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Custody Issues / Re: Visitation
Jun 25, 2009, 09:15:52 AM
Excellent advice from both Davy and MB.  You could also consult with an attorney (usually free) and see if you can get your legal fees reimbursed since you are the one being wronged.  That might motivate your EX to follow the order in the future. 
Second Families / Re: disciplin and step kids
Jun 19, 2009, 11:29:46 AM
I think we all need to remember that it's not necessarily accurate to project your experiences on everyone else.  IOW, what you experienced is not always what everyone else is going through.  Not all women are out to hurt their kids, and neither are all men, every situation is *different* and none of us are in a position to pass judgement. 

Quote from: Davy on Jun 18, 2009, 03:33:19 PMYou might consider listening rather than reguritating you rude and obnoxious remarks.

I'll respectfully ask you to consider your own role in this. 
Second Families / Re: disciplin and step kids
Jun 18, 2009, 12:10:42 PM
jessica78, please contact me via the system.  I'd like to share with you an age-old SM theory.  In the meantime, you are not the disciplinarian to your SS, you *are* however to your own kids, so that's the difference if your kids decide to start behaving like your SS.  It's up to dad to parent his child and he can do it even he he's not physically there. 
the only thing you can to do mitigate that is be exactly opposite of what BM says, without belitting BM (never EVER do that).  We vet SWs have an old saying...Take The High matter what.  
General Issues / Sherry gave good advice..
Jul 07, 2008, 10:49:22 AM
she's been more on the LD stepparenting thing than I have, but the only suggestion I can add is to just tell your DH that if he doesn't put effort into seeing his daughter now and trying to work what he deems fair will indeed set a precident against him for the future.  

I think he needs to retain a new attorney.  The BM doesn't get to decide everything.  

I think at the very least suggest your DH come to SPARC and talk to other dads who have been in his shoes.  
Visitation Issues / you have mail.....nm
Jul 26, 2006, 12:22:00 PM
Visitation Issues / welcome...
Jul 26, 2006, 11:59:34 AM
I don't frequent this board, but I'm sad to see your post, noting my friend above who is desperately trying to get the father of her child involved.  I hope someone can offer some real advice, all I can give is support.  Good luck on your upcoming hearing.  Know this, tho, she can't keep your kids from you as a means of "ransom".  Can you at least consult with an attorney?  Usually that's free, and maybe they can make arrangements to set up your representation based on the settlement.  She can't hold on to all of your assets forever.  

Visitation Issues / this is direct, I think...
Jul 26, 2006, 11:51:44 AM
Visitation Issues / man...
Jul 26, 2006, 11:29:12 AM
we really need to get CG and Z together, maybe they'll wear each other out.  I have deemed George Thoroghgood's "You Talk Too Much" as CG's catch song.  You heard it?  Here..
maybe she's with Z.  =)  Once things have evened-out there, I bet you'll feel her.  We're here too.  Come home.