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It shouldn't be any different since they weren't married.  He's still the father.  

That stuff I posted was in the rules of the court...it's buried way down in it.

Hope everything goes well for you and your DH.  That stuff in the order is the minimal that you should get and maybe get more if you ask for it.

Whatever you do, don't go into an overage.  You will not get the money back until the child is 18.  Find out how much you owe, subtract the amount they took from your tax return and then just pay back that amount in the next 6 months.  

Good Luck,
Tobie

P.S., I'm in Montgomery County and my MIL lives in Miami county in Troy!

Hi,

I got this off the Athens county website under the court rules:
http://www.athenscountygovernment.com/cpc/general_info22.html


24.05 GUIDELINES FOR ALLOCATION OF PARENTAL RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES

(A) The residential parent shall take the necessary action with school authorities of the schools in which the child or children are enrolled to:
1. List the parent who is not a residential parent as a parent of the child.
2. Insure that the parent who is not a residential parent receives copies of any notices regarding the child.

(B) The residential parent shall promptly transmit to the parent who is not a residential parent any information received concerning parent-teacher meetings, school club meetings, school programs, athletic schedules and any other school activities in which the child may be engaged or interested.

(C) The residential parent shall promptly, after receiving the same, furnish to the parent who is not a residential parent a photocopy of the child's grades or reports, or copies of any report concerning the child's status or progress.

(D) The residential parent shall, when possible, arrange appointments for parent-teacher conferences at a time when the parent who is not a residential parent can be present. Whenever possible, such conferences shall be attended by both parents.

(E) The residential parent shall promptly inform the parent who is not a residential parent of any illness of the child which requires medical attention. Elective surgery shall only be performed after consultation with the parent who is not a residential parent. Emergency surgery necessary for the preservation of life or to prevent further serious injury or condition shall be performed without consultation, provided, however, if time permits, the parent who is not a residential parent shall be consulted, and in any event, the parent who is not a residential parent shall be informed as soon as possible.

(F) The residential parent shall encourage frequent communication between the child and the parent who is not a residential parent. The residential parent shall not do anything to impede or restrict communication by phone or mail between the child and the parent who is not a residential parent whether initiated by the child or the parent who is not a residential parent. The mail between the child and parent shall be strictly confidential between them and such mail shall not be opened or read by the other parent. This rule applies equally to the parent who is not a residential parent when the child is on an extended visitation/parenting time with the parent who is not a residential parent.

(G) Both parents shall refrain from criticizing the other parent in the presence of the children.

(H) Neither of the parents shall attempt to modify the religious practice of the child without first having consulted each other.

24.06 VISITATION/PARENTING TIME GUIDELINES

(A) Every decree involving children shall be accompanied by a specific visitation/parenting time schedule. The following is a standard schedule that shall control unless otherwise specified in the journal entry:

1. Alternate weekends from 6:30 p.m. Friday until 6:30 p.m. Sunday. (The beginning and ending times may be varied to accommodate the parents' work schedules.)

2. Mother's Day and Father's Day shall be spent with the appropriate parent. Should this provision require the child to be with the residential parent during the other parent's visitation/parenting time, the parent who is not a residential parent shall return the child by 9:00 a.m. on Mother's Day or Father's Day. Should the reverse occur, the parent who is not a residential parent shall receive the child at 9:00 a.m. on that day and return the child at 6:00 p.m.

3. Alternate holidays as follows:
a) in even-numbered years, the residential parent shall have the child:

(1) President's Day, Friday night to Monday night.
(2) Spring Vacation, 6:30 p.m. on the day school ends to 6:30 p.m. the Sunday prior to school reconvening.
(3) Memorial Day, Friday night to Monday night.
(4) Labor Day, Friday night to Monday night.
(5) Christmas, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.
b) in even-numbered years, the parent who is not a residential parent shall have the child:

(1) Easter, Thursday night to Sunday night.
(2) Fourth of July, night before to morning after except when the 4th falls on Friday, Saturday, Sunday or Monday - then visitation/parenting time shall continue the night before and continue to end of weekend or end of holiday, whichever is later.
(3) Thanksgiving Day, Wednesday night to Sunday night.
(4) Christmas Vacation and New Years Day, December 26th at 9:00 a.m. until the night of the end of the New Years Holiday.

c) In odd-numbered years the schedule stated in 3 a) and 3 b) shall be reversed between the parents.
d) Other days of special meaning, such as religious holidays or Martin Luther King Day should be decided by the parties together, written down, and alternated.

e) Unless otherwise indicated in an entry or these rules, holiday visitation/parenting time shall begin and end at the same times as weekend visitation/parenting time. Holiday visitations/parenting times have precedence over the regular visitation/parenting time schedule, but shall not otherwise modify it.

4. The parent who is not a residential parent shall have extended summer visitation/parenting time up to four (4) weeks duration. These extended times supercede the alternating weekend visitations/parenting times, i.e. a nonresidential parent may not begin an extended time on a Monday following an alternating weekend, or end an extended time on a Friday before an alternating weekend, as a means of lengthening the extended visitation/parenting time. Alternating weekends shall begin again two weeks after the end of the extended visitation/parenting time.
The parent who is not a residential parent shall attempt to coincide his or her vacation time with summer visitation/parenting time. The parent who is not a residential parent shall notify the residential parent no later than May 15th each year of the weeks summer visitation/parenting time will be exercised. Summer school necessary for the child to pass into the next grade must be attended.

5. The child's birthday shall be celebrated in the residential parent's home, unless it falls on a visitation/parenting time day. The parent who is not a residential parent may celebrate the birthday at another time if desired.

6. For parents residing in different locations that make the above schedule impractical, visitation/parenting time shall be, at a minimum, as follows:

a) Christmas vacation (including Christmas Day) in alternate years;

b) Spring vacation every year;

c) up to six (6) weeks summer visitation/parenting time every year;

7. Visitation/parenting time may occur at such other times and places as the parties may agree.

(B) Both parents shall be diligent in having the children ready and available at the appointed times. The child and/or residential parent have no duty to await the nonresidential parent for more than thirty (30) minutes. A parent who is late, unless he or she suffers an unavoidable vehicle breakdown or delay enroute and promptly notifies the residential parent of the delay, shall forfeit visitation/parenting time for that time period.

(C) The parent who is not a residential parent should give twenty-four (24) hour notice to cancel visitation/parenting time. If a child is ill, the residential parent should also give twenty-four (24) hours notice if possible.

(D) The residential parent shall send with the child sufficient clothing and other wear appropriate to the season to last the visitation/parenting time period.

(E) Visitation/parenting time does not include leaving the child with a non-family member while the nonresidential parent pursues his or her own pleasures or activities.

>One thing you can do, is find out if DH remembers what time of
>year he did the deed. It takes 40 weeks to have a full term
>baby.

This is not necessarily true.  Full term is 37-42 weeks.  I had my baby at week 38.5 and he was considered full term.  Many babies are late.  Most doctors induce by week 42, though.  There's a 5 week window there.

longship
NCSM to 2 boys
BM to my little guy
DH - my wonderful husband