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Hi, I am from Windsor, Ontario.

I have an update as well , when I returned to court, the judge appointed the childrens lawyer for my daughter.

However, I am concerned because my daughter is claiming she does not want to see me. Typical PAS.

This is so wrong, and I know in my heart that this just simply is not true. However, I believe it may be more peaceful and less stressful for my daughter to go along with her mother. Her mother is very domineering and my child is afraid of her. I am so concerned though, as I mentioned she has lost alot of weight and appears frail. My daughter has so many times told me that "mommy hates you dad", and I have to defend you all the time to her. She and her mother have all the signs of parental alienation. I guess I can only hope and pray that someone will see through all of this because I know deep down inside that little girls heart , she loves her daddy deeply. And I am good to her,and very proud of her,  she is the apple of my eye , and always has been. I have probably spoiled her a little too much but for me , It is a great pleasure to give to her and to share with her sometimes just brightening her day.

Whenever, Rebecca ever needed or wanted anything including the basics (socks, shoes, school supplies , etc..she would always come to her dad, next thing you know me and Rebecca were out shopping.I have made sure she has never ever gone without. This desires extended beyond just her needs, and more into her wants as I have always had that soft spot for my daughters desires and have done all I can to give her what she wants too.

We shared so many wonderful moments at the movies, out to lunch or dinner, gardening together, vacations, flying kites, rollerblading, playing games etc.

I know in my heart my little girl truly loves me, and I her. As i mentioned in my earlier post after not seeing her for almost 6 months I got to see her for 10 minutes at Christmas, I never felt such a bigger hug in all my life. Her words of Merry Christmas Daddy will not leave my head. I just don't understand this.

This is such a sad siutation, I believe my daughter is caught in a now win situation as she has to go home to her domineering mother who hates me, and deal with all the stress of enjoying a relationship with her daddy. I pray that someone can see through this evil her mother is performing otherwise it could be a life long loss for my little angel.

saddened with the system in Canada

man oh man what a deal you got !!!

something needs to be done when mothers restrict access to children. This women needs to be stopped. I hope you get custody as it sounds like you trully love those boys. Hope all goes well

from canada

wow

Oh i am sure, that this happens quite frequently. It is just too bad that the children are the ones that get hurt the most. Yes the parent on the other side can get hurt , but really think of the long term emotional damage to a child. This is what I believe to be the worst type of abuse around.

People should grow up, get over thier insecurites and do what is truly best for those little hearts.

in canada
wow

I am a father of a wonderful 12 year old daughter. Her and I have a great time when we are together and she truly is the apple of my eye. Her mother has relocated my daughter to 3 different cities since our divorce. I have always had to pick up the pieces of these moves, however never missing a pickup or support payment. I have court ordered access to my daughter.

Throughout all this, I have dealt with PAS on a major major level. IT is so bad that now that my ex wife claims my daughter does not want to talk to me , and refuses to allow me to talk to her on the phone. This is the only contact i have as she lives in a different city.  I am absolutely devestated.

At christmas, I tried in vain to access my daughter my phone , of course only to hear the same response "she does not want to talk to you". I drove to her house contacted the police with my court order and advised them that i wanted to access my daughter as per my court order. The police informed me that I did not have an apprehension clause in my order therefore they could not really do anything. So much for a  $26,000 order i payed a lawyer for. The police however were willing to talk my ex spouse into letting me bring in her presents. When I seen my daughter she had lost at least 25 lbs, she looked frail and defeated. She told me Merry Christmas Daddy , hugged me and whispered in my ear I love you.

Following this the ex brings a motion to the court to deny me "unathorized visits to the home", "an order to not allow me to send gifts for my daughter at her school", "a request to change my daughtes name to follow her new married name" There was also a statement apparently (not sworn) from my daughter that she does not want to see me.

Upon replying to this request, I asked the court to order that she comply with the court order and my access be re instated. The court said without talking to my daughter, simply taking the mothers word that my daughter does not want to talk to me, that Rebecca is 12 and she can contact you if she wishes. So we cannot enforce your order.

My poor little girl is there trapped without a say , and I have never heard from her personally that she does not want to see me, however the police or the courts cannot helpl.

sad situation in Canada.