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#391
Unfortunately step parents have no rights to the stepkids. Even with long-term relationships. Some states may let you petition the court for visitation if there is an especially strong bond, but not sure about that. Even then, the bio parents would probably have the final say in who can spend time with them (same as grandparents). Sorry.
#392
Father's Issues / RE: wait a minute....
Feb 26, 2004, 11:17:14 AM
My son's exgf gave him custody of their son. At the time, they both agreed to no child support. She told him she would help out but never did, so a year ago he filed for support.

Long story short, she was just found in contempt for non payment. She did have a doctor's note for 3 months while she was pregnant with her now husband's baby (who now lives with the dad's mother, but I digress) but it didn't stop the arrears. She has worked a couple of times but not for long. She has been ordered to participate in a work program until she finds a job. And if she is unemployed in future, she is to report back to the program. This is in effect until the boy (who is 5) turns 18 and her arrears is paid. If she doesn't cooperate she goes to jail.

Check with child support enforcement in your county to see if they have similar programs.

Good luck to your hubby.
#393
Father's Issues / RE: wait a minute....
Feb 26, 2004, 09:05:12 AM
Indy...think about it...
If all you had to do to get out of paying child support was to terminate your rights, there would be a flood of folks to the courthouses and a whole lot of kids without the other parent in their lives.

From the states' point of view...someone has to support the kids rather than the state...just watch your taxes rise...and then there's the money they get for support collected.

I do see your point. I don't know if that's the case everywhere. And it's different if a step parent adopts, of course. Then that person is supporting the child.

Terminating would eliminate the RIGHTS...but not the OBLIGATION.
#394
Father's Issues / RE: About Domestic Violence
Feb 22, 2004, 08:23:05 PM
My DH has known for many years that if he ever hit me, it would be 2 times...the first...and the last.
#395
Father's Issues / RE: No chat for me :-(
Feb 21, 2004, 04:07:25 PM
Hmm...does sound fishy to me too. Wouldn't put that past her. She never complied before.

The last thing GD needs is her mom going in there and undoing all the good they have done. The hospital needs to hold their ground and not take anything BM says to heart.

Give her a hug for us.
#396
Father's Issues / RE: Update..........
Feb 21, 2004, 10:58:26 AM
Glad to hear she is better able to cope now. She is feeling more secure.

Seems you've had trouble getting in chat. What happened with the court issues?
#397
Father's Issues / RE: Prayers needed!!!!!
Feb 19, 2004, 08:07:13 PM
It's about time she got supervised visits.

I hope all goes well.
#398
Father's Issues / RE: Brussels Sprouts!!!
Feb 09, 2004, 06:37:33 PM
Ha Ha! I learned to eat veggies the same way! In the mashed potatoes!
I have always had a thing about the texture of certain foods, and some veggies put me off that way. This way worked for me. Mind you, the only veg I like are peas, carrots and corn and occasionally lettuce with a nice sweet dressing.

Thanks for jogging my memory!
#399
Father's Issues / RE: Toddler starves to death
Jan 31, 2004, 11:53:27 AM
This city is about half an hour from us.

I heard on our news that the baby had been seen by a doctor late last year, and was about normal weight. Apparently the starvation happened after that. Only a few months. They interviewed a young girl who had been in the apartment and said the baby's room smelled like body waste. Someone suggested that she call cps. I bet she wishes she had.

Here is the link: http://www.wkyc.com/akron/akron_fullstory.asp?id=15325

That mother is sick. I don't think there's anything involuntary about it either.
#400
Father's Issues / linkmaker?
Nov 21, 2003, 07:07:18 PM
Can we still access the Linkmaker tool from the boards?