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SO isn't working right now so we don't have $ for a PI.  We think eventually she'll need SO to pick the kids up at home since she doesn't have a car and is wearing out her welcome with friends driving them.  We came up with the same idea, to check with the school.  I'm sure she hasn't changed the adress with the current one, but if it gets to that we'll get it from the school in the fall.

We'll check into our states guidelines.

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The divorce doesn't mention keeping NCP up to date on addresses.  However, since they share legal custody I was thinking he would be entitled to that information.  We're concerned about where she's living.  She's moved several times in the last couple months.

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My SO ex's just moved this weekend.  She won't give SO their new address.  He's told her he's going to request an emergency change of custody if she doesn't find a permanent place for them to live.  She was recently evicted from her apartment of one month.  So, I suspect something is up.  They share legal, SO is NCP.  This may vary by state, but is she required to give him that information?

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CS office told SO that since he's unemployed he is not responsible for the insurance.  CORBA is offered but it's over $1000 a month.  He considered requesting a reduction in CS since he's not working, but we're hoping he'll find something soon.  We're concerned about his kids.  BM only works part time and totally relies on CS to pay rent etc.  SO is looking into the Medicaid option.  I can support us for a while.

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BM knows about it already. She only works part time and doesn't have insurance herself.  

Thanks for the response!

SO's divorce states he has to keep medical insurance for minor children through his employer.  So, what happens when he's unemployed?  He was laid off two weeks ago and his insurance coverage has ended.  

After child support is taken from his unemployment benefits he'll bring home $100 a month.  The kids need coverage but he literally doesn't have enough to cover it.  He's not willfully breaking the court order, but could he be held in contempt?  

My take on it is, the orders say 'though his employer' and he currently doesn't have one, so they can't hold him to it.  Not ideal, but reality.

We're not married yet, four months from today we will be though.

SO is waiting for a call back from attorney.  We spent last night putting together all the examples of her instability.  She has moved 8 times in less than 4 years!  

Yes, we hope to use his time at home as a plus.  

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Yes, SO is current with child support.  

Will the court care that SO is out of work?  He was laid off about a week ago.  Since he'll take home about $100 a month after child support is taken from unemployment I have to support him, which I can do.  He certainly will be able to spend a lot of time with the kids if they come live with us!

He's calling his attorney tomorrow.  I don't know where we'll get the money, but we'll figure it out.

Thanks so much for the support.  

SO has an order that states he and ex meet at a store near us to exchange kids.  Well, ex no longer has a car and can't get to the store (she could take a cab).  SO picked kids up at ex's house last time, but we want her to stick to the agreement.  She's the type if we give an inch, she'll take a mile.  She has no means to get a car anytime soon that we know of, so this is not a short term issue.  

If she doesn't get the kids to the meeting point, is she in contempt?  My understanding is she has to willfully disregard the order.

Thanks!

I appreciate all the responses.  There is an exsisting order in place.  SO is NCP and they share legal.  There is so much going on with my SO ex that we're torn as to what's best to do.  

She's moving into a 'shelter' of sorts for homless women and children.  She told SO that she'll only agree to turn the kids over to him if they have a date for her to get them back.  And she wants CS during the time we have them!  I'm going to suggest to SO to contact his attorney and get his advice on us getting an emergency hearing for custody (at least until BM has it together).  

There is NO need for those girls to live in a homeless shelter when their dad is close, has a place for them, and WANTS them.