Please, please do not allow this to go on! One day there will be no stopping point and he may very well kill you and then what happens to your children? They live with him and grow to be like him. I know that this is VERY scary as it would be for anyone, but please push your fear of the "community" turning against you, and step out on faith. There are ALOT of people out there, and I am sure in your city that are willing to help YOU. You will have to be willing to be an outcast, but I promise that the reward will be greater than anything you can ever imagine. I know that we come from very different religions with different beliefs, but just as you said, "Islam does not encourage abuse" and that it is kept in the dark. What that tells me is that your religion does not condone abuse anymore than mine. I will also guess that murder is also not okay as it is not okay in mine. That is where this is going. I also know that no matter who your higher power is, he/she would not be angry with you for stepping out and saving your own life, and for that matter, the lives of your children. I am not judging you. It does hurt my heart to know that if the wind blows today, you maybe in a coma becasue your husband doesn't like the breeze. I know what it is like to lose a parent at an early age...it is something that you can never shake. The pain never goes away...I want you to be around to see your grandchildren be born...