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Checking in.  I didn't know anyone on the bridge, thank God.

Congratulations!  I'm glad to see the system work!  I gotta get SO on that tracker too.

Take care!

Sunshine, I just sent you an email.  Not sure why PM didn't work, I'll investigate.

Thanks!

Sunshine I've sent you a message.  

Funny thing is, BM told SO she knew my last name and even told him what it was. She either forgot it or is using that as a reason to withhold address if ever brought up in court (not quite the same thing!).  I think she got it from a reverse look up on my license plate.  She pronounced it wrong so I think she read it vs hearing it.  BM told SO "don't make me not teach our daughter her new address!"  Assuming we'd put the kids in the middle like she does.  

Thanks for the advice.  I would LOVE to show up at the door!  We know the area they live in (youngest daughter told us they live across the street from a watertower).  I suggested following them after a drop off, but BM does not have a car, and we're dropping off at a friends and they don't go home right away.  It's sill an option though.  

Thanks!

I posted this on Soc's board a while ago but I'm looking for a local perspective.  My SO's ex won't tell us where she and kids are living.  They share legal custody with SO being NCP.  SO called CS office today and she did give them their new address but they won't give it to SO.  As part of the paperwork for their divorce is a copy of the statue that states parents have 10 days to notify each other of new address.  So we know the law is on our side.  

We have a handwritten note from her dated 5/25 that the reason she won't give SO the address is because SO won't give her my last name (great argument!).  SO and I live together and will be married in September.  I've already had to change my cell # because she was sending me inappropriate text messages.  I don't want her bothering me.    

How do we get the address?  Do we have to file for an emergency hearing?  We have her home phone # but it's unlisted and probably in her boyfriends name.  The divorce is in Hennepin, we live in Scott and she lives in Dakota (we know the city name).  Any ideas?  We were thinking of getting it though the schools in the fall but don't want to wait that long.

Thanks.  

Thanks Lucky.  Good advice.

My SO and his ex share legal custody of 2 girls.  SO is NCP.  Even after her attorney and mediator told her SO does NOT need her permission to take girls out of state on his time she insists he gets her 'permission.'  It's annoying and ridiculous.  Is there anywhere in the state statutes that addresses this?  We'd like to email it to her.  That type of response seems to shut her up (for lack of a better term).

Thanks.

I also posted this on Soc's board.

My SO got a call from his ex tonight. Her boyfriend recently moved and emptied their joint checking. Her rent check bounced and she's being evicted. She asked my SO to take the kids temporarily. We're willing to do that but would like to make it permanent (didn't tell her that). SO and ex plan to go to the court house tomorrow to file the paperwork for the temporary change (Hennipen County).

How does SO take full advantage of this? We want his kids full time. Without bashing, let's just say she's not going to win any mother of the year awards.

How long do the kids need to be with us before the courts would consider letting them stay with us? They live close enough that they can stay in their current schools. But we do live in another district.

Suggestions?

Good point Lucky.  I'll check with them on Monday!

Thanks!