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It was the principal that told us they could only give us a copy of the grade card.We are trying a differant route through her new teacher.We went to a meet and greet so to speak at school a couple days ago and met her.We didnt say one word bad about mom,he told her who we were.And asked alot of questions about their daughter.She seemed a little more forth comeing about what was going on.And offered info that we had no idea was going on with the child.To be honest my husband doesnt mind paying the support if he seen more of a reflection that it was doing his daughter some good and not just mom.He feels he's the only one that will make shure she'll have what she needs through life.As to a GAL there was one in the past and he more or less wipe his hands clean of the case and asked out.Right after she had a big time fit in the court room and wouldnt agree to anything.She does things like that alot and they still feel best that it stay as she being res. parent.Mainly because my husband didnt know that their daughter was his untill she was around 1 and a half 2.And we lived out of state for a few years.We came back because of his daughter.Here i go telling my life story,sorry!Its nice to talk to someone who has some idea what your going through.Thanks.

I didnt mean to sound ungrateful for the info,it was very helpfull.It gets to be a headache dealing with his ex.She wants us to take their daughter every weekend during school except, thanksgiveing and christmas weekends or when she's mad.Summer time its three weekends a month.My husband is the total support going into their home.It only changes when the other childs father pays.He supports the children,ex and new husband.We have dealt with her haveing lice,smelling and lack of food in the home.The child is at and age her school peers are noticeing she's not clean and  she's acting like she is 5 or 6 and they are teasing her.It all tends to get to you.All her mother wants from us is income and us to take her weekends when she's got plans,wich is most weekends.We most likely wont get half of what he'd like.The school stated the only thing they give him is a copy of her report card,nothing else.We asked already.And there isnt any court order stateing he isnt allowed to have it.My husband pays out the butt in support and hardly ever see's anything new on this child.But mom and step-dad you do.Sorry to go on and on it gets to be a nightmare.Hope you all have better luck than us with ex's.            Thanks again!!

What parts of the current relationship with BM that arent working are we get their daughter about every weekend untill she gets pissed off about something.And the hoiday sticking pionts are thanksgiveing,christmas.And she doesnt want him to have info on anything to do with school grades ect.And we can prove she's (daughter) been here alot on the weekends because she'll get of the scool bus here,most the time.We are in the same school district and only live a 15 min. trip away from BM home.

What he'd like to have visitation wise would be.....Everyweekend-after school on friday- to 4:00 p.m. on sunday.Holidays-memorial+labor day weekends the same.Every other year Thanksgiveing Day.Years that arent his ,6:00p.m. friday to 6:00p.m. sunday for thanksgiveing break. Christmas break(two week period)one week of that.With visitation on Christmas day of 3:00p.m. to the following morning at 9:00a.m.Fathers day weekend 6:00p.m.friday to 4:00p.m. sunday.If her birthday falls on a weekend he gets her,during the week she does.If not on his weekend,be allowed to call her on her birthday.Also if we ever have the money to go on vacaition for a week she be allowed to go.What do you all think?

Wonder if these guidelines are  just for couples who were married or are they the same in all case'es?My husband was never married to the childs mother.We didnt see anything stateing they would be differant.Thanks again.

Thanks alot for the info.We had been on that web page before but some how missed it.This will give us something to go by.My husband has been wanting to go back and get a shedule set by the court,but wanted to have some idea what he could ask for with out sounding overly demanding.He has moved to Ohio to be closer and more involved with their daughter,and its not working out very well without a new shedule by the court.Thanks again!!

Does anyone have any info on athens county standered visitation guidelines.My husband and i have returned to the state,he has a daughter here with and ex- girlfriend.He wants to increase his visitations with her.We have looked on the web and called the court house ,we didnt find anything on the web and the court house sent us all differnt ways that didnt pan out.Eny info you can give us,we'd be grateful.

Sorry i didnt notice the date on the post.Still hope some of the info might help.Hope things are going well.

What is her response to you wanting joint custody?Most county's in Ohio dont give joint/physical custody to the fathers.Physical custody or Residential Parent as they put it most always goes to the mother when the parents arent married,during the tender years as they put it.Unless she agrees to it .But do try to get all rights possible,you could be one of the frist to get custody!My husband didnt learn that his daughter was his(with ex girlfriend)untill she was about a year or older and its been a battle sense.When making out a list of what times you want ect. always think of what you might like later on to happen and work that in some how.If she is on any kind of state medical card, plan on paying them back all cost of the birth.If there is an DNA test taken by them(state) plan on paying for that to.And i'd pay my support through the support office or at lease wright it on any checks you give her.If they or she files for support ,plan on paying from the time its filed, what ever amount the state figure's out.THEY WILL GO BACK TO THE FILE DATE!And i cant sress this enufe wright everything down!!!Phone calls,visits any contact that you have with her ,your child ,doctors,other family mebers of hers.This will come in handy later.Write the time something started when it ended and what was said.I cant stress that enufe.And if you can aford a lawyer now, go talk to one or legal aid.Once again i stress involement,record keeping,thinking what youll want in the future and if you can a lawyer!!Best of luck.

It took about 6 weeks for my husband to get his results back,and they did come cert.letter.They also give you a certain amount of time to respond.They gave him 14 days from the date on the letter to file written ojections to the introduction into evidence of the results.If he isnt the father they will most likely look for the real one,and see what the situation is with him before making a ruleing.