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Amazing how they change their tune when they're the ones having to pay.  If your SO couldn't pay his bills I bet she didn't care as long as she got the CS. Now the shoe is on the other foot and it's a little tight. Imagine that??

You're soon to be hubby is right.  He needs to file to have her wages garnished and get payment through CSE.

Don't you have a child support order issued by the court?  Is money paid directly to you or through child support enforcement?  Why haven't you filed contempt of court or motion/order to show cause?  What State do you live in?

I wouldn't bother with any of companies that claim to help you collect child support.  They're making money for themselves not you. The court is the appropriate place to go for this sort of thing.  If Child Support Network found him once why didn't they find him when he ran?

And as the wife of a man who pays child support for 2 children, I can tell you that he's definitely not living the life of a king and I dayum sure ain't living a life of luxury.  Every month we have to pick and choose what bills we're going to pay and still have money to buy groceries and gas so we can get to work everyday.

Yeah....I believe that's part of the statute on CS.  If you're in arrears of $500 or more they go after you.  May just be state specific and where you live it may be different.

We live in NC too.

I called the enforcement officer that signed the letter yesterday because they wanted a response from DH before 08/26. He was out of town and wasn't going to be back until 8:00 last night.  I just called to let her know he'd gotten the letter and that he was out of town and hadn't had a chance to call her before he left.

I explained to her how it was coming out weekly as ordered, that he didn't have the money to pay it off and that even if he did BM wouldn't get the full amount because it would be divided due to prior CS order.  She was actually pretty nice about the whole thing.  Of course, she was trying to "encourage" me to have DH pay it off since he's so close to being caught up.

If I understood her correctly the reason why they sent out this letter is because they're reviewing everybody's file who is in arrears $500 +.  They will then be notifying the IRS of those who are in arrears and then sending out letters informing NCP's that their federal tax refund will go towards unpaid child support.  Oh well, IF we even have a federal tax refund then they can have it just so DH can get caught up on this crap. The State has taken part of our refund for the past 2 years.  Haven't had a federal tax refund in the past 2 years because DH did side work and reported taxes on that money at the end of the year.  He hasn't done that this year so will be interesting to see if we get a refund or not.  You can believe I'll be filing an innocent spouse form!

I was surprised she actually talked to me. Most of the times they're all snippy and saying they can't discuss it with me because I'm not a party.  Although I understand their reasoning it still irritates me because it DOES affect the income of my household.

DH called me before he left for the airport and I told him about the conversation.  He tried calling her as well but she was gone to lunch.  He's going to try calling her again on Monday.

I am envious!!  Thanks for reminding me that this too shall pass and that there really is a light at the end of the tunnel. Enjoy! :)

DH got a form letter in the mail yesterday about his child support.
stating that he is behind in his support payments, last payment they received was on 08/09/05, he is supposed to pay $560.00/month for child support, $25.00/month towards arrears and that his past due support is $626.08.  Well duh!!  He's been in arrears since CS was modified in August 2003.  Modification was filed in May 2003.  As we all know that creates an automatic arrearage.

What's really stupid about the whole thing is: 1) CS and amount for arrears is withheld from his WEEKLY paycheck.  The amounts that are whithheld are EXACTLY what the withholding ORDER states they should be for a weekly pay period and 2) when he was approximately $2K in arrears (due to the retroactive nature of modification) they NEVER bothered him.  Now that he's got it down to where there's light at the end of the tunnel they want to start bitching and demand he pay it in full immediately.  HA!   Needless to say, when DH read this letter he was furious.

And ya know what is even more stupid?  Even if he COULD pay the $626.08 the BM wouldn't get the full amount because he has a PRIOR child support order so ALL child support that comes in is DIVIDED between the two!!  What a bunch of dumbasses.

I suspect that what has happened is: DH now gets bonuses.  The first bonus check he received he didn't actually get because it went to child support.  Seeing the handwriting on the wall they're probably gearing up to take him back for an increase.  Also, the BM is in a custody/CS battle with her ex over their two children.  Things may not be going or may not have gone good there so she's trying to recoup her losses.

I swear...some days I think we just need to find a deserted island where we can't be found to get away from all this bullshit.

Thanks for the update and sorry to hear he's being such an a$$.  Unfortunately it's illegal to kill him. *sigh*

Do you know where he works?  Just imagine the harrassment he would get from the guys at work when the sheriff shows up to serve him.  Not to mention the grief he'll get from his employer for bringing his personal business into work. )(

Good luck!

You could get an attorney to order his driving record.  That will tell you traffic violations and will show the date of any suspension of his driver's license.  I think an attorney is the only person who is able to request/receive this information.  Look on the DMV website and there should be information on how to order a driving record and who is authorized to request one.

I would think he'd have to get the arrears paid off.  Check the laws in your State or call child support enforcement and ask them.

I'm with ya on that one!  My DH has a 7 year old daughter (soon to be 8) and I'm doing the countdown for her.  He also has a 4 year old son (soon to be 5).  Doing the countdown on him too!  LOL  The only problem I have with the final countdown....once it's all said and done I'm gonna be too old to enjoy the extra money.  Guess it will help pay for my medications! LOL  Uur DD will be 16 when her brother turns 18, which will free up money for prom dresses, HS ring, graduation expenses, etc.  Come to think of it...it never ends does it??!! ARRRGGHHHH