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No, you don't get it and yes liars come in both genders but this issue is not simply about liars.  While there may be exceptions (like Indy) the broad overall issue is Gender bias in the so-call legal system.  It goes far beyond family matters where females have a blatant favortism making the whole system a complete farce.  

DUAL STANDARDS are prevalent in drunk driving cases, personal injury suits, real estate tax matters, traffic court,  apartment evictions, and on and on and on.  It is likened to being forced to serve involuntarily in a combat zone.  Unless you've had the experiences ... you really don't know.

The entire system is broken.  It's like someone burnt the court house down while nobody else was looking and we are left rambling thru the ashes for a flicker of justice and decency.

"I was thinking civil action, is that a possiblility? I hate it when liars get away with everything."

Geesh !!  I guess some refuse to GET it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Geesh !!

Congratulations to you and your son!

I couldn't agree more !   Filing first gives emphasis to the most important issue ... the well-being of the children...irregardless of the
the other parent's selfish needs or whatever.  Besides, she may decide to move tomorrow rather than 6 months....and you were warned and did nothing (in the eyes of the system).  I would strongly urge you to continue to develope a plan and execute as soon as possible.

Could ya'll kindly and respectivefully move your club from the father's issue board ...don't ya think enough is enough ....geesh....purdy please !

It may not cost more to have an attorney that needs to travel to a 'good ole boy' jurisdiction and if an attorney tells you that you probably don't want to retain that attorney anyway.  

I found an IL attorney over the phone from TX (home state) that monitored (approx. a year without retainer) the IL and TX proceedings. From the very beginning he seemed MOST INTERESTED IN THE CHILDREN and the jurisdiction the case was in was known to be particularly corrupt.  He traveled the 100 miles roundtrip to pick up the entire case files from the home boy attorney one afternoon and returned the following morning for the hearing.  He called me in TX from the IL whorehouse that morning during the hearing and we decided to proceed with the recusal that we had already discussed.  The next day, the judge (Granpa's boy) had refused to remove himself and the attorney called the judge and told him he was going to send him a 2nd motion worded exactly the same and if he still refused to recuse himself then he would have his ass in front of the supremes that day.  Again, the motion was for bias and prejudice against the children (name) and myself.  My family's only connection to that jurisdiction was that the BM grew up (?) there and her parents lived there.  

The overall effect...it SAVED MY CHILDREN (?) and a ton of money.  

On the other hand, I could not find a TX attorney to stand against a powerful TX judge and often had a 2nd attorney familiar with the case waiting in the wings.  I had no problem dismissing an attorney on the spot if he stood there playing with himself so the court could get it's jollies.  At times I went pro se.

My view is that the court is often more of an enemy than your opponent.
As compared to the well-being and lives of my children, I considered the court/attorneys as a side show like a circus or a zoo depending whether I thought the participants were a bunch of clowns or animals on any given day.
   
I tried desperately to retain representation that was as focused on the children as I was and not focused on money.  

I have zero knowledge of Georgia processes.  You may want to investigate the possibility of forcing the judge to step down for being BIAS and PREJUDICE TOWARDS YOUR CHILDREN AND YOU.  In my experience, an attorney that is part of the good ole boy 'business as usual system' in your jurisdiction will NOT entertain such a motion ... a rule of law type attorney that does not regularly practice in a particular jurisdiction WILL if it is justified in the least ... they seem to love it and are relatively cheap.  This type of attorney may be hard to locate but the action was very effective in stopping the legal money trees between the typical family courts / attorneys.

My attorney formerly clerked for the state supreme court and could/would do what he said ...have the judge in front of the supremes the next day if he did not step down (order themselves off the case).
They really are wimps !!!

At this time in life, I was gainfully employed but basically living on the street, eating one meal a week and spending every free moment in the law library.  My opposition was wealthy with tons of long term political influence with the court system / community.... NO MORE ...  

... of a bumper sticker that says something like " Yep ... I was drunk but I sobered up and she's still ugly".

Anyway, from your post, I think y'all are doing great with this guy.
He now has someone that's interested in him, communicates with him,
participates in his life and with his friends, and appears capable of providing guidance, structure,  and overall nuturing.  Great golly !
As would be expected y'all are not running interference in his relationship with the the other parent and, in fact, you're offering encouragement.  

Personally I think you should be careful not to over do the encouragement factor...further draining the child.  A 'valid' suggestion might be for the parent to travel to the child's location at the son's written request (1 time; open-ended).  Perhaps she will learn from your example about healthy relationships.

