Once you're established as the father (in a paternity action in court, filed by either parent), you have equal rights as a parent. However, there are way more complex things that will determine who will have what custodial timeshare and legal authority.
I agree with the approach suggested by MySonsDad.
I would emphasize (as he mentioned) that you should DOCUMENT all time that you spend with your child, from day one. Keep a personal log, and update it daily with start/end times of the care you provided.
Additionally, since you have a few months, take a parenting class right now. You don't need to tell anyone about it, but it could come in handy if you end up in court to be able to provide a certificate of completion or an affadavit from the class instructor as to your attendance and participation.
You need to do everything to stack the deck in your favor.... and that means being as involved as possible with the newborn child and staying out of court for at least 6 to 12 months while you establish yourself as a very involved parent.
I strongly disagree with the messages of doom a couple folks have insinuated here.
Every situation is different, and none of us know anything about yours. None of us can make any prediction or even an educated guess as to your future.
If you provide a few details (i.e., are you still in the relationship with the mother, do you live with the mother, is the mother a relatively stable person with no sordid background, are you a relatively stable person with no sordid background), it would be helpful in giving you more specific guidance.
On my website, there's a list of books I recommend, some of which would be very helpful to you.
The most important thing, if possible, and as MySonsDad emphasized is to keep this out of the courts at the beginning. The mother does have an advantage with a newborn, especially if she decides to deny your access until court orders are in place.
Good luck. You're starting what could be a very difficult path for you, but the payoff of being a parent is well worth it (most days).
I agree with the approach suggested by MySonsDad.
I would emphasize (as he mentioned) that you should DOCUMENT all time that you spend with your child, from day one. Keep a personal log, and update it daily with start/end times of the care you provided.
Additionally, since you have a few months, take a parenting class right now. You don't need to tell anyone about it, but it could come in handy if you end up in court to be able to provide a certificate of completion or an affadavit from the class instructor as to your attendance and participation.
You need to do everything to stack the deck in your favor.... and that means being as involved as possible with the newborn child and staying out of court for at least 6 to 12 months while you establish yourself as a very involved parent.
I strongly disagree with the messages of doom a couple folks have insinuated here.
Every situation is different, and none of us know anything about yours. None of us can make any prediction or even an educated guess as to your future.
If you provide a few details (i.e., are you still in the relationship with the mother, do you live with the mother, is the mother a relatively stable person with no sordid background, are you a relatively stable person with no sordid background), it would be helpful in giving you more specific guidance.
On my website, there's a list of books I recommend, some of which would be very helpful to you.
The most important thing, if possible, and as MySonsDad emphasized is to keep this out of the courts at the beginning. The mother does have an advantage with a newborn, especially if she decides to deny your access until court orders are in place.
Good luck. You're starting what could be a very difficult path for you, but the payoff of being a parent is well worth it (most days).