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((((msme)))) & ((((gr8dad))))) 

To be honest, I think you need to look into another residential program for your grandson.  From what you've said, it appears that the move and stuff has been a major setback to his emotional situation and he needs the structure and stability of a program.  It's hard to look at that, but you've been through these difficult decisions before and come through.  Doing this will, in part, help you guys take care of yourselves as you won't have to worry about his safety.

I do understand where you both are at, as dh and I have been there as well with three of our five kids (2 of them having had their bio-parents mess with them).  In fact, in April we went to court to get our own son placed as he was out of control and we couldn't deal with it ourselves anymore and couldn't find a place to admit him without the help of the county/courts.  We thought he (being the one that was both ours) wouldn't have the issues, however, the environment created by the issues with his older siblings apparently affected him in spite of all the counseling and stuff we've had in place.

Email me if you want my profile is set up to allow that.  I can't help much but sometimes it's just nice to have someone to talk to who knows what you're going through.  I know that has helped me immensely in the past.

In the meantime, know that I am thinking of you and your family and have you all in my prayers.

I don't know what the requirements are anymore - things have changed drastically since I was well informed.    Try this link though, it should give you some guidance.

http://www.dhs.state.mn.us/main/idcplg?IdcService=GET_DYNAMIC_CONVERSION&RevisionSelectionMethod=LatestReleased&dDocName=id_006260 (http://www.dhs.state.mn.us/main/idcplg?IdcService=GET_DYNAMIC_CONVERSION&RevisionSelectionMethod=LatestReleased&dDocName=id_006260)

I remember Rak.  It's a very sad day hearing this news.  He was an inspiration to everyone here.

In our case, my sd made her account.  I "hacked" into it (dh had custody) and cancelled it myself.  Was that legal?  I don't know, she was 14 saying she was older and put her full name, city & state out there - and she has an unusual name.  Actually I did that more than once to her.  Did it once to my own daughter too. 

On the other hand, mom will probably recreate the accounts so that you can't find them anymore.

This might be too late for you, but MA does do reimbursements - my dd had to do that when she & the little one were on MA and had to go to the ER here as there version of MA was only for Itasca County.

However, I believe that you're also correct and that is that the mom will have to apply for reimbursement - and will she pay you when she DOES get reimbursed?

What kind of meds is she on and/or going on?

Probably was... We moved into our house in June 1998 and I got internet...  And had a PBFH!!!!! without doubt. 

And now her youngest is 18 and graduating. 

Only one to go and that pbfh learned it's best not to mess with us - although we don't see yss cause they'd brainwashed him so badly he was threatening the other kids among other very bad behavior.  He so badly didn't want to be here, we let him go.  I told dh that he needs to write letters, even if he doesn't mail them for when yss turns 18 (only 2 more years).

Oh, my Lord!!!!  We all (oldtimers) came here about 1999?

Wow!!!  It's been a LONG time, hasn't it?

I don't worry about whether the courts like the therapist - here's why:  We had one therapist for my OSD who was highly regarded by the courts.  In our case, she recommended that all 5 of our kids be removed permanently from our custody and placed in non-relation foster care.  Don't know what crawled up her you-know-what, but we had 3 GALs (3 custody/visitation cases - 3 ex's), 3 probation officers and 2 social workers that disagreed with her.  Thank God!  Life was SOOOO much fun back then. 

In any case, if YOU like the therapist, by all means stick with him.  That's what counts in my book.

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You might consider a different therapist as well.  Sometimes I wonder what they see/hear....  Because all too often it sure as heck ain't what I see or hear!

No advice, but wanted to say CONGRATULATIONS!!!!