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#31
General Issues / Lost my Favorites
Mar 01, 2004, 12:08:41 PM
My hard drive crashed a week ago and I lost my favorite site addresses.

The main one I am looking for is a site by an non-lawyer who just posted case law appealed to at states most high court.

I don't remember any details of the site but will miss the new cases if I can't get the site back.

Can anyone help?

Thanks
LizaLou

#32
General Issues / Board Technical Question
Jan 08, 2004, 06:17:01 AM
I don't set-up computers and my knowledge in that area is very limited to the non-existent so I need a little help.

My home computer lists the SPARC posts by date with the most recent first.  I have no idea why but it is clearly a good thing.  

My computer at work randomly lists the post in no particular order that I can see.  It's very frustrating to scroll through them all when I'm only looking for the new.  What can to I do to fix this?


Thanks
LizaLou

#33
Second Families / How could she?!
Oct 20, 2004, 08:42:47 AM
I suppose this is primarily a vent.  OSS came to live with us under unusal circumstances in August.  

For a year OSS had been telling is mom he wanted to live with DH.  There were problems in their house because the OSS was beginning to see the PAS tactics used.  He stopped buying into her lies and told her he would not particpate anymore.  BM, grandparents, and her kids by a previous marriage called him a traitor and started to treat him badly.  It really escalated after he returned home from summer visitation.  DH had filed for custody during the summer.  While BM was in jail for contempt of court, the Grandmother kicked OSS out of the home basically because he was a "traitor" and refused to slam his dad.  We got about 4 hours notice that he would be arriving by plane at an airport 1.5 hours away (not our local airport).  He arrived safely and we got home about midnight.

He as been no problem to us, but that is not to say he has no problems.  His confusion is great.  When his mom got out of jail, she agreed with the grandmother's decision to kick him out.  She gave away all his things to Goodwill and blames everything (including her jail time) on him.   She sent him nothing on his birthday except some weird card about "choosing your own path" and "being different from others".  I'm telling you she had to search long and hard for a greeting card like that.  This weekend she sent a pair of shoes  (we bought this summer) and a shirt.  The only reason they were not given away is because she thought they belonged to the YSS.  She also included the book, In Search of Meaning" by Viktor Frankl.  Its about a man's experience in a Nazi prison camp who survived to invent some new psychotherapy.  I suppose it's  to support her theory he has been "brain washed" by DH.

The boy can't sleep and is struggling in school because he just zones out.  His worries are eating him up.   He is so afraid his mother hates him.   Quite frankly she treats him awful.  She has spoken with him twice, both times screaming, cussing and saying "he" was the problem.    She didn't even show up for the temporary custody hearing She told him she does not want to see him for the holidays.  

Last year the court ordered an eval by a counselor selected by the Judge.  He testified as to PA by the mother in court.  Even though not required, DH thought it best to continue contact with this counselor and the children were seen by him at least once for every visitation.  That will really pay off now, because OSS really needs help and already knows this guy.

This is the classic result of PA manipulation and the child is the real victim.  He is afriad of losing his mother's love because he ALSO loves his father.  This is all so unfair, he's just a kid.   Ok, I'm done.

LizaLou
#34
Visitation Issues / She's going to jail!!!!
Dec 23, 2003, 08:15:06 PM
Some of you might remember we were in court last week because the BM denied part of the Thanksgiving visitation (arrived late by greyhound bus and was supposed to leave early but we put him on a plane per the schedule instead).  At the hearing the judge said he would not rule until after the Holidays.  

At 6 PM to night we heard from our attorney.  He said the BM had made at least one phone call to the judge today about not allowing our Christmas visitation.   Well, I guess he got fed up and he issued his ruling about 5 pm today.  The BM is going to jail for 15 days and paying our legal fees.

Does anybody have a clue how this will affect her military career?  She is a Colonel in the Army Reserves.  I thought I read somewhere she could or would be discharged for behavior unbecoming an officer.

We are hopeful the Christmas visit will happen, but not overly confident.  But we plan to make the best of it.

Happy Holidays!

LizaLou

#35
Can anybody pass on some experience with a similar situation as described below?

Our Judge in a previous contempt finding for denying visitation ordered the BM to provide door to door interstate transportation to the BF (no longer meet half-way) as well as 15 days in jail (suspended).

At Thanksgiving the BM's commercial travel arrangements cut the visit in half and the BM specifically refused to allow the BF to transport the child by auto as he was visiting their city anyway when visitation was supposed to have started.

We filed contempt papers with the court.  

I keep wondering if the Judge will say half is better than none and believe her lies about the child having mandatory school.  The school part requires explanation.

The BM says the child  (age 15) had to make up a test.  The guidance counselor said it was ok for the child to miss the Wed before Thanksgiving.  Don't think he'll give us a written statement so its BF word against the BMs.

The important issue about the BF not being able to transport the child is that instead of letting the boy ride with his dad, the BM put him on an overnight (16 hour) Greyhound bus ride.  He missed a connection to arrive over 2 hours late Thanksgiving day and covered in vomit from someone else on the bus - not to mention exhausted and in a bad mood.

For the return trip, we did not send him home a day early has the BM had planned OR by bus.  We bought him an airline ticket.  He was much appreciative, but surprised because his mom had told him there were no more flights available and the bus was his only option since Dad "forced" the visitation.  (It's always dads fault!!)

Thanks for listening and I look forward to your replies.

LizaLou
#36
Custody Issues / Colorado Move Away Laws
Apr 14, 2005, 06:48:36 AM
Just FYI

http://www.coloradodivorcemediation.com/spotlight/relocation.asp
#37
Custody Issues / Change in Custody Due to PAS
Feb 19, 2004, 03:17:55 PM
Anybody been down this road?
#38
Father's Issues / Question for Admin
Aug 18, 2004, 08:05:22 AM
message deleted.      

LizaLou
#39
http://www.clasp.org/DMS/Documents/1064841311.02/EDC_fact_sheets.pdf


The article above is from a site loaded with information.  The site is the Center for Law and Social Policy (CLASP) - Community Legal Services,  Inc.  The text below was cut & pasted from their web site to give you an idea of what they are about.  

I am not endorsing this group, site or political affiliations.  I found it dorking around on the Internet and thought some of you might find it interesting since child support enforcement is one of its tenents.  


LizaLou

http://www.clasp.org/About/About_Home

"The Center for Law and Social Policy (CLASP) was founded in 1968 by Charles Halpern and three other lawyers, with the assistance of Justice Arthur Goldberg. During its early years, CLASP's work focused on women's rights, mental health, environmental protection, international trade, health care for the poor, employment discrimination, and mine health and safety.

Today, CLASP is an organization of program staff whose work is concentrated on family policy and access to civil legal assistance for low-income families. Family policy projects include welfare reform, workforce development, child care, child support enforcement, child welfare, couples and marriage policy, and reproductive health and teen parents. Civil legal assistance projects include "general counsel" to LSC-funded programs and the Project for the Future of Equal Justice."



#40
Father's Issues / Disestablished Paternaity
Jan 27, 2004, 08:06:53 AM
Apparently, I've got way too much time on my hands today.  Found this article while dorking around on the Internet.

LizaLou


http://www.clasp.org/DMS/Documents/1049829469.17/truth_and_consequences3.pdf