DON'T! DON'T GIVE UP!
She's only 12! YOU have to be the parent, the adult here! You KNOW your ex has probably been feeding lies into your daughter's head about you, so not only is she confused, but she was at school and may have been embarassed when summoned by the VP. Maybe she thought it would make her look "cool" to her friends to turn down a parent- a figure of authority. Who knows what kids at that age are really thinking?!
She's going to realize how far you drove, and how nice it was for you to bring her those presents, and she's going to feel like crap. But I bet she's going to feel so guilty so won't even be able to pick up the phone to call and apologize. That's why you can't give up! You're going to have to continue on, keep trying.
Like one of the prior responses to the original post said- what worked for them was that they never stopped showing up, and their daughter/SD finally realized how much they loved her, and that BM wasn't so innocent anymore. You have to believe that this can happen for you too!
She's your CHILD- if you give up now, you're agreeing to FAIL. You're giving her a reason to not want to contact you EVER again. Because you're not giving up on the SITUATION, like you might think, you'd be giving up on HER, and that's how she'll feel.
Scream, yell, throw some stuff around your house (privately) and/or have a good cry. Then pick up the phone and call your daughter!
She's only 12! YOU have to be the parent, the adult here! You KNOW your ex has probably been feeding lies into your daughter's head about you, so not only is she confused, but she was at school and may have been embarassed when summoned by the VP. Maybe she thought it would make her look "cool" to her friends to turn down a parent- a figure of authority. Who knows what kids at that age are really thinking?!
She's going to realize how far you drove, and how nice it was for you to bring her those presents, and she's going to feel like crap. But I bet she's going to feel so guilty so won't even be able to pick up the phone to call and apologize. That's why you can't give up! You're going to have to continue on, keep trying.
Like one of the prior responses to the original post said- what worked for them was that they never stopped showing up, and their daughter/SD finally realized how much they loved her, and that BM wasn't so innocent anymore. You have to believe that this can happen for you too!
She's your CHILD- if you give up now, you're agreeing to FAIL. You're giving her a reason to not want to contact you EVER again. Because you're not giving up on the SITUATION, like you might think, you'd be giving up on HER, and that's how she'll feel.
Scream, yell, throw some stuff around your house (privately) and/or have a good cry. Then pick up the phone and call your daughter!