Well, it's been a LOOONNNGGG time since I came for advice. Things are pretty good for us, all but one of the stepkids are 18+ and we don't have to deal with any ex's anymore. However, our two oldest girls both live with and have a child with men who have a child from a previous relationship. Who'da thunk?
I'm here about my dd's situation today. Her bf has a 7yo with a former girlfriend. Mom got married last Saturday to a man that she'd been dating about 6-9 months from what I understand. Mom has been noticeably cooler to bf since bf and my dd got together and had their little boy, but not pbfh bad. She's yanked his chain a couple times, but backed off fairly quickly in each situation.
Ok, the 7 yo son has known bf since birth and knows that bf is his dad. This weekend my dd & her bf had son for the weekend. BF had gone outside before my dd got up this morning and she asked son where his dad was. Son's response was "Who? You mean Justin?" My dd didn't know what to say or do. I believe that she said yes, but didn't care for the idea that he was questioning who dad was.
My first thought was "and so it begins...." I told her that I'd come and ask advice from people who'd been there done that. In our similar situation, dh hadn't actually seen ss till he was 7 and ss had lived nearly his whole life with his mother's bf in the picture. That isn't the case with dd and her bf though.
Any ideas on how she should handle it? She doesn't want bf to know because he'll be crushed then get pissed off and he doesn't make the greatest decisions when he's po'd.
Thanks!
I'm here about my dd's situation today. Her bf has a 7yo with a former girlfriend. Mom got married last Saturday to a man that she'd been dating about 6-9 months from what I understand. Mom has been noticeably cooler to bf since bf and my dd got together and had their little boy, but not pbfh bad. She's yanked his chain a couple times, but backed off fairly quickly in each situation.
Ok, the 7 yo son has known bf since birth and knows that bf is his dad. This weekend my dd & her bf had son for the weekend. BF had gone outside before my dd got up this morning and she asked son where his dad was. Son's response was "Who? You mean Justin?" My dd didn't know what to say or do. I believe that she said yes, but didn't care for the idea that he was questioning who dad was.
My first thought was "and so it begins...." I told her that I'd come and ask advice from people who'd been there done that. In our similar situation, dh hadn't actually seen ss till he was 7 and ss had lived nearly his whole life with his mother's bf in the picture. That isn't the case with dd and her bf though.
Any ideas on how she should handle it? She doesn't want bf to know because he'll be crushed then get pissed off and he doesn't make the greatest decisions when he's po'd.
Thanks!