trips at the expense of the development of our infant, as well as the needs of our two other young kids. Plus she plans more trips in the months ahead. While she is traveling, I stay with the kids and/or take them to daycare if I go into work. I live outside the house now, but see them at least 4x during week, and both weekend days regularly. And I am involved as far as dr appts, parent/teacher meetings, etc.
I know infants get special treatment in custody disputes as they need to be with one parent for relationship attachment reasons, but she doesnt seem to be around! She also fails to keep the house clean and organized for them...e.g. playroom is sometimes inaccessible, etc....i have evidence. She just seems overburdened and is unable to cope, so she jets off for weeks at a time to see this guy.
She seems to think nothing of it, like she deserves it or something, but the rest of us are aghast at her behavior. It almost seems like she doesnt want that much custody, or maybe doesnt understand the consequences of her absenteeism. She will have to start working full time, so it seems that our infant and 3yr old will have to be in daycare, so neither of us will be able to be a stay at home parent. Any thoughts/observations on this case?