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I am soooo excited!! We have finally been able to get the correct dates for when DH's summer break from school is going to be and I will be making plane and hotel reservations and schedualing my tubal reversal surgery for July 8th!!

I can't wait for this to finally be done! I have regretted having the tubal ligation done since about a month after having it done, but never thought I would be able to have it reversed due to the cost.;(

DH and I found a doctor in Mexico that has been doing this for nearly 35 years and have not heard one bad thing about him in the 6 months that we have been researching him! :D

We decided to combine the trip for the surgery with a honeymoon since both of us have been married twice and never had one!! ;) We will be leaving on July 1st or 2nd and getting back on the 9th or 10th.

Please keep us in your prayers that nothing goes wrong and we are able to do this.

Thanks!!

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My husband and I both adopted each other's children with the consent of the other bio parent. It was as simple as going down to the local court house and telling them that you need the paperwork for a step parent adoption.

That was what we did. They handed us a packet of papers and asked if any of the kids were 12 or older, my daughter was, so we had to have another paper for her. We took everything to a notary, signed it, had it notorized and filed it at the court house and within 4 months, the adoptions were final.

It doesn't have to be a hard thing to do. Check out your court house and go from there.

Good luck!

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I am so glad to see you posting here again!! Could you email me privately please??

[email protected]

Talk to you soon!!

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It is nice to see a few familiar faces around here. It has been a really long time since I was here. Things have been going pretty smoothly for us the last few years and with work, and kids and life, I have not had much time to get on here.

However, I am back with a new situation. Some of you may remember that we gained custody of DH's youngest daughter back in 2000. Her BM was killed in a car accident in 2005. I adopted her in 2003 and DH had adopted my older kids a few months later, so things are smooth there other than normal teenager stuff. (They are 18, 15 in Dec. and 14 next week!!)

You may also remember that DH had an older daughter by another mother that also lived in MI, but we had no contact with her, due to the mother's family and the mom not wanting to make waves with her family. We had sent cards, letters, pictures, ect for years with no response. Then, back in 2005, things started to come back marked 'addressee unknown' or 'not at this address'. We figured that they had moved and searched on the internet, but could not find anything.

We basically decided to let it go for a while, SD was then almost 14 and we knew that eventually she was going to come looking for DH. Well, she did. In June this year, she attended a high school graduation for her cousin Maria and met about 15 members of DH's family. She then contacted me on Myspace and we have been chatting there and through text messages ever since. For the most part, her mom seems okay with it and is finally standing up to her family a bit and telling them to back off of DH and let DH and SD get to know each other. She is now engaged and will be married after SD graduates high school next year.

Last weekend the subject of her coming to visit us in NC came up. We told her that we would love to have her come down, but that there were some legal things that had to be worked out with her mom first. Namely the fact that DH has no legal claim to her because he and BM were no married at the time of SD's birth and his name is not on her BC.

We don't want her to get down here and something happen, she get hurt or whatever and we can't get her treated, or worse, have her family up there get a wild hair and have us arrested for kidnapping.

SD did some checking and found that all it would take to have her dad's name added to her BC is for him and her mom to sign an Affidavit of parentage in front of the notary and then filing that with another form to add DH to her BC with a $40 court fee. She got all excited and called us. We told her she needed to discuss it with her mom because DH and BM have not spoken in 15 years.

We also know that BM is about to lose her job and therefore lose her insurance. DH finally talked to her on the phone this week and told her that if she would agree to let him do this, he could add her to his insurance down here, UHC, and that we would be willing to pay CS.

BM told DH that she needed to think about it and then told SD to let it alone. I take that to mean No. SD is all upset and I am worried about letting her come down here to visit because I really don't trust her mom's family. Is there anyway to do this without forcing a huge court thing?

Sorry this is so long. Just frustrated.

Thanks!!

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Hey Rak! I am not on here much anymore either, but I do check in once in a while. Sorry to hear that you are sick, but I am glad to know that you are fighting it! We will keep you in our prayers.

Parker will be back in your life again, I am sure of it. My DH just got back one of his nieces after 10 years! She was old enough to remember what her family was really like and as soon as she was legally able, she came running back home. I am sure that Parker knows where to find you.

((((((HUGS))))))

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Don't know if you remember me, but I certainly remember you! WOW! I can hardly believe that your little one is nearly 4! Doesn't seem like that long ago that you announced you were preggy!

We are doing great! You may remeber that we finally got moved into a bigger house in 2002 and we are getting ready to move again! DH lost his job right after that move and we decided to take the leap and he went back to school. He graduated at the end of June and has taken a job in MI, so we are moving again!

We got news in June also that BM was killed in a car accident. In some ways I was sad that she never got her act together but, in some ways there was a lot of relief there too.

Former SD has been with us for 5 years this month and is doing great! My adoption of her has been final for 3 years this past March and she is going into the 5th grade next month! It is amazing to me how time flies! LOL

Glad to see you are doing okay, sorry your ex is not any better. Take care and kiss those kiddo's for all of us!

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I got a call from BM's mother yesterday telling me that BM had been in an accident in FL on Monday and was killed. She and BM's dad drove down there and I talked to her again today and she confirmed that it was indeed, BM.

DH and I are feeling a lot of different things about this. The main one is relief that we can stop looking over our shoulders now and right behind it, pity that BM was never able to overcome her demons and be able to be a positive influence in her daughter's life.

I adopted my former SD almost 3.5 years ago, so she has not seen or heard from BM in nearly 5 years, but we are still worried about how she is going to take this. You just never know with this one.

BM's parents are going to detour our way on their way back to MI this weekend though so they can see YDD.

Please keep this family in your prayers. They will need all of them that they can get.

Thanks,

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Yep, I am still here. I have been in Hampstead (off and on) since I was 7 years old! It is amazing how fast this place has grown! LOL

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Thanks for the good wishes!!

LOL Funny you should mention NHR Medical Center, I gave birth to 2 of my children there!! We live in Hampstead, just 20 minutes north of Wilmington.

LOL Actually, they are a teaching hospital, but due to Miller-Motte putting out 20-30 surg techs every 6 months now, the market is flooded with them and New Hanover is getting a little more picky. DH has already been turned down by them because he is not certified yet! :D

We have also put in at Greenville, Ashville, Morganton, Charlotte, Raleigh, Durham and Chapel Hill. Almost all of them want at least a year of experience though.

Thanks again!!

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Thanks Kitty!! We got two more calls this afternoon so he has personal interviews set up for Thursday and Friday!

I would love to be able to look into some private surg care places, but have yet to figure out how to find them on the web. Most of the sites we have looked at feature the hospitals and not much else. If you know where to look I would be greatful to know! :D

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