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I disagree with "SOME" of the post by mist and gemini.

"Maybe he needs to think of the millions of kids who wouldn't have food to eat or clothes to wear if child support laws couldn't be enforced."

i'm the custodial parent and my ex hasn't paid in 48 months and owes me around $50,000, I can't get a court date in 9 months and have spent $9000 trying to collect $50000. You say there are laws to collect and enforce, not if you are the man getting the support pmts.


"I think that the government is seeking to protect it's own interests in developing the child support laws, because guess who's clothing, housing, and feeding most of the ones who aren't getting support. The government. '

it's costing me a fortune to collect what my child is entitled to yet you know the rest of the story.

The system is against men who are either the custodial parent and agaisnt men who are the NCP.  

John J.

I agree and feel your pain. I've currently have spent $8000 to try to get my ex wife to pay her child support and she makes $87,000 a yr. I haven't even had a temporary orders hearing and it's been 7 months.

What was the reason you regained custody? what was the reason they removed the child from your ex?

I'm a custodial parent and from my experience the court cannot make your ex get a job, what they can do is impose ex to pay child support based on your ex spouse potential to earn income on what she made at one time. your ex can't avoid paying child support by not working. It sounds like your ex might be working. You might be able to get the attorney Generals office to trace her social security # to see if she is employed and if she is them i would file a motion to enforce. But one thing i've learned after having custody for 8 years (I'm the dad) is the court will get tired of having this in court. If you can deal with the BS I would just deal with it. Eventaully your ex will hurt themselves more and more. If you feel like you need to file a motion to enforce put in the language you want jail time if the ex doesn't comply.

I would however fight to the fullest for the sake of your kids. Believe it or not you have 6 yrs with one and 10 with the other child and that time will fly past.

How did you get custody in the original divorce proceedings?

what the age of the children and how long have you had custody?

when you were in court the 1st go around did the judge make a stipulation if the NCP didn't comply he would sentence the NCP or place fines on the NCP?

the reason i'm asking is i'm trying to get an understanding of how the judge made a ruling.

what are you claiming the NCP did in contempt? What was the last results of the previous contempt and what did the judge order?

Thanks for the reply,

my ex has my child for the summer and she will use her to try to influence me and harass me about the child support. However I won't go for it. It's amazing that becuase a parent files for child support the other parent counter files for custody. it's been a worry to be about the custody issue for months now, but 8 solid years and a good home "SHOULD" mean alot to the courts at least i hope. Custody is my biggest concern now that i opened up the can of worms.  

Posters

I've been fighting the court system it appears for now 7 strong months to get my ex-wife to pay child support that she hasn't paid in over 4 years. Each time we have it set for a hearing she files something to have it delayed or ask for a continuance, she asked for discovery which we complied, she filed a friviolus motion for contempt which was BS to say the least (it got thrown out of court).

Does anyone have any suggestions to at least get a temporary hearing? My atty has stated that we have to wait, but why do we have to wait on something she should be paying? My atty has advised me that if we get a temporary hearing, he thinks her atty will come forward and say, wait why do we need to pay child support we are now contesting custody.

this is what i have~
8 yrs of custody (Dad)
4 yrs of no child support
our child is a A&B student
our child excells in sports, art, music, reading
our child has great health
nice home in a upscale neighborhood.

why does it take 7 months I spend over $8000 so far on atty fees and haven't even had a temporary hearing to get her to pay child support???

how much longer will it take and any suggestions to get it to speed up?