If your former spouse and you share legal custody, and she decides to cooperate with a dna test while the child in question is on visitation with her, as long as she notifys you, there might not be a way to stop it.
As to the "potential father" wanting to know now, there might be issues on the horizon regarding shared time with the "potential father", as well as another visitation modification including him...unlikely, as I agree...where was this guy the last 10 years?
You are the boy's father, no matter what. You have been raising him as your own, with no distinction between him and his brothers, and you'll continue to treat him as your own, no matter the results of a dna test.
Hereditary health issues, while possibly a valid reason for a test, seem pretty lame to me...is there a possibility your former spouse and the "potential father" are dating, or are looking to? This might be a shot across the bow of things to come, and taking the initiative (as you are already doing) is a great idea.
I'm not going to pretend to know the laws in your state, but I'd definitly get a free consultation with an attorney, to see what steps need to be taken, if any.
Hang in there, I'm sorry to hear about your former spouse doing this to your family.
As to the "potential father" wanting to know now, there might be issues on the horizon regarding shared time with the "potential father", as well as another visitation modification including him...unlikely, as I agree...where was this guy the last 10 years?
You are the boy's father, no matter what. You have been raising him as your own, with no distinction between him and his brothers, and you'll continue to treat him as your own, no matter the results of a dna test.
Hereditary health issues, while possibly a valid reason for a test, seem pretty lame to me...is there a possibility your former spouse and the "potential father" are dating, or are looking to? This might be a shot across the bow of things to come, and taking the initiative (as you are already doing) is a great idea.
I'm not going to pretend to know the laws in your state, but I'd definitly get a free consultation with an attorney, to see what steps need to be taken, if any.
Hang in there, I'm sorry to hear about your former spouse doing this to your family.