Thanks for the insight. When I was trying to work with ncp regarding football, practices started his half of summer which happened to be the second half. I did not know that practices were during the summer as son had never played high school football before. If I had known, would have suggested that the ncp take first half of the summer so that it didnt interfere with parenting time.
Being that we have two children and one plays basketball and the other wanted to play football, three was major conflicts. Our current order specifies make up time when extracurriculars interfer to be on the ncps alternate sundays not to extend beyond 8:00pm and I agreed to 9:00.
NCP was insisting on 9:30pm and lives 1/2 hr away therefore by the time I got kids home it would be 10:00pm and after 11:00pm by the time kids got to bed. Besides which, I work midnights and usually go to sleep with the kids go to bed at 10:00pm.
Once I said I prefer to pick the kids up at 9:00pm the ncp said well I will have to think a bout it. Then I received a letter in the mail stating that the only way the kids could participate in the extracurriculars is if I drove all over the state to pick them up and return them. There was no way the ncp was going to cooperate with me regarding that matter.
I have offered in the past for the ncp to always keep the kids until 8:00pm on his alternate Sundays even if there is no time to makeup and the ncp refuses.
Have filed a motion with the friend of the court to have a more specific parenting plan.
Just getting suggestions as to options as I am very open to trying to work things out. No matter what I offer or how many options I throw out there the ncp isn't going to budge.
In the past have requested mediation several times and ncp refuses to attend, writes letter back to the friend of the court stating that the cp is not willing to compromise therefore feel the mediation should be cancelled.
I feel like I try my best to compromise and the ncp constantly blames me for not trying.
Being that we have two children and one plays basketball and the other wanted to play football, three was major conflicts. Our current order specifies make up time when extracurriculars interfer to be on the ncps alternate sundays not to extend beyond 8:00pm and I agreed to 9:00.
NCP was insisting on 9:30pm and lives 1/2 hr away therefore by the time I got kids home it would be 10:00pm and after 11:00pm by the time kids got to bed. Besides which, I work midnights and usually go to sleep with the kids go to bed at 10:00pm.
Once I said I prefer to pick the kids up at 9:00pm the ncp said well I will have to think a bout it. Then I received a letter in the mail stating that the only way the kids could participate in the extracurriculars is if I drove all over the state to pick them up and return them. There was no way the ncp was going to cooperate with me regarding that matter.
I have offered in the past for the ncp to always keep the kids until 8:00pm on his alternate Sundays even if there is no time to makeup and the ncp refuses.
Have filed a motion with the friend of the court to have a more specific parenting plan.
Just getting suggestions as to options as I am very open to trying to work things out. No matter what I offer or how many options I throw out there the ncp isn't going to budge.
In the past have requested mediation several times and ncp refuses to attend, writes letter back to the friend of the court stating that the cp is not willing to compromise therefore feel the mediation should be cancelled.
I feel like I try my best to compromise and the ncp constantly blames me for not trying.