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#31
Dear Socrateaser / Oh but they can...
Jan 24, 2004, 08:29:16 AM
We do the delivery confirm thing too and this is what SD said to us recently -

Mommy says that the post man lied - he did not give her anything and you did not mail it.  I want my stuff - please mail it to me
#32
Parenting Issues / RE: FERPA and visiting school
Sep 10, 2005, 11:38:25 AM
Most states have laws that allow both parents equal access.  We have the same clause as you do and it works fine after they had thier lawyer review it!

You need to be very nice as you dont know what she told them about you.

This happened to my DH.

Check you state laws or tell me what state you are from.
#33
How old is he?  I have a lot that we use but it depends on the age.
#34
Parenting Issues / RE: Surprisingly, no
Jan 16, 2005, 10:22:03 AM
My SS is the same way when he is with his mother.  We are custodial now and when he is here with us, he is loving and talkative.

When he visits his mother for the breaks, etc - He is mean, spiteful, I hate you, one word answers or - Hi Dad, I cant talk, we are going to the movies, etc and then hangs up on Dad if Dad tries to talk to him.

When he had a therapist she said that he projects mom onto Dad and Dad onto Mom. he hold himself to be as an adult with mom and an equal to her.  

Kids react to the stress they are under and they also want to please the parent they are with.  SS will get in trouble with his mom.  although she relinqueshed custody, she will tell SS all sorts of stories and promises, for instance she told him he had to come home as his sister needed a playmate - He said that is what our older sister is for - mom said no- that is what you are for...

Or he asked her when she was going to see him in Jan - she said you wont be living with him in Janu - he siad okay mom when are coming to see me in January?  She made a couple more stupid comments to him and he redirected her.  

Since when did I think a 11 year old would be able to redirect mom!

Hang in there and know that your kids love you!
#35
Kaylene,

I have no advice for you.  The situation you are is the same one that we were in with SS.  Mom said he was an adult and therefore was responsibale for his grades and his work.  The child was in 5th grade! 10 years old!

We talked with his teachers, got assignments that we did with him when he was here and tried to talk with his mom.  Some of this worked but talking with his mom never did.

Child passed as D's are considered passing in OH.  We filed for custody for this reason and a host of others.  GAL report was in our favor and SS is here now.  

He has been here 3 weeks and his doing okay.  School work was a battle at first but now it is easier.  At his midterms, he has 3 A's, 1 B, and 1 C.  Interesting that his grades are doing better with a little monitoring and interaction with him and his teachers.

Good luck!  My prayers are with you!
#36
General Issues / RE: The GAL is not
Sep 25, 2005, 05:47:24 AM
In the two counties we deal with, the Judge will go with the GAL 95% of the time.

with SS - it was the GAL that recognized all the abuse and lovely stuff BM was doing.  DH is now custodial.

with SD - BM blocks all visitation, yet the Evaluator report says kid needs to stay there.  GAL will decide what the best visitation schedule is since DH has 10% of the time and BM has 90% which is way off for a LD visitation schedule.
#37
General Issues / RE: I did take the test
Sep 10, 2005, 07:19:50 AM
Thanks Hagatha!

That was very nice to hear and may end up happening with DH's oldest.

As for his youngest. We will see.

Forthelittleones
#38
General Issues / RE: Update on GAL
Sep 08, 2005, 05:18:10 AM
The case is in OH.  So far, the Judge and GAL do not like Mom and think she is harming the child.  Even the old GAL said that if mom continued to deny dad, then a change of custody was in order.

We will see what the report says.
#39
General Issues / RE: Update on GAL
Sep 03, 2005, 09:14:00 AM
It is interesting in Feb 2004, BM dropped the case.  DH then filed for it to be heard as he felt mom was using the system against him.  Finally in July 2005, we took the tests and interviews.  We are currently waiting for the report - should be any day now.

Wow - time really flies!
#40
General Issues / Cell Phone Recorder
Jun 23, 2004, 08:48:40 PM
Hey All,

Sometime ago, I bought a cell phone recorder so that DH could record calls.  Well, we could never get the thing to work.  Recently we found out that it will work on most cell phones but not Nokia.

I bought it for like 19.99.  I would like someone to be able to use it.  For the cost of shipping and a small donation (will leave the amount up to whomever wants it), I will ship it to a needy parent.  I can take pictures of it and send them as well.

Just respond or PM me if you want more details.