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BM has SD going to therapy once a week with her and once a week by herself. Now she wants DH to take his daughter to therapy once a week with him. Therefore she would be going to therapy Monday with BM, Wednesday with DH and Thursday by herself every week. Isn't this a little excessive? SD is only 6 years old.

Well we went to court but BM never showed up. Apparently she was never officially served. She DID know about the hearing though. 3 different lawyers came to court saying she had contacted them within the last 2 days about this hearing. ANyway, the hearing was continued for December 6th.

we just found out the reason she might be representing herself...Her lawyer refuses to help her because he isn't getting paid. She has called at least 2 other lawyers today trying to get help. One called our lawyer and said he would NOT represent her because he knew he wouldn't get paid.

We're going to court today to try and find BM in contempt. She hasn't allowed DH visitation since April. We're both sooo nervous. BM is representing herself and she's somewhat intimidating. I hope DH can hold up okay.

Will DH have to take the stand? We're not real sure how this all works.

Hopefully this is a first step (probably small step) towards giving SD the relationship with DH and his family that she deserves...

Congratulations and good luck! I'm very happy for you!

I haven't had the chance to talk to you on here before but you are in my prayers....I am so sorry to hear this...

Me and my fiance' have found that even though we didn't want to involve the courts, and just work things out between his ex and us, it never works out. His ex says she will do everything she can to help maintain a relationship between my fiance' and his daughter, but every chance she gets, she goes back on her word and starts telling lies and keeps him from his daughter.

You need to take her to court and get visitation set up and in writing! Chances are she won't follow the court order (My fiance's ex doesn't) but document every thing and every time she disobey's it and take her back to court for contempt.

His daughter is actually really smart. She can write her name and can count and is above average when it comes to reading. BUT, she didn't start homeschooling her until this year. She's now in first grade. I'm afraid that all the progress she made in kindergarten will be lost now that she's at home. There just doesn't seem to be a way to effectively homeschool a child while running a daycare.

Thank you for all this advice. I don't know if any of you read my other post but my fiance' called the school and they said that his daughter was only enrolled for P.E and music and the rest of the time she was homeschooled. When they received his letter requesting his daughters info, the principle called his ex to ask her about it. She got really upset and said that "Maybe my daughter won't be going there anymore." THe next day, my fiance's daughter wasn't in school. The principle said he would try to contact my fiance's ex and ask her what was going on and then call my fiance and let him know. The principle said that even if he didn't get ahold of the ex, he would still call my fiance' to tell him anything he knew. So the school seems willing to cooperate with us, so that's good. We are going to try to meet with his daughters teachers and at least find out how she was doing prior to her mother pulling her out of school.

This whole situation keeps getting worse and worse...

My fiance's daughter is 6.

BM supposedly runs a daycare. She has a website and it says she will only take 6 full time kids and that she has full time openings. SO I'm assuming she doesn't have many enrolled in her daycare. But even if she does, how does this work? I don't see how she can homeschool her daughter and run a daycare.

And I was wondering if there was any way to find out her progress in her homeschooling. I will check with the district office and see if anyone can give me an advice on the matter.

The lengths some people go to is rediculous. She keeps saying that all this is in the best interest of their daughter. Taking her daughter out of her extra curricular activities in school,just to keep my fiance' further out of the picture, is definately not in the best interest of their daughter...

Thanks for the advice. I'll see what we can find...