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As a slightly off topic point, DH and I just filed our taxes separately because I don't want his ex to have any insight into what I make.  I also claimed our mortgage interest on MY tax return which increased his tax individual base.    We pay quite enough for support and don't want to give the impression we have extra money laying around.



Best,

LizaLou

Contratulations.  Its great to hear a good story every once in a while!

LizaLou

Chances are if you took this back to court, they would set a retro timelimit.  At least that's what our attorney tells us.  The key he says is to to keep asking for them in writing to document your good intentions. You might ask Soc for suggestions.  

The nut we deal with has withheld billings for the past year trying to hide psychological counseling for one child and life threatening heart condition for the other.  She takes great pride in telling the childern and others DH refuses to support his family by not paying medical.

Best of Luck

LizaLou

Does anyone have experience/knowledge of Alabama's Central Distribution Center initiating one of their 4 yr auto review of child support obligations?

Thanks

LizaLou

My own 9 year old is unappreciative to most that I do for her.  The older the she gets the more attitude I see. So I think part of that is normal.  I remember my mom saying I didn't appreciate her either.  

Or it could be a sign of something else going on.  It may be pressure from her Mom to not like you and stir up trouble or get your attention.  My niece does that with her dad and SM.  It's unbelievable how  hateful she can be.  It could also be she is jealous of you having her dad.  My 9 year also has that problem from time to time.  Her SM is sick quite a bit and takes up alot of her dad's time.  The rest of the time he is working.  So she complains she doesn't get his time.  

DH is responsible for his kids. for the most part.  But, it's very important to them that I don't try to replace their Mom.  They are teenagers and I'm cool with that.  If they don't follow OUR rules, DH deals with it.  They are his kids, not mine.  That's not to say I don't love them and do a lot for them.  But I don't take their attitude personal because most of it is just garbage  (dirtly looks, not speaking, etc.) from their mom not them, really.  I also have no problem ignoring them for days.  Usually they come around in a couple of hours because at heart they are good kids.  Thier mom is a real piece of work.  PAS should be her middile name, and lying, manipulative, hateful, narcissistic personality should be used early and often when discussing her.  Her wacko behavior makes me bend over backwards to be nice to my ex.

Best of Luck

LizaLou

Dear Soc,

Alabama divorce in 2000.  (We live in AL – BM lives in Florida.) BM had custody until 2004 when SS was kicked out for wanting to live with DH.  DH got permanent custody in 2005.  The custody battle wasn't pleasant because BM changed her mind and wanted SS back.  Court papers give BM equal access to school.  When DH registered SS in school he made sure they knew to fully cooperate with BM.

There were no school problems until we inquired about SS's pre-paid college.  We found out she cashed it in after he came to live with us.  (You may remember me posting you over Christmas.)  BM is now accusing SS of drug abuse and claims DH is ignoring it.   She says the school must act because she can't parent from Florida.   SS is NOT using drugs and NEVER has.  We cooperated with the school's review and they agree SS is NOT using drugs.   BTW, she never told DH of her drug concerns-we heard it from school.  Anyway, she will not let it go. BM is harassing them and threatening to sue if they don't take her side.  Today, the school was contacted by the Governor's office (yes really) because of her complaints.  

We usually ignore the BM because bizarre behavior and false accusations are the norm.  But this is new to the school and they are asking DH to stop her.  Also, this is different, because her false allegations now fall on an innocent boy (age 17).

1.  Is there anything that can be done by DH or the School?


Thanks ever so much.

LizaLou

Thanks!

Soc,

Divorce is in AL.  Parents bought a State pre-paid tuition college plan  during the marriage.  Plan only allows one "owner" which was the mom on behalf of the son.  Fast forward 10 years or so.  Divorce takes place and parents agree to split remaining college expenses in the settlement agreement.  Initially mom gets custody of son.   About 3 years later at age 15 son wants to live with dad.  After a court battle, dad gets custody of son.  Mom disowns the son and either cashed in the college plan or transfered it to a neice (not sure yet).  Son starts college in the fall.

Contempt doesn't sound right, but isn't there something terrible wrong here?   Did she have the right to give his college away?

What type of action gets filed to recover or repair the "paid" college situation?  Is son out of luck?

Thanks a bunch!  Hope your having a get New Year's.

LizaLou

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Dear Soc,

 What is a borrower occupancy rider to a mortgage?

Thanks

LizaLou