Enjoy these moments and the many more to come this kid's way.

I'm wandering why y'all didn't recuse the judge earlier and what reason the judge gave for his own recusal .. same with the other judge that refused the case.  Why do you think it took 10 years and 25K to acknowledge that these issues are serious ???  Those judges and jurisdiction owes this child and his father huge bucks !!!  Is disbarment an option ??  What assholes !!

Oh please !  MOST and let me repeat MOST folks ..probably 80% - 90& of my acquainces call apples apples and oranges oranges.  Particularily the husbands married to women with children prefer not to be called 'Dad' by someone else children.  Personally, I would consider such to be disrespectful to my own children and disrespectful to my father when / should I ever be called upon to comply either directly or subtlely.

A long term significant one was nicked by my sons and her son appropriately used my name.  When my kids lived with their BM they started calling her by her given name ... I changed that around but completely understood the reasons.  My sisters (3) and I all call (we did not even have to discuss) mom's husband by his given name.  His ego was such he would have been delighted to be called 'Dad'.  After about 18 years one of my sisters had all the family movies choreagrafted together and mom's husband graciously said NOW I understand why our Dad he would be the ONLY ONE called "Dad"...he passed in 1971 at age 53.  Mom had a great respect for Dad but for many years she suggested/requested to her 4 children to send cards on "Father's Day" to her husband.  I think two of my sisters begrudgently complied just to keep "mom happy".  What puke !!

My very strong personal opinion of condoning a mother or anybody else to define or redefine a parent - child relationship is a degradation of fatherhood and heritage.  

Hope all is well with gr8dad !!!
 

 

Homewrecked,

Here goes an attempt to enlighten, encourage and support your endeavors for your children.  I read many of the posts and what I post may very well have already been provided for consideration.  When I read the MYSONDAD and INDY's post just above I'm thinking to myself Yep ! and Yep !  ...you do not have to live under the same roof in order for someone to break in and ransack your place ... she'll be crying rape everywhere she goes for her own benefit and up the road what is now considered false accusations may become charges.  This woman is capable of doing shit you and I or anyone else here could ever imagine ... and just think there is a 'Dream Team' of wealth with knowledge and experiences.  I seldom post my PBFH shit because I don't want to give any other psychos any ideas and everyone would either think I was lying or exagerating ... hell I lived it and still don't believe it.  I was you a little over twenty years ago (and shit still happens)... Nam-era vet, 3 kids (older than you probably)... 2 states away surrounded with high powered influence in mama's hometown where the kids nor I had ever resided.  Her parents were very wealthy and behind everything and had been for all 15 years of the marriage.  I, like you,  was very much the primary nuturing care giver as well as the primary provider and had been their entire lives. PLEASE remember my kids were able to speak out and protect themselves even tho they were initially (??) PAS'd.

Considerations :
*whatever happens now will be effecting your kids when they are adults

*BM will harm the kids if you let her

*BM will destroy you if you let her

*BM will be highly favored in all matters no matter what ..if you let her

*she will be above the laws ..if you let her .. it's called discretion

*always rise above the fray and focus on the children

*think about contacting the state supreme court and asking for the names of former clerks (attys)...they may be "rule of law" types capable of turning the local yokals upside down with a recusal motion for being bias and prejudice against your children and you.  Yahoo says Sacramento is a little over 200 miles from Susanville.  Mine was very eager, very good, very cheap, and kept him posted for over a year with out a retainer before he entered and kicked serious butt.

*prepare a chronological summary of events/occurrences (including pre-separation involvement with the kids) ready to fax to an attorney before you talk for long over the phone...be very selective who you fax to  

*always brush off the dirt, leave the blood and move forward

*deem all the documented wealth of info. from SPARC articles

*be mindful that things may not not be as bleak as they seem...she may very well have influential enemies in susieville

*always be mentality prepared for anything and conduct yourself professionally NEVER REACTING to a situation

*PRAY for yourself

All of the above is simply random thoughts from the past and there's a lot more that you will learn and experience as you go forward for many years to come...each experience will be unique to you.  BTW,  I could stand to be corrected ...hope this is helpful ... kick ass Homewrecked !!  

"They never mention the fathers. Wouldn't surprise me if those moms     alienated the father long ago from the kids."

EXACTLY MYSONSDAD or "alienated the kids from the father".

Either way, the results are the same ... total social dysfunction that redistributes income and provides jobs ... court fees, attorneys, social services, CS, and on and on and on with government controlling the masses with the blood of children....whoops I better stop !!!