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#1
Visitation Issues / RE: Need help with visitation
Oct 24, 2006, 07:31:46 PM
CS was already estabilshed and have been and still am paying CS on a monthly bases and the only time we hear from them is when they want more money and it hurts a lot when that happens.

As to the children deserve both of their parents and not jut one we are still working on that, but there issues that has come about becuase BM has shine a negative light on my H towards his children.  

Thanks!
#2
Visitation Issues / Need help with visitation
Oct 23, 2006, 06:59:24 PM
My H has three children from his prior marriage that he has not seen for about eight years due to his ex had cut all communication with him back in 2000 by moving a lot and changing her phone number. In 2004 we had a call from some collection agency looking for his ex and I had informed them that she had never resided here and that we have been looking for her since 2000. Just so happen they gave me her telephone number and since then he has constant communication with his children, but it has not been easy on my H and SC becuase he was not part of their lives since than. Speaking with his ex she had informed us that she had filed for divorce in the state she lives in, but faild to produce any documents. I in turn called every county in that state to verify and divorce decree and not to my surprised she had lied about filing for a divorce. We took matter into our on hands and filed in our state and he was granted the divorce stating physical custody with joint legal and visitation shall be only limited to her state of resideance. Knowing that, we had tried to have visitation in our state with my SC since 2004, but when the time comes near his ex makes up and excuse. We had filed for a post decree relief in our state regarding this situation in 2005 and they had both agree to a stip regading visitation in our state, but the paralegal whom was helping us out had stiffed us and now the judge didn't take any action in approving the stip and now he has nothing to enforce. We also tried to have them this christmas, but his ex has put my h in a negative light towards his children and now they do not want to visit him. In the state that she lives in they aknowledges common law marriage and she also had acquired proerty using her common married name during her marriage with my H. In the state she lives in everyone knows her as her common married name, but I feel that she commited polygamy. The lst my H seen his children was when they were ages 4, 3, and 1 years old. During this time he had suffered a great deal of emtional stress with not being able to see his children nor talk to them via telephone. I did get in contact with her now H ex wife and I've found out a lot of interesting information pertaining to my H's ex like she had forced my SC to call her than boyfriend "DAD", they got married in 2002 (But she was still legally married to my H during that time), she had aslo told her now H's family that my H had abandon his children (which that was another lie, because she had kicked him out in the middle of winter with no where to go, my H did not want his children out in the cold), etc... and for the past years the only time my H's children and his ex calls is when they want money or stuff from him other than that they do not call my H just chat. I did speak with my H's ex had she got me very upset when she had informed me that SC doesn't see my H as their dad and that they see their SD more as their dad. We just need some kind of advise on what to do.
#3
Father's Issues / Restricted Calling Card
Feb 04, 2008, 02:40:15 PM
I'm looking for a restricted calling card for my children to use so that they can get in touch with me, but the SPARC card is not available.  Where else can I get one that I can restrict numbers I allow on the card?
#4
Father's Issues / RE: I completly understand
Oct 24, 2006, 05:16:59 PM
I did find out about a decution from CS and since CO has jurisdiction over SC they do include the decution, but we still need a judgement in order for the deduction.  

As for increase that is a huge problem because BM has asked for three increases in SC.  The first time was because she could not seek employment due to her lups.  The second time was because she had fibromyalgia.  She did not even submit any medical proof regarding her so called disability.  

Your situation with your SD and your H is exactly what I'm going through with a lot of accusations from BM and yes it is very painful to hear it from SC as we are trying to deal with this situation too.

Best of luck to you too!
#5
Father's Issues / RE: I completly understand
Oct 24, 2006, 05:10:28 PM
That is so true!  We have been trying our best to work out a visitation schedule with his ex, but as always that never happens.  

This is what she has and still does.  The only time she calls, e-mails, and write to us is when she wants more money besides the monthly child support and now my SC are following in her foot steps and this hurts us a lot.  There were many occassions we had ask her if we could have my SC for their upcoming vacation and she had agreed to it, but when she gets what she wants it's forget us and the children.

I know that we have to take her to court, but it's all about finding the money to hire an attorney to represent my H.  

She is just one big "B"!!!!
#6
Father's Issues / RE: Wow!
Oct 24, 2006, 08:20:49 AM
Thanks!  As for a visitation schedule we have been trying to work this out with BM and not with the assistanisce of the courts; however, just looking at this situation I think it's about time to seek the assistance of the courts becuase BM is a known lair.  

The visitation schedule that we want is a long distance one becuase we live more than 3000 miles from SC and when my DH and BM came to an agreement regarding airfare costs BM was to pay half and now she is say that she should not be paying for the airfare costs and it should be DH's responsibility. I really feel that BM should help with airfare costs, but I'm open for suggestions.

Sorry about the huge one paragraph, but once I start typing away I just can't stop and I tend to just go on and on.
#7
Father's Issues / No visitation
Oct 23, 2006, 06:57:47 PM
My H has three children from his prior marriage that he has not seen for about eight years due to his ex had cut all communication with him back in 2000 by moving a lot and changing her phone number.  In 2004 we had a call from some collection agency looking for his ex and I had informed them that she had never resided here and that we have been looking for her since 2000.  Just so happen they gave me her telephone number and since then he has constant communication with his children, but it has not been easy on my H and SC becuase he was not part of their lives since than.  Speaking with his ex she had informed us that she had filed for divorce in the state she lives in, but faild to produce any documents.  I in turn called every county in that state to verify and divorce decree and not to my surprised she had lied about filing for a divorce.  We took matter into our on hands and filed in our state and he was granted the divorce stating physical custody with joint legal and visitation shall be only limited to her state of resideance.  Knowing that, we had tried to have visitation in  our state with my SC since 2004, but when the time comes near his ex makes up and excuse.  We had filed for a post decree relief in our state regarding this situation in 2005 and they had both agree to a stip regading visitation in our state, but the paralegal whom was helping us out had stiffed us and now the judge didn't take any action in approving the stip and now he has nothing to enforce.  We also tried to have them this christmas, but his ex has put my h in a negative light towards his children and now they do not want to visit him.  In the state that she lives in they aknowledges common law marriage and she also had acquired proerty using her common married name during her marriage with my H.  In the state she lives in everyone knows her as her common married name, but I feel that she commited polygamy.  The lst my H seen his children was when they were ages 4, 3, and 1 years old.  During this time he had suffered a great deal of emtional stress with not being able to see his children nor talk to them via telephone.  I did get in contact with her now H ex wife and I've found out a lot of interesting information pertaining to my H's ex like she had forced my SC to call her than boyfriend "DAD", they got married in 2002 (But she was still legally married to my H during that time),  she had aslo told her now H's family that my H had abandon his children (which that was another lie, because she had kicked him out in the middle of winter with no where to go, my H did not want his children out in the cold), etc... and for the past years the only time my H's children and his ex calls is when they want money or stuff from him other than that they do not call my H just chat.  I did speak with my H's ex had she got me very upset when she had informed me that SC doesn't see my H as their dad and that they see their SD more as their dad. We just need some kind of advise on what to do.
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