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#21
Hello.  I'm writing this from my SO account.  We are going to be married in September and will probably use my employer's insurance for us and his kids.  He is NCP.  His divorce was before the new CS laws and took into account his net income.  

Will the insurance costs coming out of my paycheck affect his CS if ever recalculated?  His net income will increase but only on paper, it will come out of my paycheck.  My understanding is when done on the new CS system they look at gross income.  Anyone have any advice or experience with this?

Thanks!
#22
Sorry I'm getting back to this so late, but thank you very much for the information and references.

Luckily my ex finally agreed to the days I could get off work and I was able to see my kids over Spring break for the first time in years.  

Take care.
#23
Minnesota State Forum / Parenting time expeditor
Mar 28, 2007, 01:28:06 PM
Has anyone had to use a parenting time expeditor?  Just wondering about the process.  

My ex and I JUST signed a new order which gives me 1/2 of school breaks.  The order says the time is split in coordination with both parents.  My ex is telling me that I have to take the kids Wed-Sunday.  I'm unable to take Thursday and Friday off from work and gave her two other options.  She basically said, her way or no way.  Since the kids just moved into this school district  and the order was just signed in the last few weeks, Spring break came up without much notice or I would have day care options while I work.  

We have a clause that we'd use an expeditor to decide things that we can't.  I didn't think we'd need it so soon.  The order was just signed last month.  

 
#24
Thanks!
#25
Minnesota State Forum / Right of first refusal
Feb 23, 2007, 01:36:55 PM
Hello.  First time poster.  Is the right of first refusal implied in Minnesota or does it have to be written in the orders?  I tried looking on line and couldn't find anything which leads me to beleive it's not implied.

Thanks!
#26
I've previously posted that my SO's ex does not have a car (SO is NCP, dad).  CP/BM won't be getting one anytime soon.  Because she can't meet at the designated exchange point between our houses, SO has to drive much further to see kids.  It's very likely his Wed night visits will end because by the time he gets to their house he'll have to return them less than an hour later and we can't afford for him to eat out with them every week (and the gas!).  They were coming to our house for a family dinner.

His current Wed. time is 5pm-7pm on school nights and until 8pm on non-school nights.  This order was signed in March when BM had a car.  We'd like to extend our Wed visits to overnights so SO can see them.  We can get them to school in the AM when necessary.  Is her lack of transportation enough change in circumstance to get this changed?  More often than not, they've stayed overnight on Wed this summer to accommodate SO's need to get them to summer school (because BM has no transportation).  So we have a pattern of this already happening.  BM will not agree to it unless it's court ordered.  

Another question.  To add a first refusal clause to an order do you need to justify it being added?  I ask because BM lost her daycare recently.  She brought the kids to her sister's house for the week.  She's basically made it impossible for SO to see kids this week since they are so far away.  She didn't ask SO if either of us (or his mom) could watch them.  The kids spend so much time away from their mom it's ridiculous.  We don't have a lot documented on this, thus the question about justifying the order.

Thanks.        
#27
Dear Socrateaser / Transportation
Jul 20, 2007, 04:26:01 PM
SO and ex signed an agreement in March that they would meet in the parking lot of a local store to exchange kids.  They share legal and SO is NCP.  At the time it was half way between our houses.  In April BM moved and lost her car (it belonged to her BF and they split up).  She moved farther away from us.  SO's only option is to pick kids up at BM's house.  After being laid off for months SO starts a new job next week that won't get him to BM's house with enough time to see the girls on the Wed night visits.  He would have time to see them if she could get them to the court ordered meeting place though.  

BM does not have a car.  OK, but there are other means of transportation.  Do the courts take any of that into account?  I know she's not willfully without a car, but she's not doing much to make seeing the kids easier.  Unless she wins the lottery the woman is not getting a car anytime soon.  I'm wondering if we should file to extend our Wednesday night visits to an overnight so SO has some time with his kids.  Would her inability to transport kids be enough to change the order?  Also, the court order is to exchange kids at the store.  What if we brought them to that store after our visits instead of to BM's house forcing her to get there to get the kids?  Opinions?  I know it's underhanded, but the woman does nothing to help SO see his kids.          
#28
Dear Socrateaser / Transportation
Jul 20, 2007, 04:26:01 PM
SO and ex signed an agreement in March that they would meet in the parking lot of a local store to exchange kids.  They share legal and SO is NCP.  At the time it was half way between our houses.  In April BM moved and lost her car (it belonged to her BF and they split up).  She moved farther away from us.  SO's only option is to pick kids up at BM's house.  After being laid off for months SO starts a new job next week that won't get him to BM's house with enough time to see the girls on the Wed night visits.  He would have time to see them if she could get them to the court ordered meeting place though.  

BM does not have a car.  OK, but there are other means of transportation.  Do the courts take any of that into account?  I know she's not willfully without a car, but she's not doing much to make seeing the kids easier.  Unless she wins the lottery the woman is not getting a car anytime soon.  I'm wondering if we should file to extend our Wednesday night visits to an overnight so SO has some time with his kids.  Would her inability to transport kids be enough to change the order?  Also, the court order is to exchange kids at the store.  What if we brought them to that store after our visits instead of to BM's house forcing her to get there to get the kids?  Opinions?  I know it's underhanded, but the woman does nothing to help SO see his kids.          
#29
Dear Socrateaser / RE: Court order and birthdays
May 23, 2007, 05:33:23 PM
We checked the calender until the kids are 18.  SO has them several times, but not close to half.  I'm concerned that since we specified it in the CO a judge won't change it since they'll be no change in circumstance.  So we'll never get more.
#30
Dear Socrateaser / Court order and birthdays
May 23, 2007, 02:03:18 PM
SO just spent a year to establish specific parenting time with his kids.  Their divorce was very vague (SO's attorney was NOT good).  Over the years she's been increasingly difficult to deal with so we hired a new attorney and after a year of mediation and attorney's fees she caved two days before court.  

The order is very standard.  One issue BM had was kids b-days.  BM wanted the kids on their actual b-day every year.  SO compromised and asked to have them when their b-day fell on his time.  And that's how the order was signed.  This is where my concern comes in.  I think we would have been better off not addressing b-days at all in the order.  This way if we ever went back to court to alternate them we'd have a better chance of getting the order changed (since there is no order either way).  I'm assuming if it's not specified they kids would be with the parent who's day it was.  

Make sense?  Any comments?