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#43
Custody Issues / RE: Help on 1 Year Old
Jan 03, 2007, 08:42:35 AM
NCP's pay child support to CP's. So if there is a judgement of childsupport, the payor has been deemed the NCP and the payee the CP.
If there is not a specific visitiation schedule, motion the court for such a schedule. You can do so pro se (yourself) or with an attorney. Socrateser on this site is a great resource if you plan to seek the modification pro se.
If there is not a specific visitiation schedule, motion the court for such a schedule. You can do so pro se (yourself) or with an attorney. Socrateser on this site is a great resource if you plan to seek the modification pro se.
#44
Custody Issues / RE: scared father needs your HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oct 19, 2006, 09:54:16 AM
Since you are apparently on fairly good terms with the bm's family, why not aks them to agree to take the child, and then turn her over to you?
Ideally, maybe they could get her to sign an agreement to split child support with them.
That way bm voluntarily goes on her merry way, leaving the child behind. You have the child with very little fight and proof that bm basically abandoned the child.
That's what I'd do anyway.
Ideally, maybe they could get her to sign an agreement to split child support with them.
That way bm voluntarily goes on her merry way, leaving the child behind. You have the child with very little fight and proof that bm basically abandoned the child.
That's what I'd do anyway.
#45
Father's Issues / RE: WHAT DO I DO?
Feb 01, 2007, 03:39:35 PM
My parenting plan has a section that says both parents must take the kids to their activities during their parenting time, and that absent illness of the child the child must be present at all activities at the scheduled time.
Does you order address the kids' activities anywhere?
Does you order address the kids' activities anywhere?
#46
Father's Issues / RE: Need opinions from some Dads.......
Jan 16, 2007, 09:06:12 AM
You say that you have zero relationship with your sd and that she's an evil, rotten person not worth your time or attention...
If I were in your shoes and felt the same way I would either 1) work to repair the relationship for the sake of my husband or 2) cut her out of my life entirely for the sake of my own sanity and emotional well being. I really think that trying to dance down the middle of the two is causing YOU to be drawn into her negativity and is a wasted effort, pick one.
If you pick the first, you need to be open and honest with her and tell her your thoughts, the reasons behind them, and what you intend to do.
If you pick the second, just walk away. Getting involved with her child and a possible bio-father is a ticking time bomb. You said yourself the ss sees through her but is very protective of her all the same, as is the rest of her family.. and by all rights they should be, that's what family is all about. Recognizing each others faults, but lving each other and standing by one another regardless.
If I were your husband and I had already expressed to you that I would like you to stay out of it, I would be outraged if you did the opposite. I think you're on the right track to seek counseling and to make your decision very slowly, because this is a very life altering act you are proposing.. for everyone involved.
If this man comes back into her life, there will most likely be a legal battle.. one that you are directly responsible for and that the little boy involved will be very much impacted by at his age. And along those same lines, your sd will likely turn to her parents, your dh included, to help her w/ attorneys, moral support, etc etc throughout the process... are you ready to welcome that mess into your home?
I think you are looking at this with blinders on.. not that I dont agree that a father has the right to know.. but that you are ignoring all the ramifications to YOU as a result of YOUR actions.. after all, as an adult you are responsible for your own conduct, and turning your dh and his childrens lives upside down may not be the best decision.
If I were in your shoes and felt the same way I would either 1) work to repair the relationship for the sake of my husband or 2) cut her out of my life entirely for the sake of my own sanity and emotional well being. I really think that trying to dance down the middle of the two is causing YOU to be drawn into her negativity and is a wasted effort, pick one.
If you pick the first, you need to be open and honest with her and tell her your thoughts, the reasons behind them, and what you intend to do.
If you pick the second, just walk away. Getting involved with her child and a possible bio-father is a ticking time bomb. You said yourself the ss sees through her but is very protective of her all the same, as is the rest of her family.. and by all rights they should be, that's what family is all about. Recognizing each others faults, but lving each other and standing by one another regardless.
If I were your husband and I had already expressed to you that I would like you to stay out of it, I would be outraged if you did the opposite. I think you're on the right track to seek counseling and to make your decision very slowly, because this is a very life altering act you are proposing.. for everyone involved.
If this man comes back into her life, there will most likely be a legal battle.. one that you are directly responsible for and that the little boy involved will be very much impacted by at his age. And along those same lines, your sd will likely turn to her parents, your dh included, to help her w/ attorneys, moral support, etc etc throughout the process... are you ready to welcome that mess into your home?
I think you are looking at this with blinders on.. not that I dont agree that a father has the right to know.. but that you are ignoring all the ramifications to YOU as a result of YOUR actions.. after all, as an adult you are responsible for your own conduct, and turning your dh and his childrens lives upside down may not be the best decision.
#47
Father's Issues / RE: I need advice...
Jan 02, 2007, 11:12:29 AM
WHN, was anything mentioned about the child in the divorce proceedings? You've mentioned you found out you were pregnant after the divorce was filed, but did you finalize the divorce before the child was born, and was the child mentioned in the final divorce papers?
I ask because I was told by my attorney when our child was born that the marriage presumption only applies IF the child was born during a legal marriage. Even if birth occurs days after the divorce is final, that presumption doesnt apply.
My attorney said this was because when there is a divorce pending, there is a better than average chance that a child born during that time is not born of the marriage, therefore the presumption ends with the marriage, and a father must petition for paternity after the child is born.
just my experience, and I'm not in Ohio. If I were you I would find a few hundred $$ and pay for a consultation with a family law attorney in your area to see what the case law in your jurisdiction says.
I ask because I was told by my attorney when our child was born that the marriage presumption only applies IF the child was born during a legal marriage. Even if birth occurs days after the divorce is final, that presumption doesnt apply.
My attorney said this was because when there is a divorce pending, there is a better than average chance that a child born during that time is not born of the marriage, therefore the presumption ends with the marriage, and a father must petition for paternity after the child is born.
just my experience, and I'm not in Ohio. If I were you I would find a few hundred $$ and pay for a consultation with a family law attorney in your area to see what the case law in your jurisdiction says.