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#21
Not to my knowledge, and I have checked many a site.  

Our bm bought 4 properties she rents out (all bought with cs money), now has "losses" off of these properties that she gets to deduct from her gross income. Yeah, right.
#22
Child Support Issues / Our bm did this too
Feb 16, 2004, 02:31:07 AM
She just happened to do it prior to going to court for 110 charges of contempt, so we just added this and subpoena'd her tax guy.  He testified she did not tell him that she wasn't entitled to child every year, he believed she got the exemption every year.  Needless to say, her atty contacted IRS, she had to pay back money, and a fine.  The judge did not like this at all.  

Remember, for NEVER MARRIED parents, if there is NO court order, it is the cp who gets the deduction unless the ncp can prove thru receipts that he/she provided over 50% of the financial responsibility.  

Good luck!-  Sounds like you have a winner with your court order!
#23
Child Support Issues / RE: Nanny expenses
Jan 20, 2004, 07:18:42 AM
Have your attorney deposition the housekeeper.  Find out who she was "actually hired" to care for, the hours she is there, what she does for the children, all 3 of them, the hours she says she watches the older child, and her salary.  Then you have info to show the judge that 1. The actual costs for child #1 is 10% of the amount charged for the nanny.  You have to have the proof on paper to make this idiot judge see the light.  I would also check with the local child services organization in the area biomom lives and ask at what age they feel it is appropriate for a responsible child to be left alone.  Get it in writing (my guess is that they will say 12 or 13).  Thus, no reason for a 14 year old to have a nanny, and get school records to prove that child is responsible child. (not getting in trouble at school, grades, etc).  Your proof in writing.  Takes a little work on your part, not to mention a little cash for the deposition, but apparently well worth it.

Whether or not it is bd's responsibility to watch the younger siblings is not your choice, nor should it be brought up.  There is nothing wrong with a teenager watching siblings for short periods of time.  

If you live close enough, or have other relatives that live close enough to child, suggest that the child go to your home or relatives home after school to help defray the costs.  

Good luck, let us know what happens!
#24
Buddy, you didn't take my "nice" post to heart.  Re-read.  Get some help.  You really need it.  Anyone who has been sexually abused as a child needs help.  You are not God, you can't control everything nor can you handle everything on your own.  

I didn't accuse you of anything.  I just felt like your responses were a bit off the wall for someone who WAS abused.  Something strange here, and it's not strawberry....

Get some help.  How hard is that?  
#25
Child Support Issues / RE: CASTRATION!
Jan 19, 2004, 04:51:39 PM
Mustang- I only have one thing to say, whatever your intention was here, just cut it loose.  You will not get the last say, you will not make other people here think this woman is lying, and I am sorry if you have been falsely accused, but the way you defended your own accusers, makes me wonder....are you a pedophile also?  Scary.  If so, get some help now.  Castration doesn't work, this is proven, Rape is a crime of power, and anything can be used to rape, not just a body part.  

So, mustang, if you were abused as a child, and you think "you are just fine, it is in the past" well, IT ISN'T!! Just re-read your posts.  If you think they are normal, you do need help.  NOW, not tomorrow, not the next day, but NOW!

And to Strawberry, soooo sorry for your dtr and what you are going thru.  Perhaps your past cs could be given back to you/your daughter as some type of restitution after he is found guilty.  Until then...keep on lovin!  You're doing great and we, Sparc people, support you!
#26
Would be about right if they share custody 50/50.
#27
That sucks thair!  Has he even seen the kids?  Well, sounds like you have been very patient, and have every right to throw the book at him!  Any parent, male or female, that pulls this crap deserves what they get.
#28
First, were you ever married to the mother?  If not, you need to get a paternity test to prove you are the father, then ask the courts to grant you joint legal regarding the child. *And have your name on the birth certificate AND your last name!

Secondly, I am not aware of any cs due before birth.  However, you may/will  be liable for half of all medical regarding obstetric care, as well as half of the costs of the birth/hospital bill (whatever is not covered by insurance).  

And if you want a relationship with this child, I would plan on moving to her area at the time of birth.  Otherwise, your visitation will be limited to short visits, and given the age of the child, you'll be lucky to get any visitation the first 2-3 years.  By that time, the child won't know you!  And you will have to do supervised visits anyway.  

Read everything you can on the archives in this site, and keep asking questions.  Lots of good advice and info here!  Good luck!
#29
If he knew he had a child in 1988, he had the responsibility to help support the child.  It is apparent that the mother did not have the financial resources to continue the fight for cs, and he didn't give any.  I personally don't blame her.  From 88-2000 he should have been paying 550-600 mo/cs, and if he had put that money in his retirement acct, he should have made quite a bit on it by now.  

But the fact remains, he knew, he chose not to help support his child.
#30
Sounds like you are doing all the right things...now it is just a waiting game...for the boys to realize the grass isn't always greener...they will begin to miss you...and soon you should hear from them, just keep up the trying, as hard as it is...best of luck, always.