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my step daughter will be 18 this yr. the CS order does not end until June of '07. She may need some major dental work done for all of a sudden she has a problem with her mouth and need major surgery and braces. My husband thinks it is cosmedic. But anyways if we have to pay half of it for our order states we pay half of all medical and dental exspenses. But if this falls into cosmedic we owe nothing, right??? and from what we are told by mother this will go on for about two to three years for all this work to be done. My insurance on her will end June of 07 and that is when the order stops. Does that mean if we have to pay on this major mouth work that ends in june also? Please help. For my step daughter works full time but still goes to school part time.

I have found the "obtaing child's medical records" form. I plan on sending that to all doctors that my daughter see, do I need to send a copy of them also to my ex or a brief summary that I have sent them?

I live in Illinois divorce was done in Mclean Co. My daughter will be 18 this September. My child support does not end until June 1 of 2007. She is now all of a sudden getting major medical work done. I provide insurance on her as per court order. She is needing braces for some reason and when I ask ex for medical records she tells me no and when I call the doctors office they do the same. All I am told is that I have to pay half of anything the insurance does not cover. One surgery is set for Jan of 2007 then the braces, then another surgery after that. But what if this goes past the child support order to where I have to carry insurance? Please help.

I just joined with SPARC and I am trying to go to the chat room. When I get there I am in room main and there is no one else there. Is there anyother rooms and how do I get there???????

I live in Illinois and court is through Mclean county.

My question is does anyone know when my medical exspenses stop?

my ex and I are court order to pay 1/2 of uncovered medical exspenses that the insurance does not pay.

My daughter will be 18 in Sept of this yr. But I still pay child support until June of 07 because of her still in school.

Legally you are an adult at 18.

So does that mean at 18 I am done paying half of her bills and so is her mother? Or is it when the order ends in June of 07.

Reson, my daughter is getting major mouth work done then braces put on. The problem is this will go on for about 3-4 years. I do not approve of this and is waiting for some paper work from ortho to prove this is cosmedic.

But anyways, the ex has already told me she is paying nothing on this, but I need to pay my half. Nothing has started yet on her mouth. HEr first surgery in Jan of 07. I just feel like ex is not going to pay for daughter will be 18 and an adult then.

Please help, so I can give my daughter the scoop.

I feel for you. I am not a father I am a step mom. I see my husband beg to spend time with hs 17 daughter. I don't mean on hands and knees, but telling her she needs to come down more often then just when she needs money or an oil change.

I have seen him stay up until midnight waiting for her to stop by, knowing in my heart that she was not coming by.

BM can be our worse nightmares. For BM has told daughter that dad is a no good SOB and was never there for her.

But they forget who bought her first car, then she totaled it within two weeks and never told dad about it. But insurance gave her $2,000.00 for it. But she wanted dad to pay for another car. Thankfully dad said no but becasue he did well then again he's no good.

It's funny how money brings your kids back.

But we hope that daughter relieses(sp) some day the damage her mother has caused between her and her father. But dad is always there when she needs him.

Thanks a lot for your comment. I really mean that. It is hard to be a step-mom and not get upset at things. And I try to tell my husband what the kids are doing. And for the bond money no he did not give it to him. And we heard about it from him and BM on how we just gave up on him. Between court cost and fines when the son was under age and living with BM we could go on a little vacation.

The problem with the parents is and this is my opinion and I have been on the other end of a ex not helping out on his child.

Mother thinks since father divorced her he owes her for the rest of her life. And her mission is to make him life a living hell.

Dad trys to talk with children calls them and they never return his calls. Leaves voice mail on his their phones and nothing. Dad trys to help out with children, bought a car for $600.00 had a few problems but dad fixed them for dad is a mechinc for UPS. The car was great. I would of kept it. But we gave it to her. GAVE IT TO HER. Mother tought she needed a new car, like a 2005 car. Nothing he does is good enough in the eyes of BM. And yes that should not matter. But when BM tell child she deserves better, daughter thinks so. What ever mother says is right and what dad days is wrong because mom said.

A good example of feeling hurt for my husband. He spoke with his 22yr and she was suppose to stop by to get her b-day for they were coming through town back from St. Louis. My husband stayed up all night waiting for her to stop by until she called at 11pm and said she was not coming by for mom was not going to stop by the house, he can mail it.
I knew she would not stop by, and I tried telling him that. But he thought maybe there my be hope. There is no hope.

His son was 19 when that was threaten. And my husband felt like if his son could call him a SOB, No good father, and just called from jail with a bond of $900.00 and when we said no because he failed to go to court then all of a sudden dad is no good. But that was the first time I saw my husband have a back bone. And when they sat down and talked by time things were done the son was crying and now they have a good relationship with one another.

The daughter who is 17 is hard headed and if things do not go her way well then she has nothing to do with you. And she believes what ever mother says,even if mother is wrong.

The 22yr. old daughter who is in college she is a clon of her mother and acts like it also. We only she her once a year maybe and that is at Christmas time. We hear from her on her birthday wanting to know if dad is going to send birthday money.

And these three kids live 35 minutes away from there dad. And if they want to come and see him when they need something mother will not let them use her car. They can call or mail him. Well that takes to long to do I guess.

The 26 yr. old lives out of state and is married and does just fine. Image that away from mother and does fine.

But the other three just use there father and I just feel bad for I can see right through them but I hate to be so negitive about them to there father.

I have 4 step children. My husband is older then me, which is fine. But I do not understand why my husband can not get a back bone with these kids.
Thankfully we are only responsible for one now, she is 17.

The big picture of losing my mind is the BM. She bad mouths the father with the children. And when ever they need anything to call there father. For she is so tight and money hungry for herself she is not about to give her own money to them.

The only time we hear from the children is when they need something. They never call to say hi.

Except for the son. But that took dad to take him into the garage and beat the hell out of him for direspecting him and myself. So there realationship is good now until BM puts her two cents in.

I just hate to see my husband put his hopes up when the daughter says she will stop by, knowing that she won't. But he waits.

When they call for there birthday money even thou if might of been since last year when he heard from them last, he sendas them there money.

I am about to lose my mind wishing BD would get a back bone.

I know when I was pro se with my ex I petiton the courts for a moditfication(sp?) of visititions. The only problem is I am a women. But I can feel for you my husband has a b---- as an ex wife and because he has outdoor plumbing he gets screwed everytime he walks into the court room.