So, we went to court this morning, and we have to pay back 2 1/2 years worth of child support. Word to the wise, don't make agreements outside of court b/c they don't mean a thing. We had the child 50% of the time, we paid all day care when he went (which was calculated in child support) and we bought his jackets, coats and shoes as well as sent over bags of clothes for his mom's house. All that stuff was considered a gift, and even though BM wrote and signed an agreement that there would be no child support and she would file to stop it, since we didn't do any of that through the courts we are stuck paying her a bunch of money. Even the judge said it was sad. I swear, sometimes the system is so screwed up.
But the plus side is, we have the kid. I'd rather have him than the $11,000 anyday. And, we can pay it off in small monthly payments, interest free. Plus DH wasn't found as being in contempt b/c of the written agreement.
We go to court next week for the custody appeal (we won the custody hearing 6 mos. ago), so any prayers are appreciated. We're hoping to settle out of court before then, but we'll see.
But the plus side is, we have the kid. I'd rather have him than the $11,000 anyday. And, we can pay it off in small monthly payments, interest free. Plus DH wasn't found as being in contempt b/c of the written agreement.
We go to court next week for the custody appeal (we won the custody hearing 6 mos. ago), so any prayers are appreciated. We're hoping to settle out of court before then, but we'll see.