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#21
My sd can't even deal with high school (her mom pulled her out last year because she was flunking and all the other kids there hated the her because she was a $lut and just plain nasty) so I  can't imagine her even being able to get into any college and I'd say we'll have to fight it if she thinks we're paying after she turns 18.

It's crud that they can change the divorce papers after it's all said and done to make it easier for the bm to get more $$ in her pocket.
#22
Today sd turns 17 so we don't have a yearly count down to cs stopping we have a monthly! I'm so excited about this. The ex has not worked since the child was 4 and has lived on cs and her dh's pay plus the 10 grand that her grandma gives her every year (the women in her family just don't work...it's beneath them so grandma pays them so they can stay home,even after their kids are grown and don't need their mommy full time):o

I met dh when sd was almost 5 and have waited years to see the money that he earns finally come to him. It would be different if the ex at least tried to support herself and her family but when she's too good to work for her money then it's just plain bull!

So 365 days and we are done! :) I can't wait!
#23
We don't have to worry about sd needing support while she furthers her education. Her mom pulled her out of high school because she was flunking out and has home schooled her last year and this year she is too. Our only good thing is she can't home school her after she turns 18 and she will be 18 on Sept. 1st so next school year is out of the question.

If she wants more money she will have to send her to public school and at 18 I doubt that she will go back for any amount of $$. Even if mommy has a hissy fit.

#24
Child Support Issues / Anyone ever hear of this??
Aug 18, 2004, 08:37:03 PM
Sd turns 17 in two weeks and last year BM took us back for more support. When they modified it they told dh and Bm that half way through this year they will send each of them a letter and ask them when they think cs should end.

The divorce papers that we have state that it ends when sd turns 18 or graduates from high school. So as far as we say it will not go on any longer then her 18th birthday. Why do they think they need to ask? Why does bm have any choice in the matter? As far as she is concerned I'm sure she would want it to contine forever.

Can they really extend it any longer if the court ordered divorce papers state when it ends?
#25
Child Support Issues / How can this be?
Aug 06, 2004, 10:35:17 AM
I have a friend who's daughter is in a custody battle with her ex husband. This man is a real loser. He has four kids with four different mothers and pays no child support for ANY of them because he claims he does not work. (He was only ever married to this woman and that only lasted 3 months because he was seeing ANOTHER woman).

So at the last court date the court advocate said she thinks they want to give custody of the child to the father. I don't think it's a bad idea as the mom is odd but I think both parents are not good parents. I just wonder why they would take a man who is thousands of dollars behind in child support to 4 different children and not put his darned butt in jail.

If my dh were late (which he never ever has been) they would be on his butt like flies on poop! And that I know. So why can some men just walk away and pay nothing while others like us are paying more then we can ever afford and nobody seems to care? I guess the mother of the oldest child doesn't want child support because if he pays then she will have to give him visitation and she doesn't want him to have anything to do with the child.

The courts know where to find this guy,he is in the court house a lot fighting to get this child. Why is he allowed to just walk away from what his children are due?

Heck my dh's ex has not lifted a bleach blond,fake tanned finger in 14 years but she "showed a need" for more money last year and took us back to court....yeah like our kids are getting reduced lunches and wearing school clothes from the re-sale shop because we're rolling in the dough.

Sorry but this really REALLY makes me MAD. Our court systems really S*C*!
#26
Child Support Issues / RE: I had no idea...
Jun 11, 2004, 07:22:49 PM
I agree the system sucks and they don't care a darn about anything as long as they follow the paperwork.

Yeah if a person is under employeed they will give them an income. Dh's ex chooses not to work and lives off money her grandmother gives her each year (along with paying off her house) and what her current dh makes. And when she took us back for more cs (the courts said she proved that there was a need for more) they gave her min. wage as her income.

When dh asked about it they said we could contest it and the judge might not give her any imcome and we could pay more. When dh asked why they didn't tell her that if she could prove that she needed more money why not give her the option of getting off her butt and getting a job they told him if he can't afford his new family and old one maybe he could get another job!

Dh and I have five children together who wear hand me downs,get reduced lunches at school and live without but we work out butts off while this woman just goes to the courts and says she "needs" more money and they come knocking on our door.

One year and two months and all this crap will be behind us. Thank God!
#27
Believe me if you could do that we would have by now. Sd quit coming with us when she was 9 and dh never went against the ex as not to make things harder. At first we thought sd would get tired of being a spoiled brat and would come back but her mom has fed so much C**p to this kid that she doesn't even need us.

We too are just evil people but not too evil to send a big portion of our paycheck every week to these people. We are down to a year and 3 months before we can say "to h$ll" to the whole lot of them. If the child is 16 and can't see though her mama crap then we will never be able to get her back. It is sad and we have tried but you can only do so much. Too bad the courts who say we have to pay no matter what don't care about the relationship side and say the kids come no matter what. In Ohio the courts are all for the moms and the dads are just an open wallet waiting to be emptied. And that my dear is the cold hard truth. So grit your teeth and bare it and hope that one day this children will be relaseded from their moms evil grip and learn that dad loved them all along.

I swear these women should have never had kids if they never had the brains to raise them.
#28
My sd was pulled out of public school because she was flunking every subject but art and the ex is homeschooling her (the blind leading the blind) and the county superintended office said she has turned in nothing for homeschooling except for the order and most likely sd is just sitting on her butt at home.
     So with no school fees and so much less to pay for now sd can get a few more body piercings with our money (she got the 4 she has when she was 14).Lets face it we have no say in anything. Hand over the money and everything will be fine. Sounds like robbery to me.
#29
We live in Ohio and yes we did get credit for all five of our children when support was modified. We still pay big $$ to the ex while she sits on her butt and lives off everyone else.

A man should be allowed to move on and start a family and have as many children as he likes and they too need to be supported by thier father and mother. My dh married the ex because she was pregnant with sd and after two years the ex started having an affair. After three years they were divorced. We have been married 10 1/2 years and have a family for keeps. Our kids don't have many rights as far as the CSB thinks but we did get to take off the same amount that we do for exemptions on our federal taxes for each of our children.

Only a year and a half and we will be done paying for a child we never see (her mother is the grand wizzard of PAS) and our children will be allowed to live the lifestyle that sd has been accustomed to the last 16 years.
#30
My dh had modification last fall and they said next winter about 6 months before ds turns 18 they will send a paper to each parent asking when they think child support should stop. The divorce papers say "18 or graduates high school which ever comes last" and even though step daughter is homeschooled the county superintendent says once she is 18 they won't homeschool her so we will say on her 18th birthday we are done.

I agree that your dh (their sticklers about no issues being discussed with anyone but the bio parents) call and find out what he would need to do. Your not wrong for wanting your money. They don't mind getting the money for the moms as fast as possiable so when it's time that you get to keep the money for yourself then do it. You have paid your keep for this child.  

We have one year longer then you and I'm counting down the days. Then we can have the new cars and not the ex. We don't pay for our 5 kids what we pay for this one a week.