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they can only make it effective as of the date in the CO.  CSE has to follow the CO.  Be prepared to set them straight though.

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if her DH at the time, who believed the child was his, is paying CS.  She can't get it from two men for the same child.

It's the same child, same account number, etc.... :)

He pays and has been paying his support from day one. It's all been paid through VA, even the time we lived in WA.  There are no arrears, never have been.  Online VA is saying they are transferring it to WA.  In person they are saying they don't know what we are talking about, it is still with them.  I guess DH should call WA and see if they know what is going on.

Thanks.

DH and I live in NY.  SD and BM live in VA.  CS has always been through VA CSE.  DH pays directly, no wage withholding.  I went on his online account today, and is says he has an out of state case, that he is an applicant of WA state.  On the CP page it says, VA has requested assistance from another state.  We have not lived in WA for over 7 years.  The last 8 times BM has taken DH to court, we lived in NY.  DH called VA CSE, and their computer does not show these messages and that his case is still with them.  The ironic part is that DH only has 9 more payments before SD graduates and CS ends.

1.  Can WA create a case for him when he doesn't even live there?

2.  Can they find out who his employer is, here in NY and issue a wage withholding, thus creating debt in two states?

Thank you.  

It's not about logistics, it's about control.  We did move from one coast to the other to be closer to my SD.  It was hell.  We wish we never had.  PB took DH to court ALL the time.  She would not follow the court orders, so DH still didn't get to see SD.  In the end we uprooted our family and lives for nothing.  

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You answered your own question in the first paragraph.  You have gone ABOVE AND BEYOND with everything in regards to your son and his dad.  You have done way more than most.  

DO NOT agree to a reduction again.  Remember how he lied last time about his income.  Also, as far as the driving, the MOST I would offer is the receiving parent pick up.  And that is being generous since he moved.

Stick to your guns and don't let that scumbag make you question your actions.  You are an excellent mom and don't you ever think any different.

Other than that, how are you doing?  I still can't believe my dad is gone.  I thought about him a lot yesterday.  You have my email.  

he will get a CO.

This is an example of one of the "gray" areas I was talking about.  The IRS is great at making exceptions to their own rules.  I was just reading about one regarding Head of Household and separated couples.  Generally you have to have a legal separation to file anything but married filing separately, but if you lived apart for the last six months of the year and have children you can file head household even though you are not legally separted.  But the other spouse still has to file married filing separately.

Now, let's hope I don't get yelled at for not taking this to the off topic board :)

I was looking something up on the IRS website and came across a section in where someone can qualify as a relative for dependent purposes if they lived in the household the whole year as a family member.

Example 1—return not required.

You support an unrelated friend and her 3-year-old child, who lived with you all year in your home. Your friend has no gross income, is not required to file a 2007 tax return, and does not file a 2007 tax return. Both your friend and her child are your qualifying relatives if the member of household or relationship test, gross income test, and support test are met.

Member of Household or Relationship Test
To meet this test, a person must:

Live with you all year as a member of your household



It looks like the BF in the sitch below can claim the child.  I thought that was the case when I posted that the BF could claim the child by saying he provided over half of the support, but I've never had a client in that situation so I wasn't 100% positive.