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My first time posting here, please correct any errors I've made so I can post better next time. :)

I had been married 4 years in NM. My wife and I separated earlier this year, with the intention of having a break; once the separation occurred, it changed to a divorce. My wife moved to TX where her family was, and took our two toddlers with her. She agreed to allow very reasonable visitation with our shared children our separation/divorce/custody was reasonably amicable.

My wife and I had already started the divorce process once she and I agreed divorce was the option we agreed upon. Two months after starting the divorce proceedings, we reconciled for many reasons and have chosen to stay together. Upon reconciliation, I moved to TX to be with my wife and children that we shared together. She and I resided in Texas together for 5 months; we were both enrolled in college there.

Prior to me and my wife separating, I was reintegrating back into my first child's life, in NM. I had requested a break from visitation, so that BM could potty train my first child, who then was 3 yrs. old. After the break, BM manipulated my kindness and said that SD had forgotten me and a reintegration period was required.

Immediately after finding out that I had moved to TX, my first child's BM filed for sole custody; on the basis that I was unable to maintain a relationship with my child living in TX. At the hearing BM's hearing attorney tried to say that BM couldn't make decisions for SD because of the joint-custody. That BM and I were unable to communicate, the Judge was very adamant that he would not reward our lacking skills by awarding BM with sole custody of my first child.

BM has never called me regarding my first child. Not when she took her to the ER, not when she takes her to the doctor's office, nothing, and it was my understanding that was the premise of joint custody. BM had her attorney complaining about making decisions, because she's incapable of making decisions period, not because of sharing joint-custody with me. BM is heavily reliant on her parents; BM's mother is who makes the decisions for my first child, not BM.

At the hearing I was giving every other month, one overnight as well as telephone contact EOW. BM was not pleased about this, and sobbed copiously which she does at all hearings, the court psychologist identified this as part of BM's passive-aggressive manipulative behavior she uses to control people. BM's attorney said that she couldn't believe that the judge was awarding me an overnight, being that I have not had an overnight in 2 years.

The judge told her if she did not like his decision, that's what the appeals process was for. BM's attorney rambled on how my first child's psychologist was saying she was not yet ready for overnights, because she was wetting her pants at the prior supervised visitations by BM. The judge said it was his decision to grant the overnight, because the Court Clinic's recommendations had been to award physical custody to me.

It's my opinion that my first child was stressed about the visits because BM was there, supervising them, and making her anxious, having the two of us together. So... on to the questions.

1.   After BM's attorney sending us her notice of appeal (which she has done, filed one day shy of the 30 day cut off) what will happen next?

2.   Who will hear BM's appeal to the order?

3.   How long will the appeal process take, assuming they choose to lobby forward with it? (Now that I'm back in NM, being they're taking a high chance that I'll be awarded more parenting time, which BM does not want.

I have the order they are appealing, the notice of appeal, and the recording from the hearing (purchased from the courthouse). Let me know if you would like to view/listen to any of these.

I have thought and discussed with my wife about getting the firefly for my child.

My wife and I have come to the agreement that it would cause more agitation than it would benefit my child.

I would ask myself a question prior to purchasing the cell phone: What is the likelihood of the CP allowing the cell phone to be kept and utilized?

I do think that if the child is old enough to know how to use a phone that he should have access to call the NCP without having to go through the CP and get the "why do you want to call NCP?" every time.

I think that if you can convince the CP that it will benefit her as well, that she will be able to contact the child at all times, and in case of an emergency he's able to call 911.

In my opinion, yes she's too young, however what she's saying she may not fully understand.

I would mention it to her Mother, as well as talking to her about this "boy," and what she thinks about him, etc. :D Doing it nonchalantly will make the conversation more comfortable for her.

I have, I filled out the email on the Glenn Sacks site, and I've done 15 different PBS stations in my state, sending them emails to the station manager, and the state next to me... they've heard me, loud and clear.

CNTD

As the other's have said:

Go down to the court house, most larger court houses (I'm unsure of where specifically you are in Colorado was it?) will have a pro-se division, that has papers that you just fill in the blanks.

File a motion to establish paternity. Most judges (if they're not sexually biased) will have the parties split the testing fee.

With the motion to establish paternity, you should request time with the child, probably weekends, and have him one weekday evening for a few hours during the week, usually Wednesday.

That's just a motion basically what you are wanting with him, then his ex-girlfriend will have so many days to either respond, or hire an attorney to respond for her, in response to the motion you put in.

Goodluck.