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Judge Goldberg,
 
It was with great interest that I have read and followed your rulings in this case.  You see this case is somewhat similar to the one that my fiancé is currently going through.  His ex Wife has accused him of all sorts of abuse just prior to long parenting time periods and then she drops the case after she gets the time taken away.  
 
We need many more Judges who are willing to step up to the plate and let ANY parent who is not placing the best interests of the child above their own - that it will not be tolerated.  Our children are the future of our society.  This mom proved to me that she does not hold dear her children by her placing her kids in the media spotlight when they went with their dad.
 
I applaud you in your decision.  I only hope you will have the courage to continue to put the best interests of the CHILDREN before their parents needs.
 
Best Regards,

Boy, we have been away from awhile and I am glad to see a lot of old friends still here!

DH is looking for a good, communicative fathers right attorney in NE Ohio.  

Any recommendations?

TIA!

Congrats from one OH CSM to ANOTHER!

You will be in our thoughts and prayers!

Hey Patton,

Did you hear about the soldier in Dallas who was awarded primary custody of his son when he divorced who has been the primary care giver AND had to turn the child over to his mother or get out of the Army?


The Army would not let him out so he went to court to fight it - Judge gave him the choice - dont deploy or give up your son.

DH has seen this happen many times - women in his unit can take whatever days they need to in order to get their affairs in order if they have kids, if you are a man - well you dont get them.

Once he had a court hearing to attend out of state while on his two weeks - his commander wouldn't let him make up the time -BUT two women in his unit were allowed to do home base AT because they had child care issues and could not be away from the home.  DH asked for a homebased AT - he was told - the AR only allows women to get it if they have kids, men are not included in the AR.

Isn't that great?!?!?

I understand you mean well, but SS's mom did this after she relinqueshed custody in Sept of this year.

The counselor that he was going to stated that it was not in the kids best interest and that mom was being detrimental to his mental health.  Mom is now restricted in her phone conversations and postal mail.  All must be monitored.

Be careful!  Do send the pictures and packages though

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Glad you got on the show and were able to tell your side of the story.  It will be interesting to see what happens.  

Good luck!

She is 6 right?  You can probable still pick her up and place her in his car  and let her know that you love her and will see her in a couple of days.

My SD cries when she gets in our car and makes her mom all worried.  Within 2 miles she is laughing and ggiggling with Dad.  Why does she do this?  I haven't a clue but she does enjoy her time with Dad.  then about an hour before she goes home, she switches modes and wont say I love you   or hug us or anything.  Again why?  I haven't a clue.

Her therapist says she is trying to disengage from her dad so she doesn't miss him as much and about the crying with mom - she says she is trying to please her mother.

Anyway, I digress.  Good luck!

Here are my suggestions..

Is daughter in counseling?  If so, with Dad?  It seems that your daughter might feel abandoned by her Dad since she did enjoy seeing him on every 2nd weekend.

I would use tough love.  As her mother you are obligated to ensure that she has a relationship with her Dad.  This is what I would do..

I would tell use a reintro phase such as one overnight for 2 visits then 2 overnights.  During this time, let her be with her Dad and let him deal with her.  Do not talk with her for the time she is gone.  She and Dad need to figure this thing out.  You can be there for her when she comes home and to help them work through this together.

Just my two cents!