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Long story short:

I remarried and unfairly owe back CS. Anyway, I figured my taxes if filed separately and I would owe taxes to the feds. At the same time, my wife would get a refund. But if we file jointly, we end up getting a bigger refund and I would not owe taxes at the same time. Problem is that the entire refund MAY get intercepted. Does my new wife file an Injured Spouse Allocation form now or later? I feel that if we do file the form now, it may tip of the feds and raise flags so that there will be an intercept. Or do we file an Injured Spouse Allocation form if the entire refund gets unfairly intercepted? Is it too late to file once the refund is intercepted? Also, my new wife is counting on getting her tax rebate from the feds. How will this be affected? Any advice is sincerely appreciated. Thanks.

Thanks for the reply.

Yes, I would like to make this a big issue in court. Problem is, I don't know where to start. What form do I fill out? I do not have an attorney but she certainly does. Furthermore, the system has loads of help for custodial parents seeking child support but nothing for parents seeking court ordered visits. Any info or suggestions welcome.

Secondly, I wanted to get a second opinion from another psycologist but the problem there is that I can't do that without a court order stating this. I also told the social worker that I wanted to see my kids treatment records but he said I have to get the court's permission first. I had previously given him an order stating that I shall have "full access to medical records of the minor children" to which he stalled by waiting to ask my ex first. My ex then wrote the social worker a letter stating that I will need the get court's permission first for this matter. So now the social worker refused to let me see my childrens treatment records.

Please point me in the right direction. Thanks.


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Long story short, there was a long and forced absence from children due to the mother using the children as weapons.

Fastforward to 2 years ago:
The Court Order states ... the children be refered to Mr Social Worker for the continued development of Father/children relationships and implementation of further visitation. The parties shall participate in the recommended therapy and shall cooperate in the signing  releases for records and scheduling the sessions as expeditiously as possible. Order signed on 6-27-06.

It took the social worker 6 months to get records transfered from the previous social worker who was retiring. This translated into over 6 months of no contact with my children due to the system's fault. The long time without visits greatly contributed to the ongoing problem. Who is accountable?

Mr Social worker then gives me two visits with my kid, each less than an hour. He wrote a report stating this recommendation: Continue Supervised visiting until trust develops for all concerned.

Two weeks later I had one more supervised visit with my kid but that was my last one. That was over 18 months ago! The social worker said my child suddenly developed "other mental problems" and could be suicidal if she resumes visitation with me at this time. I knew real problem was PAS and the social worker refuses to see it. He always makes up BS excuses to try to protect the mother. Anyway I was forced into accepting having my kid go for treatment for the "other problems" before any visitation would resume. I stated for the record that I highly disagreed with him and that this would only serve to further alienate me and prevent the father-child relationship from occuring.

Last week, the social worker stated that he has failed and can't help my kid want visitaion. This is pure BS! I am still asking Mr. Social worker to follow the court order and give me visitation with my kid. His response was that no one can force the child to have visits with a parent. I told Mr Social worker that he has the duty and obligation of informing the court that the order is not being followed from the very beginning. Mr social worker won't even do that. Damn deabeat system! My child is now 13 years old. Is there anything I can do?

I have been working on this idea as a way to spread the word and make everyone listen about the unfairness in family court, child support and the need for change! The answer is ringtones!!! Sound good so far? Well I have been working on a way to make ringtones and it is real easy. I bought a $10.00 USB cable so that I can easily upload them to my cell phone but I am sure there are other ways to do this by sending an attachment to yourself (so I hear). I use .mp3 files and rename them to .mid files to get them to play on my cell phone. Anyway I made 2 ringtones as samples and would like to upload them here for anyone to try. If anyone has more ideas for more material like portions of songs or other .mp3 available then please post it here so I can make more :).

Let's make the world listen! I will email my samples upon request.... I think you all will like :)

PS. Thanks goes out to Waylon for his prompt call here this week. I appreciate all he and SPARC does very much.

Hey Mike please wake up! The family court system will screw over 99% of the male population. Please get with the program!..... fact:

... The system does not treat fathers on equal footing. It is severely slanted towards mothers. The Family Court has long been infiltrated by chivilous male judges and radical feminist female judges.

... Even men who are not fathers are charged with punitive CS awards against them... it is called paternity fraud.

... Servicemen who defend our freedoms will come home to find their family destroyed, life changed to the point where they are now criminal simply because their ex wanted a no-fault divorce over their objections and they were not allowed equal protection under the law.

... Most men did not walk out on their marriage.... 80% of divorces are filed by mothers and for reasons amounting to a "growing-apart" or "looking for greener pastures". Politicans, the media and society still blame males for every ill of divorce despite those facts listed above. Ask any politican for help and the standard answer is "There is nothing I can do to help" ..... simply because you are male and it is not PC.

... The system is set up along standards that favor mothers while discriminating against fathers. They call this gender neutral, LOL!

... The default ruling is usually sole custody to moms whenever mom asks for it. All she has to do is incite that the 2 of you don't get along even if the main reason is that she is trying to rip the children out of your life. Your life will become sabotaged in the worst way if you dare go down that road!

... PAS! I don't even want to start on that subject, OUCH!

... I can go on and on and never write enough about the injustices suffered by non-custodials (mostly fathers) and their children... but stay here longer and learn before you become a statistic like the many before you. I suggest you read every single article on this website. I wish I did before I became a seasoned veteran by default. Learn before you are forced to live the horror! Don't get me wrong... there are many great mothers in this world. But the system will lead so many of them along a path of golden dreams (and big government), turning them against what is really in the best interest of their children ..... Since when is the presumption of joint custody not in the best interest of the children?... Only when the role of fathers becomes marginalized and demonized. Already has :(.

I was once in your position and thought very much like you. But there is no way one person can "object" to his own divorce... The divorce will happen even though there is no wrong-doing involved..... I know... and you will be blamed regardless. I ended up being nice to the point where I was taken advantage of and now I have to take this extreme injustice with my children and myself to my grave.... DON'T GO THERE! I see it all the time and it is worse than hell. You and your children don't deserve it either. You will not be treated any better than any other disenfrachised father... You will become a statistic..... DON'T!!!!!!!!! Listen and act accordingly to protect yourself and your children!

My sincere & humble greetings go out to everyone here, especially Waylon, Childrenfirst, KND, Socrateaser, ~Chills and anyone I else I have missed through the recent years.