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It really sucks in this state! We are going through a tough battle with my husbands x wife. She has been out of her girls life for 2 years and when her and my husband had them before that she left them at the baby sitters for days at a time. She is on drugs and has been trouble with the law for it. She is also a prostitute and has been convicted of that and alot more. I have been their for the two girls for two years. The mother was never around except for a month out of that whole time put together. The last time she had them she had them useing a kitty litter box to use the bathroom. We have not aloud them to see her sence. She is homeless and has been for two years and has a baby on the way. We went to court to get full coustudy and she is acting like she is some worried mother and they have given her 2 chances to clean up. She has been kicked out of the drug program for not showing up. She can not have the kids she will mess them up more than they are from her. I have worked so hard to make sure the girls are safe. And all they care is the mother!!! My husband is soon to deploy and I dont want to handel this while he is gone. I have all rights to them right now but they tell me I am just a step mother. I really feel like the mother of the girls! I may not have given birth but I am and have been their mother for two years! The courts dont seem to care what she has done. And they seem to not care for what the father feels.

Can some one help!!! I want to know if you can really get a substantial change in circumstances? If so how hard is it to get back your custody?

I am new also to the board we all have our own stories and battle scars. It is hard to see a sight like this and believe this all really goes on. I thought I was all alone in this world and every other women had their kids but it not true. I Find that no matter how hard I try I wont ever get my boys back. The step mother and x are so controling to me. I always have to make some kind of deal with them. Nothing goes through. I keep getting told well we will just have to go to court and you wont win because the judge is a family friend. I am no longer going to make a deal with them. They say I am a bad mom and I dont love them and tell the boys that. I hate explaining to my kids that it is not true. I am re-married and he is in the Navy so I cant live by my boys. And they keep telling me that I am wrong for that. I have no choice where I live right now. I have 3 other children 2 step and a baby that my hubby and I had together. And I am told that I am a piece of crap for taking care of them and all I care about is my hubby and the kids here. I really hate them but what else can I do?

Have you tried looking into a Substantial Change in Circumstances? Look on line undre the state you live in or the State he lives in. It is really hard to go through this and if your son is 12 or over he should be able to choose where he wants to live.

 I have 3 wonderful boys who have been taken from me by the father and it seems like I have went in circles for 5 years!!! I have fought and never won. He had abused me for 7 years and has been in to trouble for it all the 7 years. he has felony charges on him from it. And I dont have my children. He drives drunk with the kids and has wrecked with them in the truck. And he still has the kids. He abuses his new wife. And he still has the kids. I will never win. All I can do now is wait until my boys get older and show them that I was not the bad one. I miss them every day. I have a new wonderful man in my life and 2 step daughters and a new baby 9 month old. But I will always have a missing part in my life. MY BOYS